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I Wish You Didn't Trust Me So Much

Ive had several of my friends partners make advances at me.

One of them I ended up falling for.

shit gets thick, REALLLLLLLL quick.

I would be cautious of leaving your spouse around your friends.... period.
 
Knock_Twice said:
As I presented the example to the Chi-town breh, I want to present the same example to you:

Your homegirl/cousin/co-worker/ (who is pretty and fine, nice set of teeth etc) needs to stay at your crib for 3 to 4 weeks until the ppl finish with her apartment or until she can get her income tax check so she can get on her feet

Yo dude is home doing the day and works at night, you work doing the day, Ole girl who is staying with you works the night shift.

What's your mood at work?
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I'm good at work cause she won't be living with me. She better call her mama nem.
 
BNE said:
the chance is never zero but if, for example, ur boy has smashed taken women or cheated on his girls in the past, that's an identifier of untrustworthiness. if they treat other ppl like that, it cld happen to u.

yes, ppl who have never made a step wrong do cheat too but there r people who just don't repect other ppls unions much. thats a red flag.
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Good answer

What's your thoughts on opening up your home to your homegirl, who, let's say, has had her share of dudes. (which by the way is normal)
 
Again, I am in a different culture so to speak but when would a man be at my house when I am not there if he isn't family? If I go by someone's house and they are not there I will sit in my car until they arrive. I don't think it is about trust but why would I walk into my house and there is a man sitting in my chair watching football on my tv with a drink in his hand so to speak. In the Caribbean you can't get seen entering and leaving a man's gate when he isn't home. It just isn't right.
 
Race Jones said:
Ive had several of my friends partners make advances at me.

One of them I ended up falling for.

shit gets thick, REALLLLLLLL quick.

I would be cautious of leaving your spouse around your friends.... period.
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Not to get into yo business to much

Was the situation described as what Bobby is saying in his song?
 
Race Jones said:
Ive had several of my friends partners make advances at me.

One of them I ended up falling for.

shit gets thick, REALLLLLLLL quick.

I would be cautious of leaving your spouse around your friends.... period.
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spouses that hit on your friends aren't worth keeping. I hope they got alimony or something (this is why it exists!).
Knock_Twice said:
Good answer

What's your thoughts on opening up your home to your homegirl, who, let's say, has had her share of dudes. (which by the way is normal)
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Having a high body count doesn't make you more likely to cheat. Every one of the men she smashed could very well have been single, to her knowledge. Folks cheat on their spouses with virgins sometimes. Promiscuity =/= immorality.

If she had a history of knowingly making advances on taken men, then you might be onto something. Even then tho, the onus is on him not to take her up on it.

I try not to keep the company of people who don't respect other people's relationships. I only open up my home to people who may as well be family, so that wouldn't be on my mind.
 
Revolver Ocelot said:
This 1000%.

If you can't trust your boy around ur girl and vice versa, then you need to cut some folks outta ur life.
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This ain't always the case though.

I've been left alone with an ex best friend's boyfriend because she trusted us and he made a pass at me. When I told her, she came at me like I was the wrong one.

I don't like none of my friends exes or current boyfriends. They were all not my type and very yuck to me. Every last one of my then 5 close friends men has hit on me and all but one of them believed their man and not me.
 
Knock_Twice said:
Just for the sake of the thread and convo, what if you opened up your doors to your home/place

Would you still be good at work?
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If it was my current best friend and my man, yea. If we being hypothetical.
 
Lurker10 said:
Again, I am in a different culture so to speak but when would a man be at my house when I am not there if he isn't family? If I go by someone's house and they are not there I will sit in my car until they arrive. I don't think it is about trust but why would I walk into my house and there is a man sitting in my chair watching football on my tv with a drink in his hand so to speak. In the Caribbean you can't get seen entering and leaving a man's gate when he isn't home. It just isn't right.
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I'll give you an example, a cousin of yours needs to stay with you and your wife/gf, you trying to help dude, you let him stay until he gets on his feet.

Let's say your wife doesn't work, or works a afternoon shift maybe night shift, so she's at home with the cousin, you work a morning shift and you're gone.
 
I wouldn't want to be married to a man who wouldn't be capable of saying no to advances.

Kandy Pants said:
This ain't always the case though.

I've been left alone with an ex best friend's boyfriend because she trusted us and he made a pass at me. When I told her, she came at me like I was the wrong one.

I don't like none of my friends exes or current boyfriends. They were all not my type and very yuck to me. Every last one of my then 5 close friends men has hit on me and all but one of them believed their man and not me.
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That's a bad friend. You weren't to blame.

I'm always the whistleblower, I'll tell a chick with a quickness if her man hits on me. Even if we aint tight like that. It's lost me a couple people but I don't care, cuz I'd want the same done for me... so that I can drop the snake ass nigga.
 
if i gotta friend that would try my girl..he ain't my friend...

if i gotta girl that would entertain it, she not my girl....


but they both can get these hands for violating...
 
Heres the thing we put a lot of emphasis on trust and blatantly ignore other human complexities.

humans are flawed by default.

you trusting your partner, or your friends...isnt enough.
 
King Du said:
if i gotta friend that would try my girl..he ain't my friend...

if i gotta girl that would entertain it, she not my girl....


but they both can get these hands for violating...
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exactly. they r both crazy, cuz I am crazy. anybody who knows me, knows that. it aint gonna end well.
 
Revolver Ocelot said:
If she's ur spouse I would hope that by the time u said I do you would know her. Same with ur boy, unless this is some new friendship or something.
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I used the word spouse, but let's replace the word with gf, and yall on some shacking tip for the time being.

As I was talking to @BNE and as in the song, You don't know what yo boy may do, Sam Cook and Bobby Womack was good best friends and look what Bobby do after Sam Cooke died, wasn't even a year, 3 months and he married his wife.

I'm sure you trust yo homeboy, but you don't know ppl intentions and what they would do in certain situations and moments. Things happen fast
 
Knock_Twice said:
I'll give you an example, a cousin of yours needs to stay with you and your wife/gf, you trying to help dude, you let him stay until he gets on his feet.

Let's say your wife doesn't work, or works a afternoon shift maybe night shift, so she's at home with the cousin, you work a morning shift and you're gone.
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I have other places for him to stay. But maybe if I had a bigger place and he needed to stay somewhere but for the most part no is still the answer. When people come to see me and I am not home they wait downstairs.
 
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