which leads me back to you feeling like there's a void in your kid's life that you need another man to fill.
see that's the insecurity i was talking about......
that sounds like projection at it's finest.....why would it even be interpreted that way?
i don't even understand how this is considered filling a void....what void is being filled??
the dad is doing nothing but hanging out wit the kids and showing them a good time...he's not filing any voids.
when children are in a loving environment, all that "filling voids" shit is frivolous...it's a fun day with their siblings...
when we do fun days for the kids, we get as many kids as possible to make sure all the kids have a good time...so if someone is asking for my kid whent hey already got their siblings how is it interpreted as anything but that???
There's nothing that my kid will get by staying with another man for the weekend that he's not already getting at home.
lol, you act like he trying to replace you or something....the dude just might have some cool shit planned for the kids that's a kid activity.. maybe they going to the zoo, the movies, Disney on ice, a birthday party, he could have multiple cousins n shit already that weekend..... it's literally a question/conversation.
"oh what they doing this weekend? oh word.. that sounds fun.. sure"
communication is key...i don't understand being so naturally standoffish with another dude unless you're insecure about something
Of course we'll talk and figure out what we're all comfortable with as parents and that's where it stops. If you feel you and dude need to be best buddies and go to baseball games together, then that's on you. Goes back to that void you want filled...
it's not about a void being filled, it's about communicating and working together...
shit bothers me when adults act like they can't work together for the kids benefit...put that ego shit aside and just talk to eachother