All in all, it depends on the person. Ppl go thru a lot of shit and need to cry to get past it. Cool. Ain't me but I don't knock it. Far from it, I encourage it.
Even if I may think a person is crying for a petty reason I wouldn't express that to them because it devalues they feelings. It forces a stigma of how one should respond vs letting the response come naturally
My son (7) is at a phase (hopefully) where he tears up for random shit at least once a week. Apart of me wants to throw him against the wall and give him the same combo Agent Smith gave to Neo but I don't. I talk it out with him. I don't want him to become emotionally repressed or feel like he has to react to the things the same way I would.
Applying that to mentality to adults the last 5 yrs or so has helped me deal with my own emotions and triggers
Now I'm going to find a thread to fuck off in cause I didn't come here to get serious today. AP open the afterdark thread nigga
Yup. It's a struggle. If I'm not conscious of how I approach him I slip into the stop crying mentality which gets us no where.I've been told I'm too emotional but I'm human and I'm a woman who knows how to express herself. I've also never been one to fake how I
I love that you said this because I was going to say something about that. So many people my age and older grew up being told to "shut up crying" or "fix your face, don't cry" and they grow up thinking that that was normal when it just isn't.
People crying over being legit happy is a fairly new thing to me. I realized I'm a wedding cryer...lol. last 2 weddings I went to (they were my best friends so it made sense) I was balling but it was thug tears no claire danes ugly crying lmao.
I always think dudes crying is...idk different...but then again I know men that cry all the time and nobody around em cares. Like my uncle is a very emotional guy but not in a bitch way...cried when his daughter graduated, cries over sentimental things/really thoughtful gifts...ppl in the fam know that if you made him cry you doing something right lol.
Why did you think that lolI thought you were hard on emotions, but you have proven me wrong and I'm glad you did
Great post Gabi
You come off very detached based on a lot of the relationship topics you do respond to. I don't say that as a slight but just an observation.Why did you think that lol
You come off very detached based on a lot of the relationship topics you do respond to. I don't say that as a slight but just an observation.
I would talk to him to see WHY he is crying so much. I've realized that people carry the weight of things from their childhood into their adulthood and relationships all the time.
He still hasn't answered
I asked him to define little shit