Is emotional abuse a real thing?

That is all we're saying, we all have choices. Nobody is saying it's not a messed up situation to be in, but everybody has that choice to make.
 
BNE said:
she got a point, with that quote u contradicted urself
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I work with someone who was abused as a child by her mom and she landed in a relationship with abusive man for 17 years. She said she was weak minded because that is all she knew. So, I understood why her mind was where it was. When she finally opened up about it and people were there to help her, she CHOSE to stay. She then said she went to church and met a group of ladies like her and that's when she CHOSE to leave him.

I'm not insensitive but hell if that's what you wanna label me, honestly I'm gonna still sleep well at night. I know me and that's all that matters. Was I sad about her situation. Hell yes. I almost shed a tear listening to it. I ain't bash her for staying. Didn't call her stupid. Nothing. That's her choice. I cant judge her for the decisions she made. However, she made a choice to stay and a choice to leave and that's all Im saying. Take from that what you will. Ain't no swaying me. It's a choice, regardless. Point, blank.
 
TheMasterKey said:
Yes or no question, does everybody have the choice to be a relationship or not?
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Short answer is yes.

But its not that simple. I get the argument tho. Its like, lets say you run into a child that stinks. Like hasnt bathed in 4 days stinks. You are gonna notice it ans be like, "damn lil homie funky af". And it might be true, but what of they come from a poor household where they canr afford to wash their clothes? Or they dont have running water to bathe? That changes the dynamics of the situation.

Would you say the same thong if an adult smells the way that kid does? What if they have a glandular issue or some kibd of medical diagnoses that causes extreme funk? I mean, yeah they stink, but its kind of oyt of their control.

I can liken that to someone vhoosing to stay in a mentally abusive realtionship. Itz almosy like brainwashing at times. The only time id lack empathy is when they realistically can change the situation and just refuse to.
 
AP21 said:
Are your hoes different?
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My hoes better get to fucking work lol

But hell yeah they are different, unless they are mentally handicapped or legit sex slaves no one is making them hit the stroll and suck dick. They chose to be out there, they are by no means victims. Dont save em AP.

We really are the polar opposites
 
BNE said:
very good point. then again, empathy was an aspect of our survival n succession as a species. cld be argued that a heart that isnt connected with others is lacking a semi-important element of humanity. end of the day tho, as long as the outcomes r good, does it matter if it was done out of calculation vs emotion?
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How is empathy a survival skill, altruistic behaviors in the wild will get you killed.
I agree with the last part though
 
Kandy Pants said:
I work with someone who was abused as a child by her mom and she landed in a relationship with abusive man for 17 years. She said she was weak minded because that is all she knew. So, I understood why her mind was where it was. When she finally opened up about it and people were there to help her, she CHOSE to stay. She then said she went to church and met a group of ladies like her and that's when she CHOSE to leave him.

I'm not insensitive but hell if that's what you wanna label me, honestly I'm gonna still sleep well at night. I know me and that's all that matters. Was I sad about her situation. Hell yes. I almost shed a tear listening to it. I ain't bash her for staying. Didn't call her stupid. Nothing. That's her choice. I cant judge her for the decisions she made. However, she made a choice to stay and a choice to leave and that's all Im saying. Take from that what you will. Ain't no. swaying me. It's a choice, regardless. Point, blank.
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Thank you for sharing this

Sadly, a lot of people fall into the situation she was in initially where she didn't get the help. Thank goodness she finally did
 
Judge_Judah said:
Short answer is yes.
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Thank you, I'm right again.


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OhMars said:
My hoes better get to fucking work lol

But hell yeah they are different, unless they are mentally handicapped or legit sex slaves no one is making them hit the stroll and suck dick. They chose to be out there, they are by no means victims. Dont save em AP.

We really are the polar opposites
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Wait youre a pimp now?

what in the tyler perry hell
 
Joshua said:
Goldie I don't think anybody is disputing that, it's the process and time it may take to leave the abusive relationship that's being debated
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That's what YALL are debating, all I ever said is that we all have choices, which yall agree that I'm right about. That's all I care about.

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OhMars said:
How is empathy a survival skill, altruistic behaviors in the wild will get you killed.
I agree with the last part though
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Altruistic behaviors strengthen the pack or tribe, they're essential at least on a basic level in order for the tribe or pack to survive. I.E. raising and protecting your young
 
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