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Women Who Refuse To Take The Man's Last Name After Marriage

BNE said:
cared enough to chime in to get ur view in one more time tho KP? lol

I argue with @TheTrollKing about everything. We're on a forum, why be a member for any reason but to discuss shit? It isn't that serious.
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I chime in all the time. I just felt like saying something. It isn't that serious. I don't know who said it was.
 
Blactivity said:
@BNE , I was once 1000% against the likelihood of being submissive to any man. It was because of my one-sided definition of the term. Submissive in my description of submissive behavior was losing my identity, having no opinion, unworthy, incapable, and restricted of doing anything outside of pleasing your man, house duties, and bearing children. I pretty much related the characteristics to slavery. So I'm thinking, "Never...ever...ever...EVER will I be anybody's slave. DF?"

My stance has changed only because I decided to become a little bit more open-minded and educated about the idea. I've learned that submitting to your man isn't a sign of weakness or discontinuing who you are as a person. It only means that you let the man lead, you allow him to make decisions, and just stand behind those decisions. Pretty much let him be King, but remember you are also the Queen. If you trust his movement, he treats you like the Queen you are, and respects you as a woman, what would be the reason for rejecting that role? I believe it's all about your views and what you're willing to accept and not accept, honestly. Everybody's relationship is different.

So I guess becoming more conscious of where I want to be and why has significantly changed my approach on the subject. Also toning down my stubbornness has permitted me to becoming vulnerable to the idea. I have no issue real issue to why I would decline not taking my husband's last name. We become one and we're building our own family. That's dope to me.
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thank u for sharing Blactivity. worth the wait. ur current stance sounds like it's coming from a more positive place than the old one. no matter what the views themselves r, thats a good place to be.
BlackAndWhite said:
im not biblical scholar, but before the inclusion of last names, they would often recite the lineage from which they came

ex. Son of Abraham, Son of Isaac, etc...

Im drawing a blank right now, but i think its either exodus or leviticus (i think its leviticus) that is basically one huge ancestry.com book. My memory is a bit hazy, but all they talk about is who was the son of who, and then talk about their descendants. So to goldie's point, he could've used that as a position to support his point about men carrying the family lineage or it being passed down through men.
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learned something new
 
i like when Kandy participate tbh

idc if i disagree with her or not. I think her thoughts are insightful

#nosimp

#maybealilsimp

#notreally
 
BlackAndWhite said:
i like when Kandy participate tbh

idc if i disagree with her or not. I think her thoughts are insightful

#nosimp

#maybealilsimp

#notreally
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same. i disagree with her on damn near everything but she's outspoken and active in discussions, which is always good. plus funny stories.
 
Chicks just play victim for the fuck of it.


I asked multiple times, what does not changing ur name to your husband's accomplish?


At the end of the day it's because she simply doesn't want to. They think they're accomplishing something when in reality it's pointless.
 
TheTrollKing said:
Chicks just play victim for the fuck of it.


I asked multiple times, what does not changing ur name to your husband's accomplish?


At the end of the day it's because she simply doesn't want to. They think they're accomplishing something when in reality it's pointless.
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as I said earlier, who the fuck are you asking? the only person here who even said they dont believe in taking a nigga's name here is me. r u tryna conduct ur research on a sample size of 1? wait till more women who share that stance join or accept the answers u have already been given nigga. damn.

the better question is, what does ur question accomplish when the topic is a dead horse that has been beaten for 14 pages? the overwhelming majority of participants r either men who believe womens hould take their names, or women who intend to take men's names.

I only bumped it to get more views from women since we have a larger active population now.
 
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