Is there a wrong here or just a difference of opinion?
- Thread starter Lea
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ego....
nigga ready to end the relationship already.....smh
U call it ego, I call it having a backbone and pair of nuts.
it's the exception cuz niggaz let ego and pride get in the way of effective co-parenting...
if niggaz check their feelings at the door, and work together and this easily becomes the rule...
these situations are only difficult because the adults and parents make them difficult..
if they work together and trust one another, there is no issue....
but they gotta ask themselves why can't they work together....
And you were wrong
so it takes a back bone and a pair of nuts to refuse sitting down and building a trusting relationship with the father of your wives older children?
sounds more like ego
perception
Again, what makes you think buddy hasn't? Everyone aint on me and ya ex gotta be besties or you done tip b
5yrs have passed and now the ex wants to take his kid, you don't think he has a right to say nah? You.....are.....bugging
it's kids involved.
he's an active member in the kids lives who also share a home and family with you.
the only reason you won't build a trusting relationship with this person is because of your personal feelings about him and your lady being together previously
that's pride and ego....yes
cuz the baby ain't a baby no more. by 5, they wanna know why they can't go with their siblings, and that's a reasonable request for a child....
as a parent you gotta ask yourself...why can't they really go?
cuz you ain't cool with the baby daddy?
that shit trivial bruh.. niggaz shoulda been built that relationship....
it's crazy how hard niggaz fight against shit that's beneficial to all parties out of spite
He's an active member of HIS kid's lives, not mine. I don't have to build shit with no nigga cuz I can and will take care of me and mines.
If you wanna spoon with your girl and her ex after a delightful dinner, that's all you bruh. But for me, there's codes and boundaries to everything.
How is it trivial??
I dont fuck with you but I'm supposed to trust my kid with you?? What!
You naive as fuck right now yo. Everyone dont live by the code of no wives, no kids. Im not gonna assume you gonna do right by my kid, you wont be around my kid without me if we not coo
Period
why?
why don't you fuck with him?
that's the whole thing right there..
what reason do you have not to fuck with that man?
from the OP.. nothing was introduced that this dude was nothing but an active father in his child's lives.
just working off that and that alone....there's not one reason to not fuck with dude....outside of ego and pride..
you don't wanna be cool with a dude who used to fuck with your girl..
and that's cool if it's no kids involved.
but there are kids involved.. and he's an active parent in those kids lives.
and the only reason that's not extended to your kid is spite, ego , and pride
do you block anyone else who in them children's life?
is there anyone else that you are cool with chilling with her kids, but not your kids... and ALL YALL kids live together....
a house divided can't stand bruh..
that's ego and spite, and again it had no place in a marriage....shit will fail fucking with that thought process.....we gotta be better than that
his kids and her kids, and if yal married, that's yall kids.. so he's an active member in your kids lives too...
if you ain't ready to consider a woman's children your children as well......then this ain't the move....
His role is being a father in his kid's life and that's where it stops. If there's a void in your kid's life that you feel another man needs to fill, then that's on you fam, call him up and tell him to father your kids. I don't need it.
You created the scenario of me not fucking with him!?!?!
I'm gonna down this twisty windy road of what if with you
Dude in OP aint wrong. Period
it ain't no void bruh,
it's just embracing family.
if that's your wife, her kids should be your kids.
and that's your kids family. so he your family too....
and there's only one thing standing in the way of that...
nigga in OP got ego issues, he's prolly short
He probably wasn't feeling another nigga trying to strong arm himself in his kids life
Instead of trying to spend the weekend with MY kid, how about you try to figure how to get more than 2 weekends with YOUR kids