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When is the last time you told a woman to "calm down"?

Whis Khalifa said:
Why do y'all think it's y'all job to tell a woman to control her emotions?

There's no empathy in 'calm down' it sounds like an order you give a dog.

If you don't like what I'm saying then walk away from the argument/discussion. But expressing emotion is one of the best parts of the human experience and I will not be deprived or subdued upon command.
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Respectfully,I didn't see it from that perspective, Whis, and can definitely understand your reasoning.

I am coming from a place where I am my Woman's voice of Reason, and can see the bigger picture , when her view is temporarily obstructed. Just doing one of my duties as her Man.
 
Ghost313 said:
Respectfully,I didn't see it from that perspective, Whis, and can definitely understand your reasoning.

I am coming from a place where I am my Woman's voice of Reason, and can see the bigger picture , when her view is temporarily obstructed. Just doing one of my duties as her Man.
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As long as there is communication I see nothing wrong with what you're saying.

My point was more towards men who use calm down in place of shut up.
 
Whis Khalifa said:
Why do y'all think it's y'all job to tell a woman to control her emotions?

There's no empathy in 'calm down' it sounds like an order you give a dog.

If you don't like what I'm saying then walk away from the argument/discussion. But expressing emotion is one of the best parts of the human experience and I will not be deprived or subdued upon command.
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This is one of my issues in a relationship.

If I like a girl, I love getting under her skin and unless its a real important argument and im legit pissed off, ill wait till the end and say something that'll piss her off even more. Once she reacts, im laughing obnoxiously, and forcefully try to hug her.

Early in the relationship it works, later on though the girl might swing. Smh.
 
One chick sent me a random text say "so fuck me is what you saying?"

I responded, "No not at all"

Her, "nah you must be saying fuck me"

"You seem confrontational. Maybe we should speak later"

"Fuck all that. What's your location I'm pulling up"


Later on...


"But you were using confrontational language"

"Just because I'm a black woman doesn't mean I'm being confrontational or hysterical blah blahblah"
 
If you tell me to “calm down,” “chill out,” “relax”, or any phrase that’s close to it:
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Last Friday.

This hefa about to get upset over something out of the body shop's hands.
 
If I say it...its to keep things from escalating unnecessarily. Especially if is something that can easily be avoided.
 
AZTG said:
This is one of my issues in a relationship.

If I like a girl, I love getting under her skin and unless its a real important argument and im legit pissed off, ill wait till the end and say something that'll piss her off even more. Once she reacts, im laughing obnoxiously, and forcefully try to hug her.

Early in the relationship it works, later on though the girl might swing. Smh.
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All facts
Went through that recently, bitch wanna argue over everything but to me it's all some silly shit.

That was then tho
Right now i be like
Bitch calm your tits and gtfo my face....
She knows her place


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Whis Khalifa said:
Why do y'all think it's y'all job to tell a woman to control her emotions?

There's no empathy in 'calm down' it sounds like an order you give a dog.

If you don't like what I'm saying then walk away from the argument/discussion. But expressing emotion is one of the best parts of the human experience and I will not be deprived or subdued upon command.
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well, its a matter of respect

we not gonna get anywhere with you yelling trying to prove a point when i can hear you just fine standing/sitting in close proximity to you

so, yea...relax b/c you need to be able to properly and effectively voice your pov w/o the yelling

"i'm not yelling, why are you"

its the same thing with cops screaming and yelling telling someone to obey a command. They set the aggressive tone, so naturally, i have to match their intensity
 
I am a horrible person to have an argument with.

I am constantly grateful and in awe that we made it this far....

:whew:
 
AP21 said:
well, its a matter of respect

we not gonna get anywhere with you yelling trying to prove a point when i can hear you just fine standing/sitting in close proximity to you

so, yea...relax b/c you need to be able to properly and effectively voice your pov w/o the yelling

"i'm not yelling, why are you"

its the same thing with cops screaming and yelling telling someone to obey a command. They set the aggressive tone, so naturally, i have to match their intensity
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That sounds like either you're suppressing your actual emotions which will turn into becoming passive aggressive or you truly don't feel emotions that most people do which is a psychosis in itself.

Yelling is cathartic. Get them feelings out. Just don't put your hands on me is my only rule when arguing.
 
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