Fair or Foul? Woman spews hate towards father

[DOS_patos]

I, personally, don't have that problem with my kids. However, having been a father for nearly 30 years I can wholeheartedly tell you I 100% understand it, and I've seen it. Families with that one kid that, no matter how hard they try, ends up in some fuckery. In one case the child's bullshit ended up with the family home getting shot up. She had to go. Now, you wouldn't know that kinda shit happened today 'cause they're all lovey-dovey laughing and shit, but there was a time (years in fact) when she wasn't allowed anywhere near the crib. Neither parent liked who the child became, but they still loved her none the less and supported her behind the scenes for years until she got her act together.

I won't say it's even a common thing, for the most part parents tend to like and love their children but you have to be honest with yourself and admit that kids can be fuck-ups and parents don't have to like that one bit.

This is how you can tell who has grow or older kids. A few people talking from lack of experience raising kids up. That’s ok. But take note ti what this man is saying

 

[Dwayne]

Damn so she really was online telling folks go jump in the grave next to her dead daddy who she trying to get her like 2 minutes of fame off lololololololol

 

[konceptjones]

I'm tryna tell y'all taking care of another human being is a thankless job.

Lol.

The truth of this is, nobody asked to be here. It's not like you can choose your parents or the time period you were born in, which dictates parenting practices.

Everyone is at the mercy of fate.

Another unfortunate thing is... nobody knows how to be parent. Nobody is prepared to be a parent. People become parents through pure biological action. There's no test, there's no class, there's no degree, there's no expert you can consult.

Once you become an adult and able to reflect on being a child, you understand these things.

1. Your parents didn't know what the fuck they were doing.

2. Their parents didn't know what the fuck they were are doing.

3. Majority of the adults around you as a kid didn't know what the fuck they were doing.

4. Parenthood and adulthood is the blind leading the blind. It's a cycle of motherfuckers that have absolutely no right or qualifications to raise or take care of another human being other than biology.

5. Most people on Earth are here because two people fucked, not because they were planned or wanted. And even if you were planned, half the time soon as you popped out and started crying, your parents regretted it and couldn't wait until you grew up.

You become a little more forgiving of parents and their choices.

But if you think like a kid still and you need mommy and daddy to love you and all this bullshit, then you go around resenting motherfuckers for shit they didn't even know how to do or probably didn't even want to do.

These cats on here don't wanna hear none of that. They acting like they know precisely how to properly parent out the gate and make zero mistakes. But they all got many years to go whereas I've got adult children I'm still guiding through life. Maybe, juuuuuust maybe I might know a thing or two, maybe I've seen a thing or two, but none of that matters 'cause clearly they got the answers.

Lol, niggas don't even know all the questions yet but somehow got the answers.

 

[DMorgan]

Or he wasnt perfect.

This is a cop out response. Nobody expects their parents to be perfect. At the same time there are things that kids expect from parents but IMO perfection ain't never been one of them.

Has fuck all to do with expecting perfection from people even kids know are imperfect.

 

[BlackAx410]

I, personally, don't have that problem with my kids. However, having been a father for nearly 30 years I can wholeheartedly tell you I 100% understand it, and I've seen it. Families with that one kid that, no matter how hard they try, ends up in some fuckery. In one case the child's bullshit ended up with the family home getting shot up. She had to go. Now, you wouldn't know that kinda shit happened today 'cause they're all lovey-dovey laughing and shit, but there was a time (years in fact) when she wasn't allowed anywhere near the crib. Neither parent liked who the child became, but they still loved her none the less and supported her behind the scenes for years until she got her act together.

I won't say it's even a common thing, for the most part parents tend to like and love their children but you have to be honest with yourself and admit that kids can be fuck-ups and parents don't have to like that one bit.

I understand what you mean with that example

 

[konceptjones]

This is a cop out response. Nobody expects their parents to be perfect. At the same time there are things that kids expect from parents but IMO perfection ain't never been one of them.

Has fuck all to do with expecting perfection from people even kids know are imperfect.

Actually, the way y'all are responding that's precisely what it appears you're expecting. Daddy can't be flawed. Daddy gotta do this and that 'cause children and shit. Well, chances are daddy got the blueprint watching his daddy, and his daddy got it from his own. So all you got to work from is what you saw with your own eyes. Y'all acting like there's a field manual to this parenting shit and there really ain't. Daddy's focus on providing for his children is time tested and as old as humanity itself and that's where most men start from. That's all we got to go on. So if some men work 7 days a week to make sure his kids are provided for, maybe allow the man a bit of grace 'cause that just might be all he knows to do.

 

[DMorgan]

LLS some of yall contradicting the shit out of yourselves based on things yall said in other threads and not even realizing it or just flat out flip flopping.

 

[Dwayne]

This is a cop out response. Nobody expects their parents to be perfect. At the same time there are things that kids expect from parents but IMO perfection ain't never been one of them.

Has fuck all to do with expecting perfection from people even kids know are imperfect.

Its not a cop out. He was lacking in a certain area and shes dragging him across the internet (for no reason but to just do it) while telling other folks they need to die.

 

[DMorgan]

Actually, the way y'all are responding that's precisely what it appears you're expecting. Daddy can't be flawed. Daddy gotta do this and that 'cause children and shit. Well, chances are daddy got the blueprint watching his daddy, and his daddy got it from his own. So all you got to work from is what you saw with your own eyes. Y'all acting like there's a field manual to this parenting shit and there really ain't. Daddy's focus on providing for his children is time tested and as old as humanity itself and that's where most men start from. That's all we got to go on. So if some men work 7 days a week to make sure his kids are provided for, maybe allow the man a bit of grace 'cause that just might be all he knows to do.

Nobody said the father couldn't be flawed. That's the way you're taking it because you can't see or respect the kids point of view.

The bold is wrong.

 

[DMorgan]

Its not a cop out. He was lacking in a certain area and shes dragging him across the internet (for no reason but to just do it) while telling other folks they need to die.

It is just because she spoke on him lacking in an area doesn't mean she expected perfection. Everything doesn't weigh the same or have the same effects.

 

[ZMaKEa]

These cats on here don't wanna hear none of that. They acting like they know precisely how to properly parent out the gate and make zero mistakes. But they all got many years to go whereas I've got adult children I'm still guiding through life. Maybe, juuuuuust maybe I might know a thing or two, maybe I've seen a thing or two, but none of that matters 'cause clearly they got the answers.

Lol, niggas don't even know all the questions yet but somehow got the answers.

Man listen.

Like my momma told me when I became a teenager.

"No child survives childhood without a few scars. I just pray that you don't resent us for what we didn't know, but we tried to raise you all so you overcome where we failed."

I get why kids hate their parents and hold grudges and shit.

But at the end up day, you a got damn adult now.

Your life is your own now.

Your parents failed you and guess what parents fail their kids everyday.

You just hope the successes outweighs the failures.

If them children don't wanna talk to their dad now, don't be falling out and crying over the casket when he gone.

Keep that same energy.

 

[Big_Ev]

I just hate the whole social media aspect of it. Why air out your family issues for the whole world to see?

 

[BlackAx410]

Think about this before you answer:

What does that have to do with liking your child?

Bonding and potentially having mutual interest

 

[DMorgan]

Man listen.

Like my momma told me when I became a teenager.

"No child survives childhood without a few scars. I just pray that you don't resent us for what we didn't know, but we tried to raise you all so you overcome where we failed."

I get why kids hate their parents and hold grudges and shit.

But at the end up day, you a got damn adult now.

Your life is your own now.

Your parents failed you and guess what parents fail their kids everyday.

You just hope the successes outweighs the failures.

You do realize with a financial parent and that's all they did. Didn't actually "raise" their kid. That is those kids whole issue they feel their father didn't actually raise them.

 

[konceptjones]

I just hate the whole social media aspect of it. Why air out your family issues for the whole world to see?

This right here. Everything don't need to be posted on social media.

 

[BlackRain]

If so hopefully he matched that energy and didn't leave them nothing ungrateful ass kids.

Well given how they were raised they were the ones who matched his energy. He got exactly what he gave them

 

[Dwayne]

Well given how they were raised they were the ones who matched his energy. He got exactly what he gave them

Hes dead. Aint nothing to match.

 

[T. Sanford]

That's wack to me. If he wasn't available because of fuckshit I understand but he was doing it for the fam, let's not act like parents being emotionally available isn't a pretty new thing. I don't think he should be made to suffer for a common mistake a lot of fathers have made. Thats taught behaviour which until pretty recently was the norm. It's only our generation that realized that error in our parents ways.

If you can identify he was emotionally unavailable and you have major issues and resentment because of it you should be able to also identify he's trying and maybe instead of walking out the room every time he comes in you sit down and talk about why you have that resentment and you try and work through it. Seems clear he's willing. Anything else is some fuckshit and those kids are hypocrites.

Maybe he didn't understand the entire mission but he didn't fail it.

Fuck them.

This

Oh yeah, f those kids

 

[DMorgan]

Hes dead. Aint nothing to match.

They did while he was alive according to the post. I mean walking out the room when he comes in would be matching the energy they felt he gave.

 

[BlackRain]

I'm tryna tell y'all taking care of another human being is a thankless job.

Lol.

The truth of this is, nobody asked to be here. It's not like you can choose your parents or the time period you were born in, which dictates parenting practices.

Everyone is at the mercy of fate.

Another unfortunate thing is... nobody knows how to be parent. Nobody is prepared to be a parent. People become parents through pure biological action. There's no test, there's no class, there's no degree, there's no expert you can consult.

Once you become an adult and able to reflect on being a child, you understand these things.

1. Your parents didn't know what the fuck they were doing.

2. Their parents didn't know what the fuck they were are doing.

3. Majority of the adults around you as a kid didn't know what the fuck they were doing.

4. Parenthood and adulthood is the blind leading the blind. It's a cycle of motherfuckers that have absolutely no right or qualifications to raise or take care of another human being other than biology.

5. Most people on Earth are here because two people fucked, not because they were planned or wanted. And even if you were planned, half the time soon as you popped out and started crying, your parents regretted it and couldn't wait until you grew up.

You become a little more forgiving of parents and their choices.

But if you think like a kid still and you need mommy and daddy to love you and all this bullshit, then you go around resenting motherfuckers for shit they didn't even know how to do or probably didn't even want to do.

I agree that nobody inherently knows how to parent and its a big ass game of trial and error. However we have progressed as a society enough to know that certain shit is good and bad for human development and playing ignorant to those things does more harm than good...and it's also not an excuse or pass for parents being shitty or neglectful towards their kids.