I Wish You Didn't Trust Me So Much

[Judy Winslow]

I wouldn't want to be married to a man who wouldn't be capable of saying no to advances.


That's a bad friend. You weren't to blame.

I'm always the whistleblower, I'll tell a chick with a quickness if her man hits on me. Even if we aint tight like that. It's lost me a couple people but I don't care, cuz I'd want the same done for me... so that I can drop the snake ass nigga.

I told all of them so quick and they all blamed me except one. That's why I currently have two friends left. One whose man never hit on me and one whose ex asked her if I was single because he wanted to get to know me.

Niggas ain't shit. I mean niggas in this situation ain't shit.

 

[Golden]

Heres the thing we put a lot of emphasis on trust and blatantly ignore other human complexities.

humans are flawed by default.

you trusting your partner, or your friends...isnt enough.

I agree with you, however, I don't consider hitting on your spouse's friends to be within the realm of normalized behavior. It's only common because cheating is common. Cheating isn't acceptable behavior either. You weren't the first woman outside of their relationship that they hit on.

I've stayed with friends and their spouses for weeks at a time on some occasions when I was traveling through town, with no advances. I've also been in a room with another friend's boyfriend for like 10 minutes before he made a move. It isn't a matter of leaving them alone together, that was just an opportune setting for an opportunist to reveal themselves.

 

[Judy Winslow]

Just cause you trust them don't mean they won't do shit!

 

[Knock_Twice]

if i gotta friend that would try my girl..he ain't my friend...

if i gotta girl that would entertain it, she not my girl....


but they both can get these hands for violating...

As I asked @BNE how do you know what a person will or would not do??

Bobby said in the song, he knows that Sam could trust him with his life

Give the shirt off his back

So how do you see double-crosser in that when the man says he can trust him with his life?

 

[Duwop]

exactly. they r both crazy, cuz I am crazy. anybody who knows me, knows that. it aint gonna end well.

exactly if you smash my girl you might as well swing no me next time you see me, and if you my lady and you smashing other niggaz you might as well do the same. cuz we all gonna be some fighting motherfuckers the second i find out....

i make no excuses for who i am....and anyone who is my friend or my girl knows exactly who i am.....there some things i'm wiling to be reasonable about...there are some things i'm just stupid as shit and have trouble understanding...

i don't understand betrayal and disloyalty it doesn't make sense to me....and i'm not going to react reasonably to something i don't understand...

these are the risks people run when they get into shit like this, and who am i to deny someone earned consequences to their actions.....especially when they haven't exactly been doing anything nice for me at the given moment,......

 

[Race Jones]

Im certain all of your friends have fantasized about your partner.

I hate to put it out there like that but if you only knew what I encounter with men and women on a daily....

friends, family, listening to stories of random strangers in bars...

Im not saying your partner will do you dirty or your friends will do you dirty (I hope not)

but you would be surprised about how people get down out here, even those closes to you.

Im just saying...be open, honest, and aware.

 

[Knock_Twice]

Just cause you trust them don't mean they won't do shit!

Exactly

In the song, Bobby is saying, I wish you didn't trust me so much, he is dude's best friend but yet he's lusting after his best friend's girl Lol

Like dude is being a scumbag but his friend don't know it, you can't know if yo friend won't cross you

 

[Duwop]

As I asked @BNE how do you know what a person will or would not do??

Bobby said in the song, he knows that Sam could trust him with his life

Give the shirt off his back

So how do you see double-crosser in that when the man says he can trust him with his life?

i don't know, and i don't care....i'm not going to suspect someone of some shit if i trust them on that level, i'm not even going to considerate that kinda shit from them if i trust them on that level.....

and i'm okay with that... cuz you're not supposed to suspect people you trust on that level....

if someone that close chooses to betray me....that's their decision....they came to that shit all on their own....there was nothing i could have done to prevent someone from betraying me if that's who they are inside....

i'm not spome special person who's above being shited on....people get duped all the time...people smarter than me, people who do more for their friends and family than me....

all i'm saying is better people than me get shited on daily....so there's nothing i can do to prevent it..... btu i damn sure gonna get my licks in if it goes down.....

 

[Judy Winslow]

Exactly

In the song, Bobby is saying, I wish you didn't trust me so much, he is dude's best friend but yet he's lusting after his best friend's girl Lol

Like dude is being a scumbag but his friend don't know it, you can't know if yo friend won't cross you

And you won't know until it happens.

So, don't leave them mfs alone together.

 

[Judge Dread]

So the same people who go through there s/o phones are now saying they leave people in the house with them alone? I guess some of you are consistent but I try to avoid anything that could even appear to be a problem. I have very close family and maybe 1 or 2 Bretheren that I would be cool with but just the regular person no. But again that is me. My wife had a friend come into town a couple of weeks ago when I was away. He said let's meet up and before she even called him back she thought to herself what do I look like being out with a man when my husband is away and she had our child with her. Some times you have to use what could be perceived as a guidance to your actions.

 

[Duwop]

Im certain all of your friends have fantasized about your partner.

I hate to put it out there like that but if you only knew what I encounter with men and women on a daily....

friends, family, listening to stories of random strangers in bars...

Im not saying your partner will do you dirty or your friends will do you dirty (I hope not)

but you would be surprised about how people get down out here, even those closes to you.

Im just saying...be open, honest, and aware.

ive never fantasized about any of my friends partners... so why would i suspect them of doing the same?

that's a peculiar thing to be certain of.....cuz i can promise you i' m not in that class that's lusting for my homeboy's girl......

 

[Joshie Kahn]

Heres the thing we put a lot of emphasis on trust and blatantly ignore other human complexities.

Yeah, but if you're in a relationship and you don't have trust in your s/o to not cheat on you then I'd have to question if they can even be trusted to pay bills on time, be there when you need them, etc.

That's a major flaw

 

[Knock_Twice]

I agree with you, however, I don't consider hitting on your spouse's friends to be within the realm of normalized behavior. It's only common because cheating is common. Cheating isn't acceptable behavior either. You weren't the first woman outside of their relationship that they hit on.

I've stayed with friends and their spouses for weeks at a time on some occasions when I was traveling through town, with no advances. I've also been in a room with another friend's boyfriend for like 10 minutes before he made a move. It isn't a matter of leaving them alone together, that was just an opportune setting for an opportunist to reveal themselves.

Im certain all of your friends have fantasized about your partner.

I hate to put it out there like that but if you only knew what I encounter with men and women on a daily....

friends, family, listening to stories of random strangers in bars...

Im not saying your partner will do you dirty or your friends will do you dirty (I hope not)

but you would be surprised about how people get down out here, even those closes to you.

Im just saying...be open, honest, and aware.

I was coming around to this

Have any of yall ever said something in your mind about your friend's spouse?

 

[Golden]

I used the word spouse, but let's replace the word with gf, and yall on some shacking tip for the time being.

As I was talking to @BNE and as in the song, You don't know what yo boy may do, Sam Cook and Bobby Womack was good best friends and look what Bobby do after Sam Cooke died, wasn't even a year, 3 months and he married his wife.

I'm sure you trust yo homeboy, but you don't know ppl intentions and what they would do in certain situations and moments. Things happen fast

spouse and bf or whatever is the same thing to me in this instance. wouldn't treat it any different.

You're never inside someones head. I'm saying, if there's enough doubt in you for you to be worried at work, you aren't keeping the right company. People who get that close to you should be the ones who've proven that they can be trusted.

I'm not a trusting person. I search through phones, I pry into history n so on, all to protect myself from potentially being done wrong. because everyone has that potential in them.

that is why there's a difference between potential risk and identified risk. identified risk is when u know someone has a propensity for something because they've displayed characteristics or actually been involved in incidents where that has proven to be a problem area. potential risk exists for everyone and is a matter of circumstance or opportunity.

If they're trustworthy enough for me to marry them or be cohabitating, they have gone through serious hoops and only got that close to me because I don't think they'd do that, despite the potential risk. I don't want to be with someone whom I can't feel comfortable leaving my friends with. Similarly, I don't want to have friends that I can't leave a guy I'm involved with around.

If that cuts down on my tribe, so be it.

Im certain all of your friends have fantasized about your partner.

I hate to put it out there like that but if you only knew what I encounter with men and women on a daily....

friends, family, listening to stories of random strangers in bars...

Im not saying your partner will do you dirty or your friends will do you dirty (I hope not)

but you would be surprised about how people get down out here, even those closes to you.

Im just saying...be open, honest, and aware.

Never in my life have I fantasized about a friend's partner. I don't believe I'm a special snowflake. If I exist, others do too.

 

[Duwop]

I was coming around to this

Have any of yall ever said something in your mind about your friend's spouse?

naw...i'm weird that way.. once i consider a chick off limits, i don't even look at her like that no more....

this was even before marriage...i was that dude you could leave alone with your girl and suspect nothing....i used to get irritated at the suggestion

 

[Golden]

I was coming around to this

Have any of yall ever said something in your mind about your friend's spouse?

I view my friend's spouses like I would distant cousins, and I hope for the same in return.

You don't fantasize about your distant cousin at the family reunion.

 

[Judy Winslow]

I was coming around to this

Have any of yall ever said something in your mind about your friend's spouse?

Friends and I were having a discussion about types and we all realized we didn't like the same type of guys. So, I said that the closest guy to my type as far as looks would be my friend Becky's man. One of the girls went and told Becky and Becky started acting funny with me. Becky knew better though because her man was in prison and I don't desire a man like that. What I look like being a wife pen pal? FOH.

 

[Judy Winslow]

I've never fantasized about none of my friends men.

HELL NAW. They are all trash.

 

[Judge Dread]

Im certain all of your friends have fantasized about your partner.

I hate to put it out there like that but if you only knew what I encounter with men and women on a daily....

friends, family, listening to stories of random strangers in bars...

Im not saying your partner will do you dirty or your friends will do you dirty (I hope not)

but you would be surprised about how people get down out here, even those closes to you.

Im just saying...be open, honest, and aware.

What kind of people do you run across? Everyone is not lusting after everyone.

 

[Knock_Twice]

naw...i'm weird that way.. once i consider a chick off limits, i don't even look at her like that no more....

this was even before marriage...i was that dude you could leave alone with your girl and suspect nothing....i used to get irritated at the suggestion

Nothing wrong with you breh, need more like you, but most niggas aint wired like that, most chicks aint wired like that.

I'm not sure if you remember what Chris Rock said in the Never Scared stand-up "Chicks don't wanna fuck just any ole man, they wanna fuck yo man"
something along those lines.

Dudes/some, will be like "hey I need to find a woman just like her" when you introduce them to your friend

Chicks introduce their man to their homegirl they be on some "I need to fuck him" LOL

Chris Rock yall, may have been jokes