Black_Samson
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Very logical and well thought out argument.
I look forward to a response that reciprocates the energy.
Very logical and well thought out argument.
Given that the vast majority of black folks still date and marry other black folks when speaking in terms of domestic violence stats then it's clear that black men will be the "leading cause" of anything negative that happens to black women when speaking within that context. That doesn't mean that domestic violence isn't a serious issue that needs to continuously be addressed or that the ways in which we reinforce certain traits and qualities that can lead to the mistreatment of black women don't need to be addressed. However, it's pretty much like saying "Black parents abuse black children more than others"...it's an obvious point that does nothing but reinforce a negative stereotype of black men that we fight against daily so yeah you're going to get some push back from other men who simply are tired of being painted with the same broad brush from the world and it will always sting more coming from a black woman. That doesn't excuse those over the top reactions, but it gives them some context as to where they come from and what they're rooted in.
I got an interesting question for y'all, based on ^^^^^^this comment:
Do you identify more with your race or your gender?
i think your reasons for why someone may feel some kind of way are limited...the claim is correct. tbh i dont care how it may look to the outside world or if ppl are hurt because of the generalization. (its no longer becomes a generalization for me when about 22 percent of Black women in the us have experienced rape. 40% experience intimate partner violence in their lifetime and we are more likely to be killed at higher rates than any other group of women and these are only those that report abuse because many BW never speak about their lived experiences. we have a code of silence in a lot of homes and communities) Fact is DV/IPV is a common theme in our communities. the statistics are alarming and thats just what it is.
I really dont have time to coddle mens egos or step out of the work that needs to be done to say “well not all Black men” :ualreadyknow: what does that do for me? or you? or those that dont like what im saying?
we know not all Black men are abusers and if you know youre not someone that harms women, why is the conversation so hard for you to have?
ill tell you why 1. youre a race first weirdo that rather spend your time absolving BM/BW of wrongdoing because it fits your lopsided narrative thus rendering you useless
or 2. you have harmed a woman whether consciously or unconsciously and dont wish to unpack that in fear of looking like a “monster”
what else could it be? niggas are worried about generalizations and optics when they should be more focused on curbing the narrative and holding themselves and those around them accountable.
I dont fragmentize my identities
Lol where we going w this?I got an interesting question for y'all, based on ^^^^^^this comment:
Do you identify more with your race or your gender?
Lol where we going w this?
depends on the situation tbh
idk if im gonna give you an answer you're looking for
but when im among non blacks, i identify as black first
when im among blacks, i identify as my gender
it is what it isLMAO at even having to do that
That was already debunked but you got it...the claim is correct. tbh i dont care how it may look to the outside world or if ppl are hurt because of the generalization. (its no longer becomes a generalization for me when about 22 percent of Black women in the us have experienced rape. 40% experience intimate partner violence in their lifetime and we are more likely to be killed at higher rates than any other group of women and these are only those that report abuse because many BW never speak about their lived experiences. we have a code of silence in a lot of homes and communities) Fact is DV/IPV is a common theme in our communities. the statistics are alarming and thats just what it is.
I really dont have time to coddle mens egos or step out of the work that needs to be done to say “well not all Black men” :ualreadyknow: what does that do for me? or you? or those that dont like what im saying?
we know not all Black men are abusers and if you know youre not someone that harms women, why is the conversation so hard for you to have?
ill tell you why 1. youre a race first weirdo that rather spend your time absolving BM/BW of wrongdoing because it fits your lopsided narrative thus rendering you useless
or 2. you have harmed a woman whether consciously or unconsciously and dont wish to unpack that in fear of looking like a “monster”
what else could it be? niggas are worried about generalizations and optics when they should be more focused on curbing the narrative and holding themselves and those around them accountable.
@Thor,
its hard to explain...when im refereeing and some idiot coach try to get buck. I tell him quick, "say brah, dont let these stripes get it twisted, I'ma man before I'm a ref...you not gon sit here and be with the antics all day and think im not gon say something to you about it"
if i ever feel like i was being disrespected by a sig other, i would tell her that I'm a man and I aint on that shit, but its already understood I'm black soooo...well i guess its understood im a man too...idk idk
but if we talking about a discussion where you have certain groups of people, I think identifying as black gets the discussion along further than identifying as a man. We as a whole, both men and women are treated unfair at a much larger proportion than non blacks. So, first, I want shit to be good for my people that look like me, then we can start breaking shit down by gender
This ap@Thor,
its hard to explain...when im refereeing and some idiot coach try to get buck. I tell him quick, "say brah, dont let these stripes get it twisted, I'ma man before I'm a ref...you not gon sit here and be with the antics all day and think im not gon say something to you about it"
if i ever feel like i was being disrespected by a sig other, i would tell her that I'm a man and I aint on that shit, but its already understood I'm black soooo...well i guess its understood im a man too...idk idk
but if we talking about a discussion where you have certain groups of people, I think identifying as black gets the discussion along further than identifying as a man. We as a whole, both men and women are treated unfair at a much larger proportion than non blacks. So, first, I want shit to be good for my people that look like me, then we can start breaking shit down by gender
This ap
I yam a maaan