ehhh
i wouldnt say im suppressing anything, I just know its counterproductive for BOTH people to be yelling at each other b/c it starts out as trying to voice your pov then it turns into you defending yourself b/c you feel attacked
When is the last time you told a woman to "calm down"?
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ehhh
i wouldnt say im suppressing anything, I just know its counterproductive for BOTH people to be yelling at each other b/c it starts out as trying to voice your pov then it turns into you defending yourself b/c you feel attacked
Then stay away from each other until y'all cool down enough to talk without trying to control her emotions.
If you happy about something, nobody can walk up to you and be like, 'stop being happy nigga!’
You gonna keep smiling anyways cause that's how you feel.
Same thing with anger.
Herbal Kint
The devil is in the details
Basically this.
I'm down to have whatever conversation is necessary, but I'm not getting yelled at or disrespected. If we're not gonna discuss something in a grown and mature matter, then I guess it's time for some f*ck sh*t
i dont think those two reactions are even remotely the same
im not telling you not to be angry/upset...im telling you, you're not gonna be sitting here yelling at me
and my attempts to tell them "ok, how about we just cool down and talk about this later" almost ALWAYS turned into "YOU JUST DONT WANNA TALK ABOUT ANYTHING WHEN I WANT TO, IT'S ALWAYS WHEN YOU'RE READY AND ON YOUR TIME"
you know what?? I aint gotta take this shit
Maywood
FACTS
Let me be emotional, I’ll calm down on my own.
This is in no way meant to insult you personally,but if you can't handle dealing with a strong willed woman that speaks loudly when she's passionate about something then you need to deal with a different type of woman.
fine, just dont try to have a convo while you emotional
speaking passionate about something =\ yelling because you are upset about the subject at hand
GNS
OG
Lol yep
Bald head black nigga and your wife got nice breasts and nice thighs
I already told y'all this bout my knowledge on the ic
Soul_Rattler
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I see where this is headed and it wasn't even my intention.
It's easy to talk about being emotional, expressive, and cathartic experiences when you know you can't physically beat the crap out of the person you're yelling at.
Why do you think men don't yell at each other? Because once we cross that line of yelling, violence is only a matter of time.
That's why a man who is not interested in an escalating a conflict will tell a woman to calm down, because the more she yells, the more inclined she'll feel to get in his face, poke/grab/shove him. And the moment he begins to match her "emotion", he's the monster/abuser and she's the victim.
It's easy to talk about being emotional, expressive, and cathartic experiences when you know you can't physically beat the crap out of the person you're yelling at.
Why do you think men don't yell at each other? Because once we cross that line of yelling, violence is only a matter of time.
That's why a man who is not interested in an escalating a conflict will tell a woman to calm down, because the more she yells, the more inclined she'll feel to get in his face, poke/grab/shove him. And the moment he begins to match her "emotion", he's the monster/abuser and she's the victim.
It's exactly the same. The anger is typically rooted in an opinion that one person deems important to themselves aka is passionate about.
I've done customer service for years, jo...I know how to listen through the yelling to find the root of the problem. And it's always best to let the customer vent, give them a long pause after they finish yelling, then continue in a volume that sets the tone for the rest of the discussion. Don't match their energy, make them match yours.
And if that can't be done, then hang up. Nobody is saying continue to subject yourself to what you consider verbal abuse.
GNS
OG
You safe bloodoh word?
Nothing but love especially for wifey and d.r.
Soul_Rattler
Active Member
I see where you're coming from.
I did customer service for years too. Not over the phone, but in person. Hanging up isn't an option. If a customer doesn't lower their voice or stop cussing when told to, they can be kicked out and/or possibly sued for disrupting the flow of business.
Why? Because yelling rarely ever stops at yelling. Eventually, somebody feels threatened.
this is what all the dudes are in here saying tho Whis
Dwayne
Not Like Us
This must be some shit men are born with because I never noticed this and it’s so true.
Soul_Rattler
Active Member
There ain't an animal in nature that doesn't raise its volume without getting ready for action.
well these new niggas latest death wish is to invite other men to their man parts, but that's another thread for another day