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Kandy Pants said:
Was this overlooked?!
I've seen this restated twice when I already said it.
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I disagreed with that statement, and others disagreed with me. I don't think that's restating so much as continuing the dialogue from different perspectives.

I think West Indians and possibly Africans in America might be more likely to have several generations within a household than African Americans, having arrived more recently and all.

White people don't do it all that much imo.

On the other hand, Asians are the kings n queens of living with parents n grandparents. I think it can be an element to building generational wealth tbh.

For them, it falls under the concept of Filial Piety.
 
Majority of the African Americans or Blacks I know or have spoken to about this topic say their parents have told them at 18, they have to go. Another thing I've noticed is that the daughters at most times are the first to go. The sons seem to stay longer. Hence, the uncle that never moved outta grandmas house.
 
Kandy Pants said:
Majority of the African Americans or Blacks I know or have spoken to about this topic say their parents have told them at 18, they have to go. Another thing I've noticed is that the daughters at most times are the first to go. The sons seem to stay longer. Hence, the uncle that never moved outta grandmas house.
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Very interesting. I noticed that among black communities that immigrated after the mid 20th century or so, usually it wld be inter-generational for at least a little while when a family is being reunited. Then people spread out while they have their own families but usually, when someone starts getting old or moves back in state, they live together again.

On the other hand, using my white classmates from college as an example, so many of them will share apartments with 4 roommates in expensive cities long before they'll accept their parent's invitation to go back home to the suburbs of Idaho. Most of the people I know who live at home past 18 are minorities.

Like I said, Asians are famous for it. Doesn't just extend to young people living at home past 18, it's also older generations moving into their grown kids homes when they get grandchildren or need elderly care. It's very common.
 
i got roasted relentlessly on the IC for this..

niggaz woulda @'d me like 5 times by now
 
BNE said:
Very interesting. I noticed that among black communities that immigrated after the mid 20th century or so, usually it wld be inter-generational for at least a little while when a family is being reunited. Then people spread out while they have their own families but usually, when someone starts getting old or moves back in state, they live together again.

On the other hand, using my white classmates from college as an example, so many of them will share apartments with 4 roommates in expensive cities long before they'll accept their parent's invitation to go back home to the suburbs of Idaho. Most of the people I know who live at home past 18 are minorities.

Like I said, Asians are famous for it. Doesn't just extend to young people living at home past 18, it's also older generations moving into their grown kids homes when they get grandchildren or need elderly care. It's very common.
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See, that's another thing. When I heard of grandma moving back in to help care for the children or because they needed care themselves, it was rare to see that done by a black family. White and Asians, oh yea.

Mexicans and Spanish, I don't think I've ever seen a Spanish family in a single family home. I live by Mexicans and we live in condos and one family takes up one section across from me and a section in the front.
 
King Du said:
i got roasted relentlessly on the IC for this..

niggaz woulda @'d me like 5 times by now
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When I read your post, you were literally one of the few people I know who said what you said. I work with a lady who is 45 and she lives with her mom and step dad and I was in shock.
 
Kandy Pants said:
See, that's another thing. When I heard of grandma moving back in to help care for the children or because they needed care themselves, it was rare to see that done by a black family. White and Asians, oh yea.

Mexicans and Spanish, I don't think I've ever seen a Spanish family in a single family home. I live by Mexicans and we live in condos and one family takes up one section across from me and a section in the front.
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That's interesting because white people are overrepresented in retirement homes. Ethnic minorities are more likely to care for the elderly in-house.

Just checked the statistics and white people are nowhere near most likely to live in multigenerational households. Tbh I don't think they should be included in the conversation, they're the most "you're on your own", self-serving people alive.
 
I think some cultures make sure their kids have a better foundation when they leave the house. They tell their kids you can stay and save money to get your own and then leave. But if the parents are struggling it becomes an automatic if you stay here you have to pay your way which inhibits the young person from saving. Which leads to if I have to pay I might as well live by myself or with friends.
 
Kandy Pants said:
When I read your post, you were literally one of the few people I know who said what you said. I work with a lady who is 45 and she lives with her mom and step dad and I was in shock.
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my neighbor across the street ms cherby....is...a millionaire....

like no one knows how much money she has, but shes nice as shit with the number, and her pockets deep.....

she never moved out of her fathers house in the hood across the street from us....


never....


she owns like 6 houses in the city we know about....she owns like 4 jackson hewitts... she's a financial advisor and tax specialist for like mad exclusive people across the city....and she just got married like 3 years ago to this military general dude who got like a ranch mansion....

and she still won't move out her father house....


she almost 60 now, cuz my mom got her by 10 years
 
Lurker10 said:
I think some cultures make sure their kids have a better foundation when they leave the house. They tell their kids you can stay and save money to get your own and then leave. But if the parents are struggling it becomes an automatic if you stay here you have to pay your way which inhibits the young person from saving. Which leads to if I have to pay I might as well live by myself or with friends.
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Ding ding ding.

Struggle definitely plays a part (ie. my kid has to pay me rent or leave). It's counter intuitive tho, cuz you're more likely to perpetuate poverty if not pooling resources together.

PS. I agree with you on the term West Indian. Thanks for checking me fam.
 
King Du said:
my neighbor across the street ms cherby....is...a millionaire....

like no one knows how much money she has, but shes nice as shit with the number, and her pockets deep.....

she never moved out of her fathers house in the hood across the street from us....


never....


she owns like 6 houses in the city we know about....she owns like 4 jackson hewitts... she's a financial advisor and tax specialist for like mad exclusive people across the city....and she just got married like 3 years ago to this military general dude who got like a ranch mansion....

and she still won't move out her father house....


she almost 60 now, cuz my mom got her by 10 years
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I wanna be like her.
 
BNE said:
Ding ding ding.

Struggle definitely plays a part (ie. my kid has to pay me rent or leave). It's counter intuitive tho, cuz you're more likely to perpetuate poverty if not pooling resources together.

PS. I agree with you on the term West Indian. Thanks for checking me fam.
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Shotta , I fraid you. I would never check you just a humble reasoning. Lol
 
Kandy Pants said:
I wanna be like her.
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she's awesome cuz she does the most hilariously ghetto fabulous shit....

like every event she does she always gets her fried chicken from the chicken box spot up the shopping center Royals......like nobody ever think to have them cater an event,......then one day i looked into it, and them nigggaz retardedly over charge... i be like fuck that, just get our shit from the spot that do it for the low like we been doing....

it be funny as shit...we was at her wedding reception like........."damn...who did these wings?? they taste just like the shtis up the village"
:whoa:
 
IMO, white people pushing their young to move out has another layer that is not shared by other races.

White people of America have this inherited culture of land grabbing and territory grabbing. By moving out young white people not only spread their wings but also spread out their controls and influences. They do not need family or generational support as much because the system is their support.

The rest of us do not have such luxury. A lot of times we move out but don't move out of the neighborhood or the community. Still occupy the same size of land but pay twice the rent to "the management" for privacy. Now I am not saying don't do it but we should exercise the option with more caution, knowing the bigger picture behind it.
 
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i have a question though...

i kow a shit load of people that had their own spot, but their parents still paid their rent.....

does that count as out on your own?
 
Whiskas said:
IMO, White young people moving out has another layer that is not shared by others.

White people of America have this inherited culture of land grabbing and territory grabbing. By moving out young white people not only spread their wings but also spread out their controls and influences. They do not need family or generational support as much because the system is their support.

The rest of us do not have such luxury. A lot f times we move out but don't move out of the neighborhood or the community. Still occupy the same land but pay twice the rent for privacy. I am not saying don't do it but we should exercise the option with more caution, knowing the bigger picture in the background.
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preach Whiskas.

white ppl voluntarily live far from their parents very often. look @ the whole plot of Girls, an upper middle class white girl bein financially supported by her parents while she lives far away in the big apple. then panicking when she gets cut off, while still refusing to leave expensive ass NYC.

I don't think they're a good example of 'allowing their kids to stay home after 18'.

tell us how they do it in Vietnam, boo.
King Du said:
i have a question though...

i kow a shit load of people that had their own spot, but their parents still paid their rent.....

does that count as out on your own?
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same here. again: see the plot of Girls.

it counts as living alone but not as living independently. ur still under ur parents care if u rely on them for ur primary living expense.
 
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