DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
Still being a bully ass mod?wasn't you supposed to be logging off for the day?
I mean, i can help you with that if you forgot how to
I can't sleep so here the f I am.
Pink punk
Still being a bully ass mod?wasn't you supposed to be logging off for the day?
I mean, i can help you with that if you forgot how to
Still being a bully ass mod?
I can't sleep so here the f I am.
Pink punk
Smdhif it wasnt me, it would be someone else
what excuse you gon come up for why you cant sleep?
who trying to pop you in Switzerland this week?
I bleach wiped the whole apartment already.aye real spill
be careful out there fam
the claim is correct. tbh i dont care how it may look to the outside world or if ppl are hurt because of the generalization. (its no longer becomes a generalization for me when about 22 percent of Black women in the us have experienced rape. 40% experience intimate partner violence in their lifetime and we are more likely to be killed at higher rates than any other group of women and these are only those that report abuse because many BW never speak about their lived experiences. we have a code of silence in a lot of homes and communities) Fact is DV/IPV is a common theme in our communities. the statistics are alarming and thats just what it is.
I really dont have time to coddle mens egos or step out of the work that needs to be done to say “well not all Black men” :ualreadyknow: what does that do for me? or you? or those that dont like what im saying?
we know not all Black men are abusers and if you know youre not someone that harms women, why is the conversation so hard for you to have?
ill tell you why 1. youre a race first weirdo that rather spend your time absolving BM/BW of wrongdoing because it fits your lopsided narrative thus rendering you useless
or 2. you have harmed a woman whether consciously or unconsciously and dont wish to unpack that in fear of looking like a “monster”
what else could it be? niggas are worried about generalizations and optics when they should be more focused on curbing the narrative and holding themselves and those around them accountable.
The statistics say that Black women are about 4 times likely to die by their own hand than by a domestic partner. The stats say that Black women are nearly as likely to die in a body of water than by a domestic partner. The stats also say that Black women are terrible drivers and are about three times as likely to die in a car crash than by a domestic partner.
Context, Race, is what you're lacking. Without it the claim is misleading, if not an outright lie.
the claim is correct. tbh i dont care how it may look to the outside world or if ppl are hurt because of the generalization. (its no longer becomes a generalization for me when about 22 percent of Black women in the us have experienced rape. 40% experience intimate partner violence in their lifetime and we are more likely to be killed at higher rates than any other group of women and these are only those that report abuse because many BW never speak about their lived experiences. we have a code of silence in a lot of homes and communities) Fact is DV/IPV is a common theme in our communities. the statistics are alarming and thats just what it is.
I really dont have time to coddle mens egos or step out of the work that needs to be done to say “well not all Black men” :ualreadyknow: what does that do for me? or you? or those that dont like what im saying?
we know not all Black men are abusers and if you know youre not someone that harms women, why is the conversation so hard for you to have?
ill tell you why 1. youre a race first weirdo that rather spend your time absolving BM/BW of wrongdoing because it fits your lopsided narrative thus rendering you useless
or 2. you have harmed a woman whether consciously or unconsciously and dont wish to unpack that in fear of looking like a “monster”
what else could it be? niggas are worried about generalizations and optics when they should be more focused on curbing the narrative and holding themselves and those around them accountable.
Well for one it would stop the conflating of an issue and lead to better clarity on just what it exactly is you're attacking. It's not about coddling egos it's about making sure the message you're trying to deliver actually gets delivered. You're so caught up in "I'm going to say what I want and nobody will stop me" that you're not even considering what the best way to present your actual message is. Now maybe if you take into account that you actually need to present information in a way that's appealing to the listener instead of "I'm not going to let a man tell me how to talk" you would get alot further with shit. That's a trait of a good communicator which many of your ilk seem to lack. The conversation isn't hard for me, or alot of other men I know because we actually do talk about this shit when it's relevant to a topic, to have. The problem is that the people you want this message to reach simply do not give a single flying fuck about it. The vast majority of men do not abuse women because we inherently know it's wrong. You don't really need to be told it's not to ok to be abusive to somebody. You just kinda know the shit is foul. It doesn't sit right with your spirit.
However, the problem you and many others who take your approach fail to realize is the men who are your target audience, the actual abusers, also know the shit is wrong they simply don't fucking care and repeatedly yelling at them that it's wrong does nothing. So then ya'll go to yelling at the men who aren't abusers and then wonder why we reply back "Yeah we know it's wrong and we ain't abusing nobody so next topic"...It's not that it's being ignored it's that you're telling somebody some shit they already know. And as far as "holding others accountable" again this speaks to something that I say men don't do alot of, which is women also don't know as much about men, men's friendships, or how men communicate as much as ya'll think. Again, men already know abuse is wrong. You think men are just casually laying up and saying "Yeah, I had to smack her in the face last night. You know how it goes" and his homies is just laughing and co-signing the shit? Nah. So on the chance that out of a group of let's say 5 men who would consider themselves friends if 1 is an abuser you can be about 98% sure he ain't saying shit about what he does at home to his woman because he already knows that shit aint' right, his homies ain't riding with him on it, and generally what their reaction to him would be if they were to find out.
The statistics say that Black women are about 4 times likely to die by their own hand than by a domestic partner. The stats say that Black women are nearly as likely to die in a body of water than by a domestic partner. The stats also say that Black women are terrible drivers and are about three times as likely to die in a car crash than by a domestic partner.
Context, Race, is what you're lacking. Without it the claim is misleading, if not an outright lie.
i think your reasons for why someone may feel some kind of way are limited...
many men... black or not have a protective nature... i often feel i obligated to help someone more than my reason can justify.... it's just in me...
and it's very difficult to help someone who is actively attacking you.....
it's not about coddling an ego at all.....
but if i feel like you are going to spend more time attacking me than accepting any help i may attempt to provide...at some point i'm going to have to fall back because clearl my help is not wanted...
but because we feel so attached to the situation, and feel obligated in our nature to help...it's just as difficult to just walk away....
that creates conflict....
so all i think BR was trying to explain is that conflict can often be counterproductive, and we do more infighting than actually addressing the issue at hand
Aight...but let's say hypothetically you did. Difficult ass.
Here is another way of asking: Would you feel more comfortable in a room full of white women or black men?
Again, men already know abuse is wrong. You think men are just casually laying up and saying "Yeah, I had to smack her in the face last night. You know how it goes" and his homies is just laughing and co-signing the shit? Nah. So on the chance that out of a group of let's say 5 men who would consider themselves friends if 1 is an abuser you can be about 98% sure he ain't saying shit about what he does at home to his woman because he already knows that shit aint' right, his homies ain't riding with him on it, and generally what their reaction to him would be if they were to find out.
Im not doubling down Black rain or altering my msg to make others comfortable. sorry.
again, ppl say stop being angry and educate us failing to realize the anger is part of the education.
the fragility here amongst you and your comrades is the issue.
lets unpack that.
I think the message can be sent without attacking the listener.
Me personally don't mind how something is said depending in the situation.
But this shit here.....If you don't agree, it's OK to debate.
But no need to insult people if they don't agree.
Splain what you mean fam.Sooooooooo
Does it feel like opposite week to anybody else or just me?