So when I went on my whole thing about how its an honor to serve one you love......
You completely disagree with that?
Like you truly don't take pleasure in serving those you love?
lol....
no that's what you see....you see subservience cuz you wanna see that...you're looking for it because you routinely challenge traditions and customs....
even though....several happy couples done chimed in and stated they personally take pleasure in serving eachother......
many people take pleasure in service...there's a honor in it.....
so they treat it like an honor....
in the manner of relationships......many woman look for the chance to serve their man in public....it's a social display of affection and respect.....
you may not see it like that cuz you are against many customs and practices that you feel are degrading to women n what not...
but fortunately for those who still practice those types of things.....they don't see anything negative or degrading about it...
its a pride fueled statement that's non-verbally saying....
"this is my man, and i take care of him"
and it impresses people of both sexes who enjoy seeing that kinda commitment from ones s/o
cuz it has nothing to do with training or making someone do something they see as a chore....it's a testament that this dude is absolutely handling his business at such a high level the first chance his lady gets big him up she'll take it....
i think it's a beautiful thing...i know for a fact everything in my relationship is reciprocated so it's never for nothing...
it's earned, honored and well desreved
Look bruh, I'm giving young Josh some game. You're a bitter housewife b don't let Josh walk down your path let him walk his own ok
Again...
If you are at a friends house and you don't get your tail up to make your man's plate, don't get pissy when a 'real' woman does it for you.
#Here's A Seat
#ThatIsAll
haha, alright. Let me help ya'll out with a few more details, cause I see where this is going.
The evening was filled with "couples". By "no one" making their own plate, I meant that there was an assembly line of all of the ladies and a few of the gay fellas in the kitchen fixing plates and taking them to their significant other.
There were at least 3 females who did not get up to help fix plates, let alone bring one to their significant other but got pissy when plates were brought to their man/lady from other individuals.
I am not sure what everyone else is use to, but
1.) you do not sit on your @$$ as a woman when food is being prepared in the kitchen. Call me cavewoman all day but get yo @$$ up and at least ask if you can assist. We are all friends here aint nobody "new".
2.) Even if you thought, "well... maybe, they will make us a plate" which we did prepare the plates, that don't mean sit on your @$$ while everyone else is passing out plates to their s/o and then get pissy when a man/woman brings your dude/chic a plate.
These people aren't new to this. I have actually complained about this same thing on the IC when we hosted Thanksgiving dinner for over 30 people. Everybody but ONE boujee @$$ fru fru chic thought that all things should be served to her and even when her dude asked her if she wouldn't mind making him a plate she tried to get her kid to do it instead. smh.
Yes, it is a "woman" thing.. take care of your D*mn man so you don't get pissy when others have to because you wouldn't.
Is that not the norm anymore?
Do women let others wait on their men or just make the men get his own beer, drink, plate etc etc at home and out with friends?
Perhaps I'm stuck in old ways.
Far as the plate making conversation..........I wish my lady would make another nigga a plate. Unless he's handicap sit yo black ass down. Y'all goofy niggas are something else I tell ya
If we're throwing a dinner/get together at the crib and we invited you then you're like family from the get go so hop you black ass up and make a plate.
My lady's services are for me and me alone FOH