Living with Parents.

King Du said:
i got roasted relentlessly on the IC for this..

niggaz woulda @'d me like 5 times by now
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When I read your post, you were literally one of the few people I know who said what you said. I work with a lady who is 45 and she lives with her mom and step dad and I was in shock.
 
I think some cultures make sure their kids have a better foundation when they leave the house. They tell their kids you can stay and save money to get your own and then leave. But if the parents are struggling it becomes an automatic if you stay here you have to pay your way which inhibits the young person from saving. Which leads to if I have to pay I might as well live by myself or with friends.
 
Kandy Pants said:
When I read your post, you were literally one of the few people I know who said what you said. I work with a lady who is 45 and she lives with her mom and step dad and I was in shock.
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my neighbor across the street ms cherby....is...a millionaire....

like no one knows how much money she has, but shes nice as shit with the number, and her pockets deep.....

she never moved out of her fathers house in the hood across the street from us....


never....


she owns like 6 houses in the city we know about....she owns like 4 jackson hewitts... she's a financial advisor and tax specialist for like mad exclusive people across the city....and she just got married like 3 years ago to this military general dude who got like a ranch mansion....

and she still won't move out her father house....


she almost 60 now, cuz my mom got her by 10 years
 
King Du said:
my neighbor across the street ms cherby....is...a millionaire....

like no one knows how much money she has, but shes nice as shit with the number, and her pockets deep.....

she never moved out of her fathers house in the hood across the street from us....


never....


she owns like 6 houses in the city we know about....she owns like 4 jackson hewitts... she's a financial advisor and tax specialist for like mad exclusive people across the city....and she just got married like 3 years ago to this military general dude who got like a ranch mansion....

and she still won't move out her father house....


she almost 60 now, cuz my mom got her by 10 years
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I wanna be like her.
 
BNE said:
Ding ding ding.

Struggle definitely plays a part (ie. my kid has to pay me rent or leave). It's counter intuitive tho, cuz you're more likely to perpetuate poverty if not pooling resources together.

PS. I agree with you on the term West Indian. Thanks for checking me fam.
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Shotta , I fraid you. I would never check you just a humble reasoning. Lol
 
Kandy Pants said:
I wanna be like her.
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she's awesome cuz she does the most hilariously ghetto fabulous shit....

like every event she does she always gets her fried chicken from the chicken box spot up the shopping center Royals......like nobody ever think to have them cater an event,......then one day i looked into it, and them nigggaz retardedly over charge... i be like fuck that, just get our shit from the spot that do it for the low like we been doing....

it be funny as shit...we was at her wedding reception like........."damn...who did these wings?? they taste just like the shtis up the village"
:whoa:
 
IMO, white people pushing their young to move out has another layer that is not shared by other races.

White people of America have this inherited culture of land grabbing and territory grabbing. By moving out young white people not only spread their wings but also spread out their controls and influences. They do not need family or generational support as much because the system is their support.

The rest of us do not have such luxury. A lot of times we move out but don't move out of the neighborhood or the community. Still occupy the same size of land but pay twice the rent to "the management" for privacy. Now I am not saying don't do it but we should exercise the option with more caution, knowing the bigger picture behind it.
 
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i have a question though...

i kow a shit load of people that had their own spot, but their parents still paid their rent.....

does that count as out on your own?
 
I would actually prefer my kids to stay around until they get their first job out of college, or first career job if they didnt go to college. So thats atleast 22 23 years old.

Whats the point of having my kid work a minimum wage job at 18 just to pay rent for a trash apartment?

That mfer still gonna be working that minimum wage job at 18, but can just live at the crib
 
Sion said:
Black folks kicking their kids out young is a hangover from slavery, because when children came of age they were shipped off to another plantation.

Other cultures, let their kids stay until they finish school and save up enough to buy a house. Black people are getting there but it'll take time. My kids can stay as long as they want until they're financially ready to.
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Came in to say this.

As long as the kids are working/studying they can stay and save up.
 
Cain said:
At 20 if you don't have a plan you got to go.

You're either going to college, work, or military.
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Almost.

It should be college, join a union, or join the military.

I didn't go to college directly from high school and I ended up working at a grocery store for a few years before I moved out (and then moved back after a few years).

I was making about $6 per hour (in the early 90s) which wasn't a lot, but when I worked overtime sometimes my paychecks were about $350-$400 per week, which I though was good @ 19 years old.

But if I had joined a union I would have been making $20 per hour.

That's what White people do. They join a union. Those are the guys you see on he side of the highway with hard hats and orange vests. They don't really do anything because most of the work is done by machines, but they get paid to show up at 6:30 in the morning and wear an orange vest and a hard hat. By the time they turn 30 they're making $30 per hour and have enough money saved up to get married and buy a house.

In the hood you got 19 year olds thinking they can get rich by selling weed.
 
Sion said:
Black folks kicking their kids out young is a hangover from slavery, because when children came of age they were shipped off to another plantation.

Other cultures, let their kids stay until they finish school and save up enough to buy a house. Black people are getting there but it'll take time. My kids can stay as long as they want until they're financially ready to.
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IDK about this, my theory is its from white lies about success. I mean look at white people and their kids now. Most of them act like their kid went out on their own and did everything and the kids act like that too. But when you really look into it, they left at 18 in the car their parents bought/pay for. Went to college that their parents or grandparents pay for, get a house or apartment their parents pay for and usually get a good paying job that their parents lined up for them & turn around telling people how they did it all on their own through hard work.

AA's really believed their lies, so now they think their 18 year olds are grown, should have it all figured out and be out on their own like they were or how they see other "successful" kids doing it. No other culture in the world has this mindset. They all stick together & move as a unit to ensure they're all secure and not struggling.

I've seen people try an justify it by saying they need to know the struggle and it makes them stronger years down the line, blah blah blah. Well congrats, your kid survived the struggled, built a bunch of character, and those "weaker" kids that had a bunch of family support are way further ahead in life/financially and are your kids bosses.

I mean, if we being real, you dont really start figuring life out till your mid 20's. So if you kid has no idea what to do in their late teens/ early 20's, my question is what have you been doing and what are you going to do to help? If you're solution is to throw them out, i see why they're lost.
 
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