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Ain't No Good Men/Good Men Are Hard to Find

Both arguments are right though yall really arguing different points.

Allergens saying it’s women that don’t deserve that good man, throwing all type of red flags so they never get approached by the good dude. That’s a fact.

Then Du saying, a lot of dudes crying that good guy finish last spiel, giving yourself too much credit.. and a lot of times thats true lol. Dudes be on some super simp shit and think that constitutes them as being the best available man.


The gray area in between has too many components to oversimplify this topic honestly.
 
After reading this thread....

I think we should throw out the word "good" when referring to a partner.

I know some of yall don't believe, but even Christ was puzzled when when he was called good in Mark chapter 10. And he has historically been depicted as the perfect man.

Why did he say that? Because he was human on earth.

Let that sink in...


Maybe we should use "compatible" as a replacement.
 
Judge_Judah said:
Maybe we should use "compatible" as a replacement.
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The second people start focusing on "good" all the lies and deception begins...

All they're really looking for is compatibility..... And more times than not the person who they're most compatible with would never fit the criteria of their type or what they consider "good"

I think the whole concept is shallow by nature
 
Judge_Judah said:
After reading this thread....

I think we should throw out the word "good" when referring to a partner.

I know some of yall don't believe, but even Christ was puzzled when when he was called good in Mark chapter 10. And he has historically been depicted as the perfect man.

Why did he say that? Because he was human on earth.

Let that sink in...


Maybe we should use "compatible" as a replacement.
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You know that in the context of what I'm saying that that's what I mean. Du is arguing "good" cause he likes to argue
 
It's like if I say, I like Ford's over Volvo's cause Volvo's aren't fast.

And someone says what you mean Volvo's aren't fast, all Volvo's can drive over 60 miles an hour, 60 miles in an hour's is fast.

Like they don't know what the context that you meant when you said fast.

Ford's have more horse power, they may can reach the same top speed but fords can reach that speed quicker. So it's faster than a Volvo.

And they like, well you ain't say all that you said Volvo's ain't fast

And then your
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Aight bruh


This ain't even worth talking about with you no more
 
But lemme me be more inclusive and say it like this, what had me create this thread, is women I know and women I've spoken with.

What these women post and say are that there are no good men. When "they" are talking about good. They have stated to me or I've heard them say in conversation, a man is a man that does the things I've already stated. That man they say doesnt exist or is hard find. Regardless if you define that as a good man, they defined it as a good man to me or someone around me.

And I am saying that, men that have the type of character to be all those things. In my own personal experience of myself and knowing niggaz that fit into the criteria that they speak of.

We us they, because of those traits, have a set of standards, that it's going to take more than pussy, a nice body, and a pretty face. Because its hard to have one without the other, not impossible but hard. It takes more to have them to want to become that good man for you in your life.

I'm speaking in the context of what I've seen, heard, done, and do. My viewpoints of women are all based on the women I've interacted with in some way shape or form. So when I say women buss the windows out ur car, do it cause they can't physically beat you up.

I'm thinking about the women I know or have witness do it, cause they physically could not take the man they were with in a fight but they want to hurt him like they feel hurt.

These are based off of, women I've seen, heard, touched, ......know why ...they did, do, or think, giving being around for the history of it to see it all play out.
 
DOS_patos said:
i got another one......

remember i said this one on the IC

chick looking for a "financially " secure dude. and finds one.

she wants him to help pay her bills...he says cool....but he wants to be on the mortgage...she says no.
he says....but you want me to pay but not be on the bill?
she said it was her house and he can just give her the money.

last time she saw dude..

and guess what.

he was an aint shit nigga.

i got thousands of these stories.
im surrounded by nothing but single women....and they all miserable and cute. so cute they cant speak or take a compliment or hold a conversation.

all niggas want them but all niggas aint shit.
so they brag about be wanted by aint shit niggas
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She was tripping dont ask me to pay bills and shit and my name aint on none of them. So you can kick me out and just have my bread.
 
This whole thread is subjective as shit.

What’s good to you might not be good to the next mf.
This ain’t no better than that Real man/Real woman shit.

And if we basing what’s good or not off of what the thread starter is saying. Then nigga you the last mf to tell ANYBODY what a good man is. I’m just saying.
 
Kandy said:
This whole thread is subjective as shit.

What’s good to you might not be good to the next mf.
This ain’t no better than that Real man/Real woman shit.

And if we basing what’s good or not off of what the thread starter is saying. Then nigga you the last mf to tell ANYBODY what a good man is. I’m just saying.
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picardbig.png what u mean
 
Kandy said:
The shit you checked off might be a “good” woman’s qualities to somebody and it might not be to the next.
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Yeah some men might see that and think it's boring and just want a woman who's quiet, subservient, looks good, and fucks good. And they'll say that's their idea of a good woman.

I'm saying, yeah that can be your idea of a good woman, and that says alot about you. And women who feel that's not what they want to be for a man, will actively avoid him.

Which is the fucking premise of the thread.
 
Fox Mulder said:
Yeah some men might see that and think it's boring and just want a woman who's quiet, subservient, looks good, and fucks good. And they'll say that's their idea of a good woman.

I'm saying, yeah that can be your idea of a good woman, and that says alot about you. And women who feel that's not what they want to be for a man, will actively avoid him.

Which is the fucking premise of the thread.
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All you had to do was say for this thread was good and bad are subjective to the person. You cant use basic words to describe the complexity of people. I mean you said your wife threw a knife at you and that you didnt think it was a big deal her cousin died.

Most people dont consider that shit good. But you dont consider yourself bad.
 
Here's a scenario from a woman I know, early thirties with 2 kids.

Every man that I know of that she's dated, she's met at a club, or some party event that happens at night. Not on some Saturday night shit, her and her baby father share custody so she goes to the club alot.

Shorty posted that why she always meeting fuck niggaz, all men got dog in them and blah blah blah. Why can't she find a man that is caring, wants to be in a monogomous relationship and has goals beyond just getting by and getting high.

Well, chances are the nigga at the club on a Wednesday night ain't that nigga. Maybe, but chances are slim cause that nigga gotta get up to work in the morning. Chances are that the guy in the club on Wednesday night ain't looking for women to be in a monogomous relationship.

Chances are you posting pics of you at the club mid week, and posting pics hug up with dudes mid week, both y'all high.

Chances are the man you say you want, see how you moving and don't want you. So maybe, stop being the woman that those men find unattractive if that's the man you want
 
HellCzar said:
All you had to do was say for this thread was good and bad are subjective to the person. You cant use basic words to describe the complexity of people. I mean you said your wife threw a knife at you and that you didnt think it was a big deal her cousin died.

Most people dont consider that shit good. But you dont consider yourself bad.
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I felt like the group we have here is smart enough to where context would be looked at beyond nuisances of entirety. That's my fault for not being more descriptive to aliveate any detours away my initial reasoning for creating the thread. But, as we move on, your reply shows that you understand where my thought process actually is. So we all should be able to proceed with that understanding and not focus on where I didn't so we'll convey my viewpoint.
 
Fox Mulder said:
Here's a scenario from a woman I know, early thirties with 2 kids.

Every man that I know of that she's dated, she's met at a club, or some party event that happens at night. Not on some Saturday night shit, her and her baby father share custody so she goes to the club alot.

Shorty posted that why she always meeting fuck niggaz, all men got dog in them and blah blah blah. Why can't she find a man that is caring, wants to be in a monogomous relationship and has goals beyond just getting by and getting high.

Well, chances are the nigga at the club on a Wednesday night ain't that nigga. Maybe, but chances are slim cause that nigga gotta get up to work in the morning. Chances are that the guy in the club on Wednesday night ain't looking for women to be in a monogomous relationship.

Chances are you posting pics of you at the club mid week, and posting pics hug up with dudes mid week, both y'all high.

Chances are the man you say you want, see how you moving and don't want you. So maybe, stop being the woman that those men find unattractive if that's the man you want
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This
 
Fox Mulder said:
Here's a scenario from a woman I know, early thirties with 2 kids.

Every man that I know of that she's dated, she's met at a club, or some party event that happens at night. Not on some Saturday night shit, her and her baby father share custody so she goes to the club alot.

Shorty posted that why she always meeting fuck niggaz, all men got dog in them and blah blah blah. Why can't she find a man that is caring, wants to be in a monogomous relationship and has goals beyond just getting by and getting high.

Well, chances are the nigga at the club on a Wednesday night ain't that nigga. Maybe, but chances are slim cause that nigga gotta get up to work in the morning. Chances are that the guy in the club on Wednesday night ain't looking for women to be in a monogomous relationship.

Chances are you posting pics of you at the club mid week, and posting pics hug up with dudes mid week, both y'all high.

Chances are the man you say you want, see how you moving and don't want you. So maybe, stop being the woman that those men find unattractive if that's the man you want
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where did you meet her?
 
Fox Mulder said:
Here's a scenario from a woman I know, early thirties with 2 kids.

Every man that I know of that she's dated, she's met at a club, or some party event that happens at night. Not on some Saturday night shit, her and her baby father share custody so she goes to the club alot.

Shorty posted that why she always meeting fuck niggaz, all men got dog in them and blah blah blah. Why can't she find a man that is caring, wants to be in a monogomous relationship and has goals beyond just getting by and getting high.

Well, chances are the nigga at the club on a Wednesday night ain't that nigga. Maybe, but chances are slim cause that nigga gotta get up to work in the morning. Chances are that the guy in the club on Wednesday night ain't looking for women to be in a monogomous relationship.

Chances are you posting pics of you at the club mid week, and posting pics hug up with dudes mid week, both y'all high.

Chances are the man you say you want, see how you moving and don't want you. So maybe, stop being the woman that those men find unattractive if that's the man you want
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makes sense but most women dont know how to compromise and thats why they are where they are.

it takes learning from your past and admitting to bad qualities and trying to change...you may not change but admitting it is part of the solution
 
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