what if you have talked and expressed your feelings? then what?
since you got all the answers sway
again, you and Du are treating these issues in a vacuum and just assume that a dude or female just woke up one day and said, yea, i wanna fuck up my marriage/relationship by cheating on my s/o.
cuz the physical aspect of it is so trivial to the deeper seeded issues....
one if my marriage is on the rocks like that, the last thing on my mind is pussy,
or even hollering at another chick, or even entertaining another chick....
like if me and my wife are in a financial ruin, emotional family disaster, facing total destruction, not speaking, shit approached the realm of abuse.....
it just doesn't make sense to me how introducing a third person remedies that...in fact, i cannot conceive of any marital problem that gets better by introducing a third person..... one of my issues with cheating is it's another problem being presented to a relationship, that is completely unnecessary and 100% avoidable....
another person is not the answer.....you keep making it seem like it was unavoidable or it was a forgone conclusion if other things in the marriage weren't working...
like
"oh they were having trouble for months, years, they hardly talk, they don't even act like a couple....what did you think was gonna happen?"
how bout a divorce? and if you don't wanna get a divorce, try....not fucking anyone......?? i unno...
i mean i was in my 20, and single and went 11 months without....sex and companionship are not necessities in ones life. especially if you gotta marriage on the rocks