OPINION Necessary Evils?

[Chicity]

With a toy there is no emotion just satisfaction so no it’s not cheating.

If you with a side chick and not penetrating her then you looking like a fool saying she’s just a side of pussy knowing damn well there’s feelings there.

So......you just know he gonna catch feelings?

Outside the feeling of momentary pleasure that is

 

[IP360]

"Noun. side chick (plural side chicks) (African American Vernacular, slang) A mistress; a woman one dates in addition to one's girlfriend or wife, usually (but not always) in secret."

That is the common understanding of the term.

It's different from seeing other parties while in an open relationship because that's just... exercising an open relationship. There are open relationships that are effectively monogamous because the couple isn't seeing or sleeping with other people at the time, even though they're down for it. Sleeping with someone else while in a relationship where it's allowed is just considered "poly", not having a side piece.

Side piece is damn near always used in reference to adultery.

"Common" doesn't equate to it being offically correct tho. Which is why I said "Popular opinion".

And that person is still a side...regardless if it's open relationship or not.

 

[IP360]

Like idk what to even say to this like would you want to put yourself through that for the rest of your life?

Idk that I would. Damn

But you're lookin at it as if that person has an issue with it. What if they didn't? What if that man is ok with his wife getting her needs met every so often?

He cares enough to know what his s/o wants, and willing to let her get it.

 

[Az]

So......you just know he gonna catch feelings?

Outside the feeling of momentary pleasure that is

It happens trust I know...

Not saying this is always the case but I’m sorry can’t nobody say they got they emotions in check.
One never knows what will come.

 

[Meeks]

Nah, side chicks and dudes aren't necessary. I'm not about to let no fool convince me otherwise neither.

 

[Golden]

"Common" doesn't equate to it being offically correct tho. Which is why I said "Popular opinion".

And that person is still a side...regardless if it's open relationship or not.

It's a slang term, there is no official correctness. There's only the most common association, that's the closest parallel to correctness.

It being an open relationship or infidelity has a bigger role in whether it's necessary or an evil, than whether the person is sidelined or the main focus.

But you're lookin at it as if that person has an issue with it. What if they didn't? What if that man is ok with his wife getting her needs met every so often?

He cares enough to know what his s/o wants, and willing to let her get it.

then t hat isn't a necessary evil. If they're all okay with it, there is no evil in there in the first place.

 

[Chicity]

Damn that word evil

 

[NeighborhoodNomad]

Has anyone given an example of a necessary evil or a moment where doing evil is ever really necessary?

 

[IP360]

Has anyone given an example of a necessary evil or a moment where doing evil is ever really necessary?

What about a chick getting a side dude cuz her main no longer has any interest in sex...BUT...she doesn't tell him.

Side dude only for sex (and he knows that) since she's not gettin it from main. She knows main not down for open sexual relationship, but she got needs.

 

[Meeks]

What about a chick getting a side dude cuz her main no longer has any interest in sex...BUT...she doesn't tell him.

Side dude only for sex (and he knows that) since she's not gettin it from main. She knows main not down for open sexual relationship, but she got needs.

It's not even necessary at that point. Like, her dude isn't interested in sex so her first thought is to get a side dude? Shit, they got deeper issues than that LOL

 

[IP360]

It's not even necessary at that point. Like, her dude isn't interested in sex so her first thought is to get a side dude? Shit, they got deeper issues than that LOL

Uhhh...yep. What else is she to do?

I mean what if there was no issue. Dude just no longer wants to do it. It happens b. Lol

 

[Meeks]

Uhhh...yep. What else is she to do?

I mean what if there was no issue. Dude just no longer wants to do it. It happens b. Lol

So is that why some dudes step out? I find it to be quite sad and hilarious at the same time if a woman used that as a reason to have a side dude. That shows she lacks self control. If I have a man that I know for sure is faithful to me and he doesn't feel like having sex often, that's not a reason to fuck off on him. It's just seriously not. Spice that shit up, suck his dick or something. Let me try to fix whatever issue he is having, if all else fails he gotta go. It's only but so long my yoni can go without love when my man is laying beside me.

But hey, that's just me lol.

 

[IP360]

So is that why some dudes step out? I find it to be quite sad and hilarious at the same time if a woman used that as a reason to have a side dude. That shows she lacks self control. If I have a man that I know for sure is faithful to me and he doesn't feel like having sex often, that's not a reason to fuck off on him. It's just seriously not. Spice that shit up, suck his dick or something. Let me try to fix whatever issue he is having, if all else fails he gotta go. It's only but so long my yoni can go without love when my man is laying beside me.

But hey, that's just me lol.

Lol

Often and no longer wanting to do it all is two different things tho.

I'm talmbout the D-shop closed...outta business...no longer providing that product. Damn near flawless in all other areas of the relationship but sex no go.

 

[Meeks]

Lol

Often and no longer wanting to do it all is two different things tho.

I'm talmbout the D-shop closed...outta business...no longer providing that product. Damn near flawless in all other areas of the relationship but sex no go.

Nah, homeboy getting pussy it just wouldn't be from her ROFL. That's where he'd then be canceled. I would then have to move on to my would've been side dude so he can worship the yoni.

 

[IP360]

Nah, homeboy getting pussy it just wouldn't be from her ROFL. That's where he'd then be canceled. I would then have to move on to my would've been side dude so he can worship the yoni.

What if he ain't? Lol

 

[Golden]

What about a chick getting a side dude cuz her main no longer has any interest in sex...BUT...she doesn't tell him.

Side dude only for sex (and he knows that) since she's not gettin it from main. She knows main not down for open sexual relationship, but she got needs.

not a necessary evil. could've found a man she's sexually compatible with, or a man who she isn't sexually compatible with but emotionally compatible with who'd allow her to have a side piece.

 

[NeighborhoodNomad]

What about a chick getting a side dude cuz her main no longer has any interest in sex...BUT...she doesn't tell him.

Side dude only for sex (and he knows that) since she's not gettin it from main. She knows main not down for open sexual relationship, but she got needs.

Unless we're talking about literal warfare there's really no necessary reason for sneaking around. And now that I think about it warfare isn't even necessary. Retribution/justice is necessary but so is mercy. I digress....

But if either party is being deprived of their physical needs then it's gotta be expressed. Whatever they decide to do after that is on them.

If one person isn't willing to be more physically intimate with their partner and is also unwilling to be in an open relationship then maybe they're just not that compatible.

There's really no need to be sneaky. Otherwise it's just trying to hold on to something ie a relationship that's not good for you.

 

[Knock_Twice]

Unless we're talking about literal warfare there's really no necessary reason for sneaking around. And now that I think about it warfare isn't even necessary. Retribution/justice is necessary but so is mercy. I digress....

But if either party is being deprived of their physical needs then it's gotta be expressed. Whatever they decide to do after that is on them.

If one person isn't willing to be more physically intimate with their partner and is also unwilling to be in an open relationship then maybe they're just not that compatible.

There's really no need to be sneaky. Otherwise it's just trying to hold on to something ie a relationship that's not good for you.

Do you tell your woman who you've been in a relationship with for 4 month- 12 years that the woman at work shows interest in the things that she doesn't.

Do you openly tell your woman that your heart has drifted towards the new woman?

Point I guess I'm asking, I think one may can be sneaky to protect the woman's heart. Fuck'd up, I know but this the world we are living in. I wouldn't want it to happen to me but reality is that it can happen.

Love Doctor Lol

 

[NeighborhoodNomad]

Do you tell your woman who you've been in a relationship with for 4 month- 12 years that the woman at work shows interest in the things that she doesn't.

Do you openly tell your woman that your heart has drifted towards the new woman?

Point I guess I'm asking, I think one may can be sneaky to protect the woman's heart. Fuck'd up, I know but this the world we are living in. I wouldn't want it to happen to me but reality is that it can happen.

Love Doctor Lol

It's really fear, selfishness, and insecurity if I tell myself that I have to lie to her or anyone for that matter to protect em.

In the situation you just mentioned I don't see why that would ever come up unless I was being petty. If the love between me and my girl has faded or feelings change and my heart has drifted towards another woman I would definitely tell her that my feelings for her have changed. I would be holding both of us back if I didn't. I would want her to tell me if her feelings towards me change and her heart has drifted towards another man (or woman). Imo it doesn't protect or help either one of us to be in a relationship that's run its course.

 

[Knock_Twice]

It's really fear, selfishness, and insecurity if I tell myself that I have to lie to her or anyone for that matter to protect em.

In the situation you just mentioned I don't see why that would ever come up unless I was being petty. If the love between me and my girl has faded or feelings change and my heart has drifted towards another woman I would definitely tell her that my feelings for her have changed. I would be holding both of us back if I didn't. I would want her to tell me if her feelings towards me change and her heart has drifted towards another man (or woman). Imo it doesn't protect or help either one of us to be in a relationship that's run its course.

That's what's up.

What if her feelings remains the same but she is still not showing interest, in other words, her actions isn't matching up with what your woman is saying. Do you still stay in the relationship with her. She's crying saying she loves you, but the past 3 or 4 months, she's been showing a different side of her, yet she doesn't wants you to leave you.

Do you break up with her on the spot while she's telling you that she still loves you, telling you this and that, woppity woo, woppity woo. Do you leave?

Or Do you stay? And if you do decide to stay, the woman at the job that pays attention to you, laugh at your jokes, talks sports with you, bring you food that she cooked the night before or some "I wanted you to try this", do you pull back your feelings that you may have gotten during the time your woman for 4 months- 13 years been on her wack shit.

Again, this isn't about you, it just an example I'm throwing out there.