This notion that, "It isn't about love for Fabolous or R. Kelly. It's about hate for women," is jumping the shark a tad bit.
Regular dudes that get exposed as women abusers get beat down on the regular just as many go unchecked. It's life and nothing is ever the same across the board. Unfortunately with domestic arrangements comes occasional friction. That's why you'll see siblings squabble, children become combative against parents & unfortunately significant others butt heads. But as with everything in life not every person has the self-control or common sense required when it comes to not placing your hands on a woman or anyone for that matter.
Not everything has to become gender wars. At the end of the day we all witnessed a domestic dispute play out on camera for the world to see but what we did not witness was an actual assault. Fact. You can play pretend as if you've never seen arguments more intense than this one NOT come to blows... or you can be naive and pretend as if the body language displayed by Fab wasn't troubling as hell and indicative of potential abusive behavior.
But at the end of the day everything being discussed on this matter is presumptuous and everyone needs to cool the fuck out. Our assumptions on their personal issues holds no light to anyones character regardless of which position you hold.