i dont like wayle king or opportunistic okra but when someone famous dies, ppl unpack their life. they comb tnru the good, the bad, and the ugly. expecting ppl to just shut up and pretend he wasnt accused of rape is just nonsensical.
is there a “wrong time” to discuss ppls wrongdoings? hell no lol folxs want you to look over that part of his life to keep their imaginations in tact. fact is, i dont need kobe to be holy, or a saint—hes a full human being.
i dont have to shield myself from ppls complexities, i dont have to lie to myself or convince myself that ppl are incapable of being harmful, even the ones i love dearly.
you dont need to place anyone on a pedestal in this life. you can tell the truth about someone and still mourn them. feelings are complicated, yes indeed. the truth aint all that pretty the majority of the time but you lose nothing by being real.