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When is the last time you told a woman to "calm down"?

21 Hafage said:
thread is raising my blood pressure

im really glad i dont deal with none of that shit anymore
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I don't know any more about your relationships than what's been on here and the IC so I'm not gonna take this into the room that you and I know it could go in.

I'm happy you found someone that treats you right and vice versa.
 
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Whis Khalifa said:
... Because she gets paid to be respectful at work. Livelihood literally depends on employment.

Worst thing that could happen in a relationship is y'all break up.

You think most folks genuinely respect their bosses? If they could get away with yelling at them they would.
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Damn straight. My last boss had to tolerate be being a mouthy rude mf bastard cuz if I left he woulda been screeeeewed.
 
Whis Khalifa said:
... Because she gets paid to be respectful at work. Livelihood literally depends on employment.

Worst thing that could happen in a relationship is y'all break up.

You think most folks genuinely respect their bosses? If they could get away with yelling at them they would.
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Even if they don't respect their boss, they understand the importance of their job.

Supervisor = boyfriend/husband
Job = relationship/marriage

Alot of times even just a relationship could involve children, money, a car, and somebody having to move out. Breaking up is the easy part.
 
Whis Khalifa said:
... Because she gets paid to be respectful at work. Livelihood literally depends on employment.

Worst thing that could happen in a relationship is y'all break up.

You think most folks genuinely respect their bosses? If they could get away with yelling at them they would.
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Ok

Another way of saying it

There are consequences to actions

You won't yell at your supervisor because you can be reprimanded as a consequence

You keep yelling at a dude at every single sign of conflict and see if you won't be playing "not gon cry" on repeat
 
Fun fact also: you rewire your brain every time you resist getting mad and yelling. It's true even, I practiced that shit and still do.

It's the only way to test the veracity of something; if you can put it into practice and experience it for yourself.
 
Whis Khalifa said:
I don't know any more about your relationships than what's been on here and the IC so I'm not gonna take this into the room that you and I know it could go in.

I'm happy you found someone that treats you right and vice versa.
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im not even sure I know what you mean, but I'll take it

and we have disagreements, we aint perfect by any means.....we're just the same with that kinda shit.....we dont raise our voices, never took problems in public or online, no verbal attacking and the consequential defense in response, etc

I've had to leave the house 1 night out of 5 years....we just couldnt talk about it right then without getting mad and that was the best bet
 
Damn...I wanna keep going back n forth wit y'all but I got obligations rn. I'll be back on here tomorrow to finish yelling.

@21hafage black women are always generalized as being loud mouthed and too strong. It's the justification that's used when weaker black men say they date outside of their race.

I stated that doesn't apply to your situation because I know you've been thru some shit and your current relationship seems to be the best one for you regardless of race.

That's why I didn't take it there,fam. No offense intended.
 
Whis Khalifa said:
Damn...I wanna keep going back n forth wit y'all but I got obligations rn. I'll be back on here tomorrow to finish yelling.

@21hafage black women are always generalized as being loud mouthed and too strong. It's the justification that's used when weaker black men say they date outside of their race.

I stated that doesn't apply to your situation because I know you've been thru some shit and your current relationship seems to be the best one for you regardless of race.

That's why I didn't take it there,fam. No offense intended.
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Take your time

We'll be here lol
 
Bruh, I learned that..if you are with a woman. You really care about that woman to the point that her mental state in the relationship is important to you. The last thing you should tell her is to calm down. Cause then you invalidatin her feelings. Ain't but so much of that a woman gonna take, before the slightest validation of her feelings from another man. Turns him to her knight in shining armor. Even if he's an obviously ain't shit person, she blinded by the feelings u invalidated.
 
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Whis Khalifa said:
That sounds like either you're suppressing your actual emotions which will turn into becoming passive aggressive or you truly don't feel emotions that most people do which is a psychosis in itself.

Yelling is cathartic. Get them feelings out. Just don't put your hands on me is my only rule when arguing.
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Having self control and not letting your emotions make you irrational is much much different then supression

Two totally different things
 
PrecociousMorty said:
Bruh, I learned that..if you are with a woman. You really care about that woman to the point that her mental state in the relationship is important to you. The last thing you should tell her is to calm down. Cause then you invalidatin her feelings. Ain't but so much of that a woman gonna take, before the slightest validation of her feelings from another man. Turns him to her knight in shining armor. Even if he's an obviously ain't shit person, she blinded by the feelings u invalidated.
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No man, just no
 
Whis Khalifa said:
Damn...I wanna keep going back n forth wit y'all but I got obligations rn. I'll be back on here tomorrow to finish yelling.

@21hafage black women are always generalized as being loud mouthed and too strong. It's the justification that's used when weaker black men say they date outside of their race.

I stated that doesn't apply to your situation because I know you've been thru some shit and your current relationship seems to be the best one for you regardless of race.

That's why I didn't take it there,fam. No offense intended.
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got it....yeah, not what I was thinking about at all lol

I've seen and heard all that and wont dispute how the next man feels about it at all

I wouldnt deal with a loud confrontational woman of any race at this point in life tho
 
Lunch nigga stay winning cause he listens, he ain't illa than u, better looking, got more money, more swag. That nigga just listen better than u do.
 
AP21 said:
I'm saying brah, you can do that without the yelling. That has been my point from jump
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She yelling cause you already conditioned her that she won't be heard, cause u ain't heard her before. So she yellin, but what she really doing is speaking louder in hopes it forces you to stay silent and hear what she gotta say.

U or other people in her life before u
 
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