Is ABW a safe space for Women?

[AZTG]

This is exactly the reason I asked the question I did. Men don't have to be on some sexist/chauvinistic or thirsty shit to make women uncomfortable. Dudes, even friends, handle each other a lot more roughly than they tend to handle females. When you have a bunch of dudes interacting, you don't really have to worry about someone getting his feelings hurt, and if one does, he's not going to make an issue out of it because he doesn't want to be seen as a bitch. If you want to keep females on this site, dudes will have to chill with some of that and that means that the chicks on this site will likely wind up reporting shit that wasn't really sexist and wasn't really unusual for the interactions on this site.

Again, I'm not saying that's a bad thing. It's just something that needs to be acknowledged because if moderations are made based on those incidents, you're probably going to get some of these dudes resisting because the same moderations weren't made when they got in similar arguments with other posters. In other words all those types of moderations will have to become the norm or dudes on here will have to learn to tailor their behavior based on who they're interacting with. The latter shouldn't be that difficult because most of us do that in real life anyway.

So you interact with your boys differently than you do with your girls? And women interact with their girls differently than their boys.

We already do this everyday in life, why not do it here?

If my boy comes through with some funny shoes, im gonna destroy him. I dont do that with my girls though.

Why is it hard to follow the same rules of engagement here that we already do in our daily lives.

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

Oh it was already simple enough but thanks. Dude has a problem with women and was trying to justify it. It's not rocket science.

U r making his point rn

 

[Meeks]

Like who?

Don’t type to me, thank you.

 

[Meeks]

Like I said what I said, if the shoe fits wear it but don’t ask me anything. That’s the problem, if you feel like you have no boundaries then I’m talking to you. Even my homegirls aren’t this messy.

 

[SneakDZA]

U r making his point rn

WTF are you even talking about? Actually whatever. I don't really care.

 

[AZTG]

@King Freeman does have a valid point though. With everything that was said, anyone who initiates disrespect shouldnt get upset when disrespect is returned. Regardless of gender.

Doesnt excuse a mfer for throwing a boulder in response to a pebble, and that also goes for both genders.

 

[5th Letter]

Don’t type to me, thank you.

Meh it’s a public forum.

 

[5th Letter]

@King Freeman does have a valid point though. With everything that was said, anyone who initiates disrespect shouldnt get upset when disrespect is returned. Regardless of gender.

Doesnt excuse a mfer for throwing a boulder in response to a pebble, and that also goes for both genders.

So pretty much if someone calls another poster a B and in return they mention dead relatives is taking it too far?

 

[Meeks]

Meh it’s a public forum.

You on your menstrual?

 

[Meeks]

I’m done with this conversation though. I said what I had to say, anyone don’t like it simply don’t say shit to me.
Bitch.

 

[5th Letter]

You on your menstrual?

Aight Meeks you got it....

 

[Dwayne]

So pretty much if someone calls another poster a B and in return they mention dead relatives is taking it too far?

I think that going far.

But if somebody call you some shit and you called that person some other shit it’s all fair IMO


me and @Hellczar do that now but we keep it at each other

 

[DOS_patos]

The shit I'm talking about is from my actual experiences and other interactions I've seen play out on here with multiple females. Niggas can play like they don't know who and what situations I'm talking about. I'm not gonna say names cause then I just look like I'm trying to pick fights which I'm not.

What I was attempting to do is take accountability for some of my actions while asking some of the females to take accountability for some of theirs.
Maybe then everyone can start to heal.

I wasn't making any blanket or general statements. Everything I said can be owned by another poster. It wasn't some roundabout shit it's facts.

Time for some of us to start being the change we want to see.

@Duwop saying is taking off on here.

 

[5th Letter]

I think that going far.

But if somebody call you some shit and you called that person some other shit it’s all fair IMO


me and @Hellczar do that now but we keep it at each other

I’m just asking questions to gauge what’s the general consensus. Of course for me family members are off limits I don’t mention no one families. I mentioned Shadyteam son after she wished death on my mother but that was years ago.

 

[Dwayne]

I’m just asking questions to gauge what’s the general consensus. Of course for me family members are off limits I don’t mention no one families. I mentioned Shadyteam son after she wished death on my mother but that was years ago.

I say this.

if you call somebody out their name and they return it. Don’t complain

 

[5th Letter]

I say this.

if you call somebody out their name and they return it. Don’t complain

I agree.

 

[AP2.5]

AZTG just said it perfectly

Don't throw a boulder in response to a pebble

Edit: I'll add the ego especially the male one can be a fragile one so when something is said, it might get perceived as something else which results in " they not about to have one up on me" so then the disrespect really gets out of line

Or another way to look at it, there are dudes here that for some reason see no issue with telling another man to eat a dick or suck his, but when females pop off, this where you draw the line?

 

[TheNightKing]

At a certain point this site might as well just accept what it is, a boys club. I don’t like that it’s come to that, but it’s systemic and I don’t think it can be fixed.

Rename the site Chap Stick Alley and be done with it.

 

[TheNightKing]

And just to make my POV clear, I don’t even pay attention to whether someone is a man or woman when I’m responding to people. I’m just respectful to all, even when they come at me sideways, cause it’s an Internet forum and I don’t really care who they are, just what they saying.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

So you interact with your boys differently than you do with your girls? And women interact with their girls differently than their boys.

We already do this everyday in life, why not do it here?

If my boy comes through with some funny shoes, im gonna destroy him. I dont do that with my girls though.

Why is it hard to follow the same rules of engagement here that we already do in our daily lives.

That's exactly what I said, man. lol

The different between here and real life is there is no formal system in real life outlining and enforcing those rules of engagement. Again, from my standpoint, it's not a problem siding with a chick if she reports a dude because she felt he came at her too aggressively in a debate. I was just pointing out the possibility because when dudes start getting modded for that, some of them will push back and point out that such modding isn't done when two dudes are going at it, and they'll be right when they point that out. Mods will either have to implement rules and enforce them across the board or acknowledge they are more keen to enforce some breakages than others.