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OPINION Thoughts on questioning your child after away from home visit.

AZTG said:
I just took it as teaching your kids where people are not allowed to touch them and then just asking if anyone touched them. Make it sound innocent as possible ofcourse.

Ofcourse I'm going at it from a generic perspective, you seem to have a specific scenario where your baby mother might be using this to get you and your side of the family caught up. If so, I understand your stance, but you also have to agree in a situation where its just for the well being of child, its ok to ask.
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nothing wrong with this, IF the intention was pure

BUT if its just a parent being nosey and placing suggestive thoughts into a child's head, THAT's what im taking issue with.
 
Long Beef said:
are you against him disciplining your children to begin with?
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I wouldnt say I would be against it cause I feel like your extended family should be a strong force in your kids lives too, and uncles aunts and grandparents should be authoritive figures too, but their form of disciplining cant be something I dont agree with.

If my belief is that my kids should never be beat I would want them to tell me if my sister beat them while she baby sat them.

Molesting is much worse ofcourse, but im just saying this doesnt only apply to molestation.
 
AZTG said:
I wouldnt say I would be against it cause I feel like your extended family should be a strong force in your kids lives too, and uncles aunts and grandparents should be authoritive figures too, but their form of disciplining cant be something I dont agree with.

If my belief is that my kids should never be beat I would want them to tell me if my sister beat them while she baby sat them.

Molesting is much worse ofcourse, but im just saying this doesnt only apply to molestation.
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agreed

I've had discussions with my parents on punishment in the event she does something while with them. We are on the same page on that regard.
 
Long Beef said:
nothing wrong with this, IF the intention was pure

BUT if its just a parent being nosey and placing suggestive thoughts into a child's head, THAT's what im taking issue with.
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I feel you man. Nothing is black and white and specific scenarios come with their own caveats
 
Late to my own damn party!

Rest of the story:
So he was offended because she asks this question ONLY after the daughter comes from his side of the families houses. He said when she’s with her side of the family and returns, she never questions the babygirl. So, he decided to question the daughter Sunday and the BM went off.
 
Kandy said:
Late to my own damn party!

Rest of the story:
So he was offended because she asks this question ONLY after the daughter comes from his side of the families houses. He said when she’s with her side of the family and returns, she never questions the babygirl. So, he decided to question the daughter Sunday and the BM went off.
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I KNEW IT!!!!
 
I’m going to ask my child, so many children are sexually abused by people close to them and people turn a blind eye to it. I most definitely will ask my child how her time away from me was, wording is everything. She’s my child, I’ll ask and I definitely do not care how someone feels about it. I wouldn’t care if she was with her grandparents, I’m asking her.
 
Kandy said:
Late to my own damn party!

Rest of the story:
So he was offended because she asks this question ONLY after the daughter comes from his side of the families houses. He said when she’s with her side of the family and returns, she never questions the babygirl. So, he decided to question the daughter Sunday and the BM went off.
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That bm got a cousin or uncle that touches kids and she dont even know
 
not wrong at all but there's a way you can go about it so that the child doesnt realize they're being interrogated.....for the short time we were "co-parenting" my bm used to do this all kinda wrong when my baby would go back to her....starting off with "did they hit you, who was there, did anybody touch you here" and all that kinda shit.....she was 2

so you also have to take different precautions at different ages

both sides of the fam know im nuts about my girls.....my mama barely gets them because she works a lot and has a new husband.....he started w/ that paw paw shit and I cut it instantly....only one of my wife's 5 sisters keeps them overnight, cuz she can deal with the stipulations lol....the rest dont want the headache

the women at my 7 yr old's salon laugh at me sittin up in there cuz I wont leave her.....not even to get food or none of that....I know I cant be with all of them all the time but I'll never make it easy
 
1/2 said:
not wrong at all but there's a way you can go about it so that the child doesnt realize they're being interrogated.....for the short time we were "co-parenting" my bm used to do this all kinda wrong when my baby would go back to her....starting off with "did they hit you, who was there, did anybody touch you here" and all that kinda shit.....she was 2

so you also have to take different precautions at different ages

both sides of the fam know im nuts about my girls.....my mama barely gets them because she works a lot and has a new husband.....he started w/ that paw paw shit and I cut it instantly....only one of my wife's 5 sisters keeps them overnight, cuz she can deal with the stipulations lol....the rest dont want the headache

the women at my 7 yr old's salon laugh at me sittin up in there cuz I wont leave her.....not even to get food or none of that....I know I cant be with all of them all the time but I'll never make it easy
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bolded...thats what im talking about
 
Wherever my son go I ask him about everything.

He is in New Orleans for the summer and I FaceTime him everyday or he FaceTime me (my momma got him a iPhone at 5 years smh but it’s useful though) dude be blowing me up though lol

If you don’t ask your kids you might not never know what’s going on

Plus you have to build that trust with your kid that they can tell you everything and they wouldn’t keep anything away from you.
 
Thor said:
Wherever my son go I ask him about everything.

He is in New Orleans for the summer and I FaceTime him everyday or he FaceTime me (my momma got him a iPhone at 5 years smh but it’s useful though) dude be blowing me up though lol

If you don’t ask your kids you might not never know what’s going on
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i dont think anyone was saying not to ask them but it was under the circumstances for which they were being asked was the question
 
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