You mention games being avoided by not randomly dating and I'm saying you have to randomly date. You have to.I never said dating was a bad thing, not sure how you got that from my post. My point was to choose carefully, and get to know that person. That should negate the need to put a potential s/o through an obstacle course.
Maybe it's just me, but that feels wrong, if I can't be straight forward with a person or feel like they may lie when I ask a question, then fuck it, it's on to the next one.
How else can you choose your potential s/o?
Let's say you think you feeling s chick at work. So you know her work self. But you can't assume that's her at home or anywhere outside the work place. If you don't date her how does she move to s/o? Once dating you realize she isn't the one. You move on cycle repeats with someone else. Now you randomly dating chicks. I'm not saying juggling but I'd assume you've given it considerable thought before you asked her out. Well now you got her out but she still interviewing for the s/o role. Anything can happen that can move her back to just work friend.
And this is why (third time) I think test is not the word (it seems to have negative connotations). But you have to have some......things you do or say to find the one for you. Cause she gonna be doing the same thing