When is the last time you told a woman to "calm down"?

[Whis Khalifa]

I see where this is headed and it wasn't even my intention.

It's easy to talk about being emotional, expressive, and cathartic experiences when you know you can't physically beat the crap out of the person you're yelling at.

Why do you think men don't yell at each other? Because once we cross that line of yelling, violence is only a matter of time.

That's why a man who is not interested in an escalating a conflict will tell a woman to calm down, because the more she yells, the more inclined she'll feel to get in his face, poke/grab/shove him. And the moment he begins to match her "emotion", he's the monster/abuser and she's the victim.

That's the caliber of women you dealing with?
If she's the type to get physical in an argument then telling her to calm down definitely won't work, lol

And if you're the type to get physical cause you can't handle a verbal disagreement (man or woman) that speaks to your character.

You shouldn't hold your tongue for anyone.

Yell back or walk off. That ain't hard.

this is what all the dudes are in here saying tho Whis

No, they are telling women to calm down, not leading by example.

 

[Soul_Rattler]

well these new niggas latest death wish is to invite other men to their man parts, but that's another thread for another day

That's old jail shit, word to DMX.

You never will hear a man say "suck my dick" in a non aggressive tone unless he's literally gay.

 

[Whis Khalifa]

There ain't an animal in nature that doesn't raise its volume without getting ready for action.

Y'all taking social cues from rattlesnakes n shit y'all got it, lol

 

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[rip.dilla]

Do y’all really what your SO to “breathe and think”

All she gon do is think about some shit that has no barring on what y’all talking about and inject that shit in the convo and make it worse.



And you gon be there saying “why you bringing up old shit”

'bearing'

 

[Soul_Rattler]

That's the caliber of women you dealing with?
If she's the type to get physical in an argument then telling her to calm down definitely won't work, lol

And if you're the type to get physical cause you can't handle a verbal disagreement (man or woman) that speaks to your character.

You shouldn't hold your tongue for anyone.

Yell back or walk off. That ain't hard.


No, they are telling women to calm down, not leading by example.

You don't have to "not all" me. I know every woman doesn't get physical. What I'm saying is, what's understood won't be explained in the heat of the moment.

You wouldn't tolerate a child yelling at you because you understand that that child is only yelling at you because they can't impose themselves on an adult.

"Calm down" doesn't mean "shut up and stop talking". It means deescalate the conflict so an amicable compromise can be reached.

 

[AP3.0]

No, they are telling women to calm down, not leading by example.

i feel like we're talking past each other right now lol

im leading by example by choosing to not engage with her while she's yelling

I'm asking her to calm down so that it takes the aggression out of the interaction

im not disregarding her feelings by telling her to relax, but i am telling her she not about to sit here and think this is acceptable behavior

another thing i've asked was "would you talk to your supervisor like this if they upset you?"

that usually quiets things down for a min or two b/c she know good and got damn well, unless she already got a job lined up, she not gonna do that shit...and you NOT in a relationship with them, so what make you think just b/c we in one, you gonna talk to me with that tone

 

[Soul_Rattler]

Y'all taking social cues from rattlesnakes n shit y'all got it, lol

I think you should calm down. You're being a bit irrational now.











Now tell me that didn't irk you.

 

[Dwayne]

'bearing'

Thank you

 

[Whis Khalifa]

I think you should calm down. You're being a bit irrational now.











Now tell me that didn't irk you.

Lol you tryna calm me down is like punching water, I'm already there fam.

I start typing in all caps then you got to me.

 

[Whis Khalifa]

i feel like we're talking past each other right now lol

im leading by example by choosing to not engage with her while she's yelling

I'm asking her to calm down so that it takes the aggression out of the interaction

im not disregarding her feelings by telling her to relax, but i am telling her she not about to sit here and think this is acceptable behavior

another thing i've asked was "would you talk to your supervisor like this if they upset you?"

that usually quiets things down for a min or two b/c she know good and got damn well, unless she already got a job lined up, she not gonna do that shit...and you NOT in a relationship with them, so what make you think just b/c we in one, you gonna talk to me with that tone

Lol would I talk to my supervisor that way?!

You say that to women you dealing with?

Lmao you almost triggered me, good job.

 

[Loquacious]

fine, just dont try to have a convo while you emotional

 

[Soul_Rattler]

@AP21 you got em on the ropes. Go for the K.O.

 

[AP3.0]

Lol would I talk to my supervisor that way?!

You say that to women you dealing with?

Lmao you almost triggered me, good job.

i do...lol

its all relative

 

[B_A]

That sounds like either you're suppressing your actual emotions which will turn into becoming passive aggressive or you truly don't feel emotions that most people do which is a psychosis in itself.

Yelling is cathartic. Get them feelings out. Just don't put your hands on me is my only rule when arguing.

Idek how someone remain calm if someone yellin at them. You raise your voice to me ITS ON like donkey kong!

 

[Chicity]

another thing i've asked was "would you talk to your supervisor like this if they upset you?"

that usually quiets things down for a min or two b/c she know good and got damn well, unless she already got a job lined up, she not gonna do that shit...and you NOT in a relationship with them, so what make you think just b/c we in one, you gonna talk to me with that tone

Lol so home is like ya second job?

 

[AP3.0]

Lol so home is like ya second job?

That's not my point

My point is you respect your supervisor so much so that you're going to be very careful how you express your dissatisfaction.

You not just gonna go in there yelling to the top of your lungs

So if they can get at least that respect from you, why can't your partner

 

[1/2]

thread is raising my blood pressure

im really glad i dont deal with none of that shit anymore

 

[B_A]

I grew up in a house where arguing and yelling were imperative to survival. Whoever could yell the loudest won. Shit was fucking terrible cuz deep down I don like conflict, I yurn for peace and to "make things happy" and smooth. So when my mom passed it was like finally this shit can stop.

Now adays I'm mellow af and I wont tolerate being yelled at like a child.

 

[Whis Khalifa]

That's not my point

My point is you respect your supervisor so much so that you're going to be very careful how you express your dissatisfaction.

You not just gonna go in there yelling to the top of your lungs

So if they can get at least that respect from you, why can't your partner

... Because she gets paid to be respectful at work. Livelihood literally depends on employment.

Worst thing that could happen in a relationship is y'all break up.

You think most folks genuinely respect their bosses? If they could get away with yelling at them they would.