DISCUSSION - Why Shouldn't Men Cry??..
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All in all, it depends on the person. Ppl go thru a lot of shit and need to cry to get past it. Cool. Ain't me but I don't knock it. Far from it, I encourage it.
Even if I may think a person is crying for a petty reason I wouldn't express that to them because it devalues they feelings. It forces a stigma of how one should respond vs letting the response come naturally
My son (7) is at a phase (hopefully) where he tears up for random shit at least once a week. Apart of me wants to throw him against the wall and give him the same combo Agent Smith gave to Neo but I don't. I talk it out with him. I don't want him to become emotionally repressed or feel like he has to react to the things the same way I would.
Applying that to mentality to adults the last 5 yrs or so has helped me deal with my own emotions and triggers
Now I'm going to find a thread to fuck off in cause I didn't come here to get serious today. AP open the afterdark thread nigga
Even if I may think a person is crying for a petty reason I wouldn't express that to them because it devalues they feelings. It forces a stigma of how one should respond vs letting the response come naturally
My son (7) is at a phase (hopefully) where he tears up for random shit at least once a week. Apart of me wants to throw him against the wall and give him the same combo Agent Smith gave to Neo but I don't. I talk it out with him. I don't want him to become emotionally repressed or feel like he has to react to the things the same way I would.
Applying that to mentality to adults the last 5 yrs or so has helped me deal with my own emotions and triggers
Now I'm going to find a thread to fuck off in cause I didn't come here to get serious today. AP open the afterdark thread nigga
Meeks
The One with the Pretty Eyes.
I've been told I'm too emotional but I'm human and I'm a woman who knows how to express herself. I've also never been one to fake how I feel.
I love that you said this because I was going to say something about that. So many people my age and older grew up being told to "shut up crying" or "fix your face, don't cry" and they grow up thinking that that was normal when it just isn't.
I love that you said this because I was going to say something about that. So many people my age and older grew up being told to "shut up crying" or "fix your face, don't cry" and they grow up thinking that that was normal when it just isn't.
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Yup. It's a struggle. If I'm not conscious of how I approach him I slip into the stop crying mentality which gets us no where.
Had his moms not made mention of it early I would have never given it thought. I see now tho that it pays off letting him do him. Crying and all.
Old Man Cain
OG
Nothing wrong with a man showing emotions. Can't remember what I saw but someone was speaking on the fact that young black males are taught not to cry and show emotions. In actuality that is hindering the young man to later to deal with issues later on in life.
Poetress
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I am going to use the I statement here..
I think it is healthy to release any type of emotions.
Crying is healthy for man and women. Crying for whatever reason that brings you to tears. It is okay to cry. Repressing your emotions is not healthy for so many reasons. But everyone is different, each individual is unique and process their emotions differently.
I think it is healthy to release any type of emotions.
Crying is healthy for man and women. Crying for whatever reason that brings you to tears. It is okay to cry. Repressing your emotions is not healthy for so many reasons. But everyone is different, each individual is unique and process their emotions differently.
I'm not much of a cryer myself but I do believe everyone is entitled to having their moment when shit gets rough...whether that's crying, screaming, hitting something (not someONE), going for a drive/walk, meditating...
Me personally, I don't feel like that "moment" should last more than a few minutes. Release whatever you need to release then come back to the world ready to try to deal with the problem.
Exceptions obviously a death or something you ain't gonna get over right away or something that can't be "fixed"
Me personally, I don't feel like that "moment" should last more than a few minutes. Release whatever you need to release then come back to the world ready to try to deal with the problem.
Exceptions obviously a death or something you ain't gonna get over right away or something that can't be "fixed"
People crying over being legit happy is a fairly new thing to me. I realized I'm a wedding cryer...lol. last 2 weddings I went to (they were my best friends so it made sense) I was balling but it was thug tears no claire danes ugly crying lmao.
I always think dudes crying is...idk different...but then again I know men that cry all the time and nobody around em cares. Like my uncle is a very emotional guy but not in a bitch way...cried when his daughter graduated, cries over sentimental things/really thoughtful gifts...ppl in the fam know that if you made him cry you doing something right lol.
I always think dudes crying is...idk different...but then again I know men that cry all the time and nobody around em cares. Like my uncle is a very emotional guy but not in a bitch way...cried when his daughter graduated, cries over sentimental things/really thoughtful gifts...ppl in the fam know that if you made him cry you doing something right lol.
So.....my son just had his cry for the day. He didn't wanna shower before his snack and homework. It's hot as fuck, he was wearing black jeans, I know his eczema flaring up so I make him shower before he do anything else.
He pissed. I get it tho. His legs and spots sting/itch, the meds take forever to kick in, he tired from school and just wants to watch his YouTube shit. Part of me wants to shake him like a pitbull and toss him down the stairs but I have to teach him how to care for his skin and condition and I can only get through him once he got that cry out.
Shit ain't easy on either of us but more so for him. If he still like this at 16, I'm a continue to repress my rage for anything 'less manly' and continue to let him work thru his condition the best way for him.
This was all like 1/2 hr ago. He good now. Tears and all.
I lost sight of the thread but yeah, ppl cry for whatever. Shit don't bother me if it's everyday or every decade.
He pissed. I get it tho. His legs and spots sting/itch, the meds take forever to kick in, he tired from school and just wants to watch his YouTube shit. Part of me wants to shake him like a pitbull and toss him down the stairs but I have to teach him how to care for his skin and condition and I can only get through him once he got that cry out.
Shit ain't easy on either of us but more so for him. If he still like this at 16, I'm a continue to repress my rage for anything 'less manly' and continue to let him work thru his condition the best way for him.
This was all like 1/2 hr ago. He good now. Tears and all.
I lost sight of the thread but yeah, ppl cry for whatever. Shit don't bother me if it's everyday or every decade.
I thought you were hard on emotions, but you have proven me wrong and I'm glad you did
Great post Gabi
Why did you think that lol
You come off very detached based on a lot of the relationship topics you do respond to. I don't say that as a slight but just an observation.
I'm actually very sensitive AP...it's just second nature for me to check it cuz it ain't necessary/helpful all the time.
Ok, now u know he's stressed. He cries every week, u cool with it?