When is the last time you told a woman to "calm down"?

[Mister]

This probably won't work for most but I like to tell them to "Balm down". It brings a little levity before things can get too heated.

Yelling is not an acceptable form of communication between adults. If you can't communicate without yelling, you need to get yourself under control before addressing the situation.

 

[DOS_patos]

@Ghost313

yea bruh....you got a good one...cuz uh.....shit aint work well for me. added another 2 hours to my already long fight.
this is one of those times.....bieng me worked out better but aye.......

 

[Ghost313]

@Ghost313

yea bruh....you got a good one...cuz uh.....shit aint work well for me. added another 2 hours to my already long fight.
this is one of those times.....bieng me worked out better but aye.......

Damn Fam. I hate that it went left for you. My girl is extremely bullish, so when it helped her, I was astonished.

 

[DOS_patos]

Damn Fam. I hate that it went left for you. My girl is extremely bullish, so when it helped her, I was astonished.

yea...see my wife talks shit just as good as me......i cut deep and she cuts deep when we get angry.

so when she was saying dumb shit....i hit her with the "hole up, breathe and think about that dumb shit you just said."
she gave me the tilted head" oh this nigga wanna play" look.
she hit back with the " did you think when you was fucking them aint shit baby mother bitches?"

nigga had to regroup

 

[Lea]

yea...see my wife talks shit just as good as me......i cut deep and she cuts deep when we get angry.

so when she was saying dumb shit....i hit her with the "hole up, breathe and think about that dumb shit you just said."
she gave me the tilted head" oh this nigga wanna play" look.
she hit back with the " did you think when you was fucking them aint shit baby mother bitches?"

nigga had to regroup

lol... I think it might have been your ad libs that effed it up

 

[Herbal Kint]

yea...see my wife talks shit just as good as me......i cut deep and she cuts deep when we get angry.

so when she was saying dumb shit....i hit her with the "hole up, breathe and think about that dumb shit you just said."
she gave me the tilted head" oh this nigga wanna play" look.
she hit back with the " did you think when you was fucking them aint shit baby mother bitches?"

Cracka had to regroup

Smh

 

[Ghost313]

yea...see my wife talks shit just as good as me......i cut deep and she cuts deep when we get angry.

so when she was saying dumb shit....i hit her with the "hole up, breathe and think about that dumb shit you just said."
she gave me the tilted head" oh this nigga wanna play" look.
she hit back with the " did you think when you was fucking them aint shit baby mother bitches?"

nigga had to regroup

Nigga, with the context around it, you were trying to get her mad at you.

 

[Whis Khalifa]

Imo, when wild accusations, cheap shots and unreasonability* has started flying.

If I bring up his Mama's lazy eye then I know I took it too far

This scenario is a false equivalence.... There is a difference between taking shit from a customer which is someone you don't know for the sake of business purposes and taking shit from someone who is supposed to love and respect you... I care enough about your feelings not to yell over you or try to be the dominant one in the conversation... If I do that shit... I'm an asshole....if she does it, she is "strong-willed"

Seems legit...

No you're both strong willed assholes at the time of arguing hence the argument. But if you not the confrontational/loud type then why did you choose a woman who is?

If you really love someone you have already decided to put up with their shit. I mean you're in love, your already there. How you call yourself loving her if you can't handle her at her worst and vice versa?

Y'all gonna take each other's shit until you can't no more just like y'all gonna love each other until you can't no more.

 

[Soul_Rattler]

How you call yourself loving her if you can't handle her at her worst and vice versa?

But if you know you're at your worst, why would you...

I see where this is going. Funny how men don't get to use this line ever.

 

[Whis Khalifa]

But if you know you're at your worst, why would you...

I see where this is going. Funny how men don't get to use this line ever.

Please finish that thought

And y'all definitely should use the line that's why I said vice versa

 

[TheMadLionsFan]

If I bring up his Mama's lazy eye then I know I took it too far

No you're both strong willed assholes at the time of arguing hence the argument. But if you not the confrontational/loud type then why did you choose a woman who is?

If you really love someone you have already decided to put up with their shit. I mean you're in love, your already there. How you call yourself loving her if you can't handle her at her worst and vice versa?

Y'all gonna take each other's shit until you can't no more just like y'all gonna love each other until you can't no more.

What the fuck.....

This makes no sense....

 

[Whis Khalifa]

What the fuck.....

This makes no sense....

I'll be happy to explain, what doesn't make sense?

 

[Soul_Rattler]

Please finish that thought

And y'all definitely should use the line that's why I said vice versa

A man at his absolute worst would violate a woman and take from her what she does not want to give.

No woman should endure a man at his worst because a man should exercise self control to refrain from reaching his worst.

So why should a woman, knowing she's at her worst, continue to be at her worst, unless she doesn't fear retaliation or consequence?

 

[Whis Khalifa]

A man at his absolute worst would violate a woman and take from her what she does not want to give.

No woman should endure a man at his worst because a man should exercise self control to refrain from reaching his worst.

So why should a woman, knowing she's at her worst, continue to be at her worst, unless she doesn't fear retaliation or consequence?

That is not the nature of all men, stop owning that unhealthy masculinity.

Y'all all savage rapists ready to beat and kill when pissed off? Everyday is just a struggle to contain that shit?

Word??

You missing the point of what I was saying.

Nobody is saying stick around for anything that you can't handle or endure from another person. I'm not suggesting letting her she-hulk all over you and treat you however. That's clearly abuse.

What I'm saying is that people rush into saying I love you meanwhile you don't even know if she's the type to pour hot grits on you in a fight or not.

If you really in love you've met the worst level that person has reached in an argument and you decided it was an acceptable level. Based on your level of comfort.

 

[AP3.0]

A man at his absolute worst would violate a woman and take from her what she does not want to give.

No woman should endure a man at his worst because a man should exercise self control to refrain from reaching his worst.

So why should a woman, knowing she's at her worst, continue to be at her worst, unless she doesn't fear retaliation or consequence?

you in here spitting some hot fire, but when this convo over, management would like to speak with you about your avi

good day sir

 

[Black_Samson]

Seems like every day.

Most times yes.

Other times she'll play like she dont know what i'm talking about while blowing up the entire gotdamn weekend.

 

[1/2]

Seems like every day.

Most times yes.

Other times she'll play like she dont know what i'm talking about while blowing up the entire gotdamn weekend.

 

[Soul_Rattler]

That is not the nature of all men, stop owning that unhealthy masculinity.

Y'all all savage rapists ready to beat and kill when pissed off? Everyday is just a struggle to contain that shit?

Word??

You missing the point of what I was saying.

Nobody is saying stick around for anything that you can't handle or endure from another person. I'm not suggesting letting her she-hulk all over you and treat you however. That's clearly abuse.

What I'm saying is that people rush into saying I love you meanwhile you don't even know if she's the type to pour hot grits on you in a fight or not.

If you really in love you've met the worst level that person has reached in an argument and you decided it was an acceptable level. Based on your level of comfort.

I'm not talking about what you're naturally inclined to do, I'm talking about what you're capable of should the perceived necessity arise.

"I'm not a killer. Neither are you. But each and every one of us would become a killer instantaneously to protect what we love." - Louis Farrakhan

That's not unhealthy masculinity. That is human capacity.

Now, it sounds like you don't consider emotional yelling to be abuse. I suggest it's close enough to abuse that it's better off to not do it to your own lover.

you in here spitting some hot fire, but when this convo over, management would like to speak with you about your avi

good day sir

Lol fair. I been flying this flag since 02.

 

[AP3.0]

let her go b...she gone

 

[Whis Khalifa]

Yeah I grew up in a house where getting yelled at was considered getting off easy.

And I understand the capacity of man when pushed to life or death situations. I'm just saying arguing with your woman shouldn't trigger that instinct. Even if she's yelling.

And don't tell me what to do, imma go yell at my nigga right now just cause you told me not to.

@Soul_Rattler