Nice Guys & Good Girls Finish Last

Funny you made this thread. One of my best friends would qualify as a "bad guy" to most women. He's your typical hood dude that's been in the streets. Got locs and tattoos. He looks the part. But beyond the surface he is a smart dude. He just carries himself a certain way that I guess some women like. But he hit me up asking me for advice on whether he should talk to this chick that he works with that had been at him heavy.

She is engaged...

So im trying my best to talk him out of it. He's starting to understand my perspective and decided to text her and see what's good at home and what they are even doing.

She basically says she "loves" her fiance and they have a 2 year old. He treats her good and what not....but then says he just isn't him (referring to my homie) and that he makes her feel pretty and wanted. And there's just something about him she likes and he's funny and exciting. So he shows me her response. I'm like...why would you wanna be involved with someone That moves like that?

He agreed...but im sure he still gonna smash. Lol









This is a major key of the game of life.
 
Well not most of the time and I wasn't to begin with , you said that.


Turning the other cheek was just an example.
 
yes!

but y r u treating niceness and weakness as interchangeable?


If a guy u didn't wanna date wanted to take you out on dates, would u go with him to be nice or would u say no?
 
turning the other cheek isn't automatically motivated by niceness though. I used it as an example of something non-confrontational that isn't dependent on niceness. it's one of those things that's assigned to nice guy behavior, which tells me that the "nice guy" trope doesn't have all that much to do with actually being nice. why can't they just be called pushovers?


It's called a trait.

Like most people with high blood pressure are fat. Doesn't mean every fat person has high blood pressure.
 
I would be nice by replying to his text or call and giving him an explanation. going out with him wouldn't be nice, it would be leading him on.


There's nothing nice about turning a nigga down b
 
Have u not been turned down by a chick? Not a good feeling.
I am sure I have but there was no ill feeling in her turning me down or on my part for her turning me down. That particular situation just wasn't meant to be. If you get angry or mad when someone turns you down then you are showing a childish trait. You can be disappointed but even that shouldn't last long.
 
I think that theme is overplayed partly because everyone's definition of a nice guy is different and we jump into the conclusion the next person likes a bad guy when our definitions of "nice" don't match.

But I firmly believe most women want a what she considers a nice guy. A little imperfection may make a person more endearing, but I want no one fundamentally "bad".
 
word cuz women stay looking for the best features in niggaz

"oh he's really a nice guy if you get to know him"

but i thought nice guys finish......
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