Thing is, that's a legit couples beef.
Me and my wife go through this constantly. We're just wired differently.
Dudes go to an event for the event. That's the attraction and the purpose. The actual event.
Women go to places for the company.
The reason they go places is because of who they go with.
That's what's important.
So when women go places with us, they'll deal with some shit they don't like... Even make the best of it, just because they want to be with us. They can give a fuck less about what we doing.
And they can not and will not understand why we don't think the same way. Can invites earn to this shit to spend time with him. To share a part of her with him. She feels more connected to Earn as a person who will see what she's been feeling her whole life living through this German shit.
She was looking for a bonding experience.
Earn like most guys focus solely on the event. Who he's with means little. All he can think is this is wack German shit. I'm uncomfortable. I don't like it. I don't want to be here. Why would you force me to do this shit. When can we get the fuck out here?
He does not see it from van's point of view. She does not realize by taking this stance he's essentially saying to van " I do not want to spend time with you. I am not interested in you."
Then he tells her their situation"works" for him. Which to him is a logical answer, why complicate what works.
To her, she hears... You are just warm pussy and a roof. If we do anything, we're hanging with thugs and rappers in strip clubs and rap shows. You just a girl on my arm.... You're "Earn's girl" or "Lottie's mom"
At no point does she feel recognized, or heard. She doesn't feel supported. She's not being taken seriously either, and she's not feeling that.
So she lashes out about her feelings, he's lashing out cuz if this weak event, and neither one is listening to the other.
I blame earn more than her, cuz dude really gives a fuck about shorty.... And all he had to do was man up and say that shit.....
But that shit hit home, I felt that fight to my core.
Excellent episode