Spare the rod, spoil the child

[Meeks]

Even then when I see people say things like "whew, that child is going to be a problem once they're older". Like, why so negative? Many of us did dumb stuff as children and have grown up to be pretty cool adults. We aren't perfect and expect people not to expect so much out of us but we really expect the most out of our children lol.

Knowing what to expect from children and at all ages is important for real. That will help determine how we handle the things that have been normal behavior all along but people have embedded the idea that they're "bad" and "out of line" for every thing.

 

[Duwop]

As I stated before that school may have very well been a problem altogether. Many people that work with children don't even know how to properly deal with children. She is part of the problem. That doesn't mean he didn't do something wrong, it does mean that she had no damn clue how to handle the situation though.

Yea, it's very difficult to adult though this shit when both sides fucking up....

School fucking up.... But kids still an asshole.

Lol, and like I said in that depression thread.... That's just one fucking thing.
I'm literally dealing with another as I type this.... So I'm just venting right now

 

[DOS_patos]

Time and money homie. I work two jobs already.

Which means I have limited time, and need that extra money.

And the wife works too far away. Plus her hours are ignorant. We tried to put him in the white school district by her job. You know she work with kids, so them activities n shit right there at her disposal. Use her grandmother address. They right across the street, and wife's job busses to his school.


ManThese bitches followed her home, and threatened to sue us.

whats the long term plan for the family?

you guys need to relocate.

easier said then done i know...but dont lose the kids within or to the city.

 

[Meeks]

Yea, it's very difficult to adult though this shit when both sides fucking up....

School fucking up.... But kids still an asshole.

Lol, and like I said in that depression thread.... That's just one fucking thing.
I'm literally dealing with another as I type this.... So I'm just venting right now

Du, I promise I totally understand. Adulting is hard, parenting is hard. I'm sitting over here right now like damn...I don't wanna do neither one today. On top of dealing with depression.

I sat here yesterday and just admitted to my home girls that I may be going through postpartum depression. My daughter is also in a major tantrum phase, so I'm constantly having pep talks with myself each morning lol. However, me knowing that this phase is a normal part of her development helps me deal with it better and also allows me to properly handle her. Which in return will help her better express herself to me.

 

[JJ Evans]

Even then when I see people say things like "whew, that child is going to be a problem once they're older". Like, why so negative? Many of us did dumb stuff as children and have grown up to be pretty cool adults. We aren't perfect and expect people not to expect so much out of us but we really expect the most out of our children lol.

Knowing what to expect from children and at all ages is important for real. That will help determine how we handle the things that have been normal behavior all along but people have embedded the idea that they're "bad" and "out of line" for every thing.

Most of the kids that were terrible in my grammar school ended up being terrible adults, as well.

As a parent, we have to correct our child's fuck ups as soon as possible. Sometimes that requires an ass whoopin.

 

[Meeks]

Most of the kids that were terrible in my grammar school ended up being terrible adults, as well.

As a parent, we have to correct our child's fuck ups as soon as possible. Sometimes that requires an ass whoopin.

And THAT is what you believe, it isn't what I believe. Which is cool, you whoop and I don't. I don't believe in short term solutions, whooping is short term to me since 9 times out of 10 it will end up being done multiple times for the same thing.

 

[DOS_patos]

Most of the kids that were terrible in my grammar school ended up being terrible adults, as well.

As a parent, we have to correct our child's fuck ups as soon as possible. Sometimes that requires an ass whoopin.

i agree.....but most perants are either to busy trying to still be in with the crowd, still trying to be young or too busy trying to provide.

thats why we need better support for our people.

our village mentality has gone to me me me.

its too many distractions......

 

[JJ Evans]

And THAT is what you believe, it isn't what I believe. Which is cool, you whoop and I don't. I don't believe in short term solutions, whooping is short term to me since 9 times out of 10 it will end up being done multiple times for the same thing.

My post was not meant to be a personal shot at you. You just happened to present a point that I wanted to respond to.

You are correct. We all are only giving our opinions at this point.

 

[Duwop]

Even tried to scare straight his little ass.

Let him talk to his uncle who in prison. As I mentioned before, me and my best friend married two sisters. He's in prison. And I told my son he's in prison because he doesn't know how to control his actions when he's upset. The same shit you're doing in school. You've already had to change from one school,. There is no other school. If you continue the same behavior, they're going to put you in jail with Uncle Mike.

I'm sure he'll do his best to look out for you, but i gotta tell you kid, it sucks in jail.


Dude was scared as shit. He cried, said he didn't want to live in jail with Uncle Mike.

Goes to school the next day and throws his shoe at the teacher because he was told to put it back on and to sit straight in his seat.

:smh:

 

[Meeks]

My post was not meant to be a personal shot at you. You just happened to present a point that I wanted to respond to.

You are correct. We all are only giving our opinions at this point.

Oh I understand, lol. Sorry if I came across a certain way. I actually didn't think you took a personal shot at me. We can't tell tone through text so no assumptions made.

 

[BDP™️]

Im praying for you @King Du

That God continues to grant the immense patience required for your son

 

[Duwop]

Weed also helps

 

[BDP™️]

i agree.....but most perants are either to busy trying to still be in with the crowd, still trying to be young or too busy trying to provide.

thats why we need better support for our people.

our village mentality has gone to me me me.

its too many distractions......

YES....

I wish we brought this back for our people...where you were too scared to act up cause the whole neighborhood literally raised you...the relationships were there where someone could say “ima tell your folks” and they meant it and there were real consequences...

Nowadays parents get mad when you offer support smh..

 

[Meeks]

You got this @King Du , big hugs to you man.

Just know that just like we stress, our children stress too and sometimes over the very same things we stress about.
Be easy on yourself, you're only human.

 

[DOS_patos]

You got this @King Du , big hugs to you man.

Just know that just like we stress, our children stress too and sometimes over the very same things we stress about.
Be easy on yourself, you're only human.

i got issues too

can i have a hug?

 

[Meeks]

i got issues too

can i have a hug?

 

[IP360]

Hell...to...the...fuccin...YEAH!

A lot of yall for some reason got this idea that there's only ONE way to punish a child, and that talkin to them is the only way. So what if they still don't listen? Then what?

Just talking and lecturing a child does not always work. Each child is different. A lot of these kids you need to whoop that azzz. Spanking is another option that is just as effective as lecturing them.

Yes...I got my azzz whooped for actin up and doing shyt I wasn't suppose to. Guess what...I turned out fine. Even after my mama passed, my dad never had to worry about me being in the streets doing dumb shyt.

And plz stop posting those "extreme" spanking videos to validate your so-called anti-spanking stance. Thinking that's how every parent whoops their child azzz. C'mon now.

 

[IP360]

My son hates not getting his way.

Like hates it.

He will go into full zap mode every time.

And I'm talking throwing chairs, punching kids, scratching teachers, running out the class room, screaming, growling, like completely take it to the max.

And will continue until he sees me. And the only reason he stops is bcuz he knows I'll whoop his ass.

And the funny part is I rarely do, as I'm trying really hard to get away from it.... But this kid just doesn't give a shit.

He's been punished. He's been on point systems. He's seen therapist. He's been emergency evaluated by psych wards ($650). He's lost toys, privileges, trips. He opened no gifts on Christmas or until he had his first good week in school.

We reward the hell outta good behavior. Positive reinforcement all the way. We try redirects when he's getting upset. We give him tasks, activities, cool out areas. I mean, if you gotta suggestion... List it cuz the shit is literally driving me crazy

He's fine..I know this cuz he's been cleared by two doctors and several therapist .... I'm fucking losing it. My wife is losing it.

I try my hardest not to whoop this kid. But when you spend hours down city hall, the school board, doctors offices, principals offices, like all this patience and trying your best. And you tell him on Monday

"Look man, you get 1 sticker for every good hour. And bonus stickers for effort. 5 stickers or better is a good day, if you can get 25 for the week you can buy back Christmas"

And you're getting a call from the office before you even get to work....

Why? Bcuz he walked too slow to the next activity in class and didn't want the other kids to be on the computer first. So he knocked over the table, breaking the computer and ran out the class.....


Yea I made a u turn and tore his little ass up.... First whooping in about 2 or 3 months...... But I was tired of threatening him.... Dude needed to know that the shit just isn't acceptable.

The doctors said there's nothing wrong with him. He's doing this bcuz he wants his way.... He pulled the same shit at my wife's job over the winter break.... She is a director at a day care... She watched him..... He's perfectly fine... Like creepily over the top fine. Super pleasant. Respectful. Manners. Listens. Plays well.

She watched him... He wasn't paying attention and knocked something over. He was asked nicely to pick it up. He denies doing it.

Ok you were seen doing it. And now you're being asked to pick it up.

That was too much for him. Complete meltdown

Bruh...I hope he grows outta this as he gets older. I can only imagine the kinda toll it's taking.

 

[Meeks]

I like how a lot of people think anti spanking means anti discipline.
LOL

 

[Maywood]