DISCUSSION - What'a an appropriate age to tell kids why you and their other parent arent together?
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SeaSnake
OG
Whenever they notice yall going to different houses. So from 3 to 5 is good.
SeaSnake
OG
Well we are black
SeaSnake
OG
Yea and now we gotta a whole slew of depressed parents and grandparents
Dwayne
Not Like Us
These kids from single parent homes and no guidance is out of control
konceptjones
The one between three and three.
SeaSnake
OG
Not denying that ideally a two parent stable home is the best possible outcome. But what i think AP is saying and ive heard this before sometimes its better that two people be separated.
I see what you mean about people breaking up for petty reasons. I feel like sometimes you dont know what you cant deal with until you experience it.
Too many factors go into all this shit.
Example: Some children may grow to mold themselves into their parents' successful long standing marriage.
Some may force themselves to stay in a toxic marriage out of pressure of their parents successful marriage.
Some step parents are better than the biological.
BUT nothin beats having both parents in a healthy marriage/family imo.
Me n my gf arent married but have a child together. Theres always a possibility we split up. Even if it was on good terms i would absolutely hate not being able to come home to my daughter on the nights shes staying with her mother.
Or just the simple fact that she wont have both of her parents there for her on any given night. Its just a diff dynamic when everyone is together.
Example: Some children may grow to mold themselves into their parents' successful long standing marriage.
Some may force themselves to stay in a toxic marriage out of pressure of their parents successful marriage.
Some step parents are better than the biological.
BUT nothin beats having both parents in a healthy marriage/family imo.
Me n my gf arent married but have a child together. Theres always a possibility we split up. Even if it was on good terms i would absolutely hate not being able to come home to my daughter on the nights shes staying with her mother.
Or just the simple fact that she wont have both of her parents there for her on any given night. Its just a diff dynamic when everyone is together.
I appreciate the response
I'm not advocating for kids to grow up without their parents in the same house hold
All I'm saying is sometimes, the shit just don't work and it's neither about your or your ex. The child is the main priority moving forward.
If that's truly the focus for both parents, the child will still flourish I believe
Y'all act like kids don't go to school with assholes...
Let them kids know what's up...
And staying together for the kids is self defeating. They can tell the love is gone, and you're essentially grooming them for lives of never trusting relationships.
My cousin and his wife stayed together too both kids hit 18, and the kids were so happy when they finally got a divorce. They lived with two unhappy people their entire lives.... And these people were their parents.
Also both of them are approaching 30 and neither one of them ever been in a serious relationship.
Let them kids know what's up...
And staying together for the kids is self defeating. They can tell the love is gone, and you're essentially grooming them for lives of never trusting relationships.
My cousin and his wife stayed together too both kids hit 18, and the kids were so happy when they finally got a divorce. They lived with two unhappy people their entire lives.... And these people were their parents.
Also both of them are approaching 30 and neither one of them ever been in a serious relationship.
Race Jones
gangster. grace. alchemy
Tell them like it is. It’s over, people don’t always stay together and life goes on….
Mister B.
The Devil’s Greatest Advocate…..
There has to be leeway in there, especially for children under 7. They don't understand the concept of a relationship.
Nope. Told my child this exact thing at 6. He understood just fine.
