you want it to be one way...
when you make the attempt to apply characteristics to determine one's "goodness" you run the risk of those charterics being used and manipulated for the pure sake of argument.
i'll use my self as an example...say someone wants to call em a good man....
well, say my wife is also the heiress to a fortune...
i'm the exact same man to her in every single aspect, but i can't wait to get that inheritance money..in fact that was the entire reason i hooked up with her in the first place..... nice chick, but if she wasn't loaded, there's no way i would have been with her....
now moralistically on could argue that i'm not a good man because my intentions weren't pure...
but if you ran down a checklist of things i did as a man/husband/father, i'm firing on all cylinders.....she would never know that i was only there for the money....why would i ever be stupid enough to mess that up.....
u get where i'm going......
you can't just say..
"this is what a good man is"
"this is what a good woman is"
it don't work like that......someone you could feel is a bad woman could be perfect for a dude yo consider a bad dude, and they could work perfectly for each other, and be happy together for decades....
but to everyone else they weren't considered good...
shit to pretty much every chick i've messed with other than my wife, they didn't view me as a good man.....does that make wrong and her right?
i mean, at the time, i was in between jobs living with my moms, no fucks whatsoever about paying for dates, no interest in relationships..
i was just a guy who liked to fuck and get fucked up....she thought i was fun.. and shit went from here
no body was thinking about a good man vs a good woman....
shit like that is for people who can't accept some internal truth so they justify things with blanket statements.....
yea a god man is hard to find because "a good man" technically doesn't' exist.....it's like chasing big foot....
women and men need to stop focusing on types, and what they consider good or bad, and focus more on personalities that work well together...
you can be a total selfish piece of shit and still have a good heart...and there can be a person that totally gets you and understands that..... but is also a piece of shit...
like two pieces of shit can totally mend into one piece of shit.....and be happy......and neither fits anyone's criteria of a "good" man or woman.....
jsut throw away the whole line of thinking.. it's mostly buffer and full of bullshit and pompous self indulgence