Fair or Foul? Woman spews hate towards father
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Big_Ev
Mr. Brick City
I can only go back to what I said about my pops a couple of pages back. My granddad wasn't there emotionally for my father and his siblings like he should have. So man dad did the same thing for the most part. He recognized later in life that he was wrong in certain areas.
konceptjones
The one between three and three.
You can make amends as long as the person is open to it. Them kids were not willing to give their father a chance despite everything else he did for them. You ask me, they're ungrateful assholes.
Maybe it's better that he's dead.
Qawshun
ChiefNem
If so hopefully he matched that energy and didn't leave them nothing ungrateful ass kids.
SeaSnake
OG
lol ungrateful cause he dropped the ball?
One could easily say had he been there to teach that emotional intelligence they would've been more open to see his flaws and forgive as opposed to returning the coldness they felt that got from him. The vast majority of the time how your kids treat you is a direct reflection on how they feel about how you raised them. So if all your kids are basically on some "fuck you" shit then somewhere along the line the parent dropped the ball severely.
IP360
Doctorate & Ph.D in Bootyology
Bet money they'll be the main ones pissed he left them out his will.
I mean as an adult and in the workforce...I think I'd be a lil bit more forgiving and understanding. Especially if he was the only breadwinner trying to provide for the family. I'd at least let him know why we're reacting the way we are.
But I can't see myself just outright shunning him. At the end of the day...he's still my father. He still provided for us. Yeah there may still be some emotional laspes...but again as an adult...Iike to think I'd be at a point where I understood.
Now if he was on some "Fucc yall kids! I gotta get this bread" type deal...then the resentment is warranted.
I mean as an adult and in the workforce...I think I'd be a lil bit more forgiving and understanding. Especially if he was the only breadwinner trying to provide for the family. I'd at least let him know why we're reacting the way we are.
But I can't see myself just outright shunning him. At the end of the day...he's still my father. He still provided for us. Yeah there may still be some emotional laspes...but again as an adult...Iike to think I'd be at a point where I understood.
Now if he was on some "Fucc yall kids! I gotta get this bread" type deal...then the resentment is warranted.
konceptjones
The one between three and three.
OR
Their MOTHER could have taught them at least a piece of that and maybe they would have been more compassionate towards the man that did everything he could to make sure they were fed, clothed, and had a roof over their heads.
Typically, it's the mother that provides more emotional support for the kids. Where was she during this?
Apparently their mom also worked and was still there for them
She was there apparently doing just that...but getting something from one parent doesn't negate the feeling of neglect from another parent. Expecting the mother to be the sole provider of that is putting an unfair burden on her when there's 2 parents in the house. Nobody is negating the importance of financially providing for your kids but to pretend as if being a parent starts and stops there we all know is false. Being a parent is more than about "I paid the bills so you should love me" and wanting more from your parent doesn't make a child ungrateful
SeaSnake
OG
Seems like a lot of excuses
Putting a roof over their head and food on the table is nice and all but a father still need to be available at everything else dealing with parenting
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DMorgan
You niggas is EXCOMMUNICADO!!!
If folks not open it to it. That makes your statement false.
I 100% disagree with the bold.
DMorgan
You niggas is EXCOMMUNICADO!!!
Everybody don't give a fuck about be left something from a dead relative. You not really making the point you think are with that statement.
DMorgan
You niggas is EXCOMMUNICADO!!!
Stop making so much sense.
Dwayne
Not Like Us
Or he wasnt perfect.
I'm tryna tell y'all taking care of another human being is a thankless job.
Lol.
The truth of this is, nobody asked to be here. It's not like you can choose your parents or the time period you were born in, which dictates parenting practices.
Everyone is at the mercy of fate.
Another unfortunate thing is... nobody knows how to be parent. Nobody is prepared to be a parent. People become parents through pure biological action. There's no test, there's no class, there's no degree, there's no expert you can consult.
Once you become an adult and able to reflect on being a child, you understand these things.
1. Your parents didn't know what the fuck they were doing.
2. Their parents didn't know what the fuck they were are doing.
3. Majority of the adults around you as a kid didn't know what the fuck they were doing.
4. Parenthood and adulthood is the blind leading the blind. It's a cycle of motherfuckers that have absolutely no right or qualifications to raise or take care of another human being other than biology.
5. Most people on Earth are here because two people fucked, not because they were planned or wanted. And even if you were planned, half the time soon as you popped out and started crying, your parents regretted it and couldn't wait until you grew up.
You become a little more forgiving of parents and their choices.
But if you think like a kid still and you need mommy and daddy to love you and all this bullshit, then you go around resenting motherfuckers for shit they didn't even know how to do or probably didn't even want to do.
Lol.
The truth of this is, nobody asked to be here. It's not like you can choose your parents or the time period you were born in, which dictates parenting practices.
Everyone is at the mercy of fate.
Another unfortunate thing is... nobody knows how to be parent. Nobody is prepared to be a parent. People become parents through pure biological action. There's no test, there's no class, there's no degree, there's no expert you can consult.
Once you become an adult and able to reflect on being a child, you understand these things.
1. Your parents didn't know what the fuck they were doing.
2. Their parents didn't know what the fuck they were are doing.
3. Majority of the adults around you as a kid didn't know what the fuck they were doing.
4. Parenthood and adulthood is the blind leading the blind. It's a cycle of motherfuckers that have absolutely no right or qualifications to raise or take care of another human being other than biology.
5. Most people on Earth are here because two people fucked, not because they were planned or wanted. And even if you were planned, half the time soon as you popped out and started crying, your parents regretted it and couldn't wait until you grew up.
You become a little more forgiving of parents and their choices.
But if you think like a kid still and you need mommy and daddy to love you and all this bullshit, then you go around resenting motherfuckers for shit they didn't even know how to do or probably didn't even want to do.