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Mr Litty said:
How you created this wild scenario I'll never know. Their previous relationship dont got shit to do with it.

He routinely takes HIS kids. Again, if we don't have nothing but passing words why the hell would I leave my kid with him?

If this was an aunt or uncle who just now wanted to take my kid 5yrs later then the answer would be the same, hell no

A friend of mine is someone I chill with on the reg. I imagine our kids hang out on the reg. Its a party, we all going

A parent from school? Foh b. A play date with us there, sure

It ain't no "let anybody take to kid or let nobody take ya kids' situation. Everyone gets evaluated differently and accordingly.

You bugging
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i'm not bugging...


this is the situation....


the woman who you live with. who you have a family with.

she has children from a previous relationship also living with you.


i don't know about yall, but if a child is living with me, that's for all intents and purposes my child too.

I'm going to love that child like my child, and gonna treat that child like my child. and if their father is coming to pick them up, then me and that dude have to have a relationship. ain't no just grabbing ur kids passing.

if it's a just passing situation... then this relationship ain't gonna work for me...

i don't give a fuck who he is.. ..you taking kids out my house......we gotta have a relationship...


and not just any relationship.. if my wife trust you with her kids, then i gotta trust you with my kids... we gotta be that cool....


and if we ain't.. then i can't do the relationship....


i don't see the need to complicate my life with scenarios like this....
 
DOS_patos said:
Y'all niggas in y'all feeling.

Here i come with the shits.

If I'm married to a chick who has kids with her...me an dude need to be in some sort of respect line if I'm raising his kids.

We might need to have a few sit downs and I need his feedback on his kids and how he would like them raised while implementing how I raise mine and my house rules.

Regardless if I fucks with him...I'm raising his kids. We need to be men about it.

Now with that same respect....he trusts me with his kids and our kids are family.
They can spend time with their dad alone and if dude wants to extend the extended family..they all and we all family.....I'll more than support it.

This is an ideal situation.
Anything else and you being apart of the problem.

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I amended my response to it would depend in his and I relationship and what they doing that weekend

Not enough is known in OP about the extent of they relationship.

But a blind sure, my kid is your kid....fuck outta here b
 
DOS_patos said:
Regardless if I fucks with him...I'm raising his kids. We need to be men about it.

Now with that same respect....he trusts me with his kids and our kids are family.
They can spend time with their dad alone and if dude wants to extend the extended family..they all and we all family.....I'll more than support it.

This is an ideal situation.
Anything else and you being apart of the problem.
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and me and this nigga NEVER agree on shit like this.....

but this is gospel right here
 
Duwop said:
i'm not bugging...


this is the situation....


the woman who you live with. who you have a family with.

she has children from a previous relationship also living with you.


i don't know about yall, but if a child is living with me, that's for all intents and purposes my child too.

I'm going to love that child like my child, and gonna treat that child like my child. and if their father is coming to pick them up, then me and that dude have to have a relationship. ain't no just grabbing ur kids passing.

if it's a just passing situation... then this relationship ain't gonna work for me...

i don't give a fuck who he is.. ..you taking kids out my house......we gotta have a relationship...


and not just any relationship.. if my wife trust you with her kids, then i gotta trust you with my kids... we gotta be that cool....


and if we ain't.. then i can't do the relationship....


i don't see the need to complicate my life with scenarios like this....
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This aint how the real world works

You gonna break up with a chick cause her ex dont wanna be cool with you? Knock it off
 
Mr Litty said:
I amended my response to it would depend in his and I relationship and what they doing that weekend

Not enough is known in OP about the extent of they relationship.

But a blind sure, my kid is your kid....fuck outta here b
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look man, if i meet a chick with kids from a previous relationship and i'm ready to marry this chick, and the kids dad is still super active in their lives..

me and homie gonna have to have a ride along day....may be a weekend....

all ego and insecurity have to be chekd at the door.......they have no place in relationships or situations like this...

me and homie being cool is just as important as me and my wife.....

cuz you don't just marry her, you marry her whole life....
 
Oddly I was raised different and don’t see the issue with it. My step dad and mom been married since I was two. He’s my dad and when my mom and him divorced, I was included into all that. I did the visits along with my brothers(his two children), he remarried and his wife has a son.

The wife son always came over and spent the night with us. We even took him on our family trips. My mama don’t be tripping on shit like that. We considered the son family and my mama included him.

Same shit goes for my younger brothers. My real dad and that side of my family included my two little brothers(no relation to my real dad). They spent the night with that side of the family. Got Christmas gifts, birthday gifts, etc.

I remember a Christmas being full of exes, steps, new wives. Best Christmas ever. My step dad and real dad used to be in the garage or outside cooking tough. My mama and step mother and other step mama(lmaoooooo) used to be chilling tough! All the grannies in the kitchen talking bout old people shit. Watching the adults in my family put all that bullshit aside for the kids was the shit and I’m happy af I was raised that way. Showed me that adults who have divorced and brought in new people can still get along and it ain’t always gotta be drama.
 
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Mr Litty said:
This aint how the real world works

You gonna break up with a chick cause her ex dont wanna be cool with you? Knock it off
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yup.....i don't waste time with relationships that have huge complications like this

there's way too many scenarios that could fuck the whole thing u.. it ain't worth the time or effort
 
GNS said:
I think the siblings hanging out is fine.
But if dude don't want the cat having a relationship with his son then that's just that.
Shouldn't even be an argument
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ego is the killer of many of relationships
 
Kandy said:
Oddly I was raised different and don’t see the issue with it. My step dad and mom been married since I was two. He’s my dad and when my mom and him divorced, I was included into all that. I did the visits along with my brothers(his two children), he remarried and his wife has a son.

The wife son always came over and spent the night with us. We even took him on out family trips. My mama don’t be tripping on shit like that. We considered the son family and my mama included him.

Same shit goes for my younger brothers. My real dad and that side of my family included my two little brothers(no relation to my real dad). They spent the night with that side of the family. Got Christmas gifts, birthday gifts, etc.

I remember a Christmas being full of exes, steps, new wives. Best Christmas ever. My step dad and real dad used to be in the garage or outside cooking tough. My mama and step mother and other step mama(lmaoooooo) used to be chilling tough! All the grannies in the kitchen talking bout old people shit. Watching the adults in my family put all that bullshit aside for the kids was the shit and I’m happy af I was raised that way. Showed me that adults who have divorced and brought in new people can still get along and it ain’t always gotta be drama.
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cuz yall a real ass family that checked ego's at the door.....

there's a million stories like this....and they're all awesome.....this is what i aspire to be if shit don't work out with me and the wife.....drama fre, ego free, lots of love and understanding... family...


u wanna hear drama, pettiness, . listen to the niggaz who pride and ego won't let them b happy out of spite to themselves....


these niggaz rather be miserable and beef with their girls then just check themselves and let the love in.....

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Du we still talking about a IG post

this shit aint got nothing to do with us lol

I'll literally never encounter this situation
 
21 Hafage said:
Du we still talking about a IG post

this shit aint got nothing to do with us lol

I'll literally never encounter this situation
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thank god....i don't think you woulda made it to be honest
 
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AP21 said:
Du lives for making up wild scenarios that don't make no type of sense
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so kandy's picture perfect representation of a co-parenting situation in a loving and ego-less environment is making up wild scenarios??

glad to see being responsible, mature, and working together is a wild scenario that makes no sense to yall....

smh
 
Duwop said:
so kandy's picture perfect representation of a co-parenting situation in a loving and ego-less environment is making up wild scenarios??

glad to see being responsible, mature, and working together is a wild scenario that makes no sense to yall....

smh
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Kandy situation and OP are vastly different

You clearly disregarded OP and went with a scenario that's more to your liking
 
those people are great

and their lives and morals and minds are great....hats off to them
 
Duwop said:
so kandy's picture perfect representation of a co-parenting situation in a loving and ego-less environment is making up wild scenarios??

glad to see being responsible, mature, and working together is a wild scenario that makes no sense to yall....

smh
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I'm talking about you

And while her situation works for them, that's an exception and not a rule
 
Are these mfs siamese twins and can never be apart? Separating them one weekend out of the month isn't gonna kill em.

I wish a chick would try to press me about some shit like this, her and their kid will be going over there for the weekend, permanently.
 
Mr Litty said:
Kandy situation and OP are vastly different

You clearly disregarded OP and went with a scenario that's more to your liking
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i ain't disregard OP,

i said he was insecure. and the chick was overly aggy....
 
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