no...if i kill someone in self defense, I am a murderer by definition
however, i dont camp out and stalk my prey like Dexter
OPINION Thoughts on questioning your child after away from home visit.
- Thread starter Loquacious
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however, i dont camp out and stalk my prey like Dexter
OhMars
MEH!
Do you know who's coming and going at your parents house all the time?
Mis4Mighty
Mightiest of Men
Be concerned but also be logical.
Dont send yo kids to a aunt house who always got men coming in and out.
Dont send em to a uncle who has no kids but got toys everywhere.
Cuz once that 1 mishap occur..it can ruin families forever
Dont send yo kids to a aunt house who always got men coming in and out.
Dont send em to a uncle who has no kids but got toys everywhere.
Cuz once that 1 mishap occur..it can ruin families forever
JUDAH
OG
Being someone who experienced sexual abuse as a child has made me paranoid when it comes to this topic. But I try to remain rational as possible when questioning my son and nephew.
As awkward as it may be, I think it may be worth having "the talk" with kids early on in a way they can understand so that if they are ever in a situation where molestation is possible, they can know right from wrong.
Of course as a parent you want to be proactive and not put them on those situations, but as others have mentioned the reported cases are so high bevause the culprit is more often than not someone the parents of the children trust.
I say all this to say be cautious but reasonable.
As awkward as it may be, I think it may be worth having "the talk" with kids early on in a way they can understand so that if they are ever in a situation where molestation is possible, they can know right from wrong.
Of course as a parent you want to be proactive and not put them on those situations, but as others have mentioned the reported cases are so high bevause the culprit is more often than not someone the parents of the children trust.
I say all this to say be cautious but reasonable.
DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
heres the thing......who does your parents have around?
it doesnt take long for someone to touch a kid or plant a seed.
your people can hit an outing with other kids.....and things can happen.
but i would also suggest speaking with the childs mother. she needs to correct he questions....cause it could end up with YOU in jail.
DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
and she may have a right to feel that way.
thats her feelings and her truth.....and no telling what she be have been thru or witnessed.
or it could just be innocent questions that your child could be taking the wrong way.....
DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
i think im a better judge of her character and intentions than you are at this point my friend
i cant spell everything out for obvious reasons, but there arent many things in this life im sure of, but this is one i feel pretty confident about
My kids with they grandparents and you damn right I'm questioning them
I question then daily regardless but before they leave I'm questioning them again to be sure for sure
I get why he could be a lil offended but fuck that. His family ain't perfect and shit can still happen
I question then daily regardless but before they leave I'm questioning them again to be sure for sure
I get why he could be a lil offended but fuck that. His family ain't perfect and shit can still happen
DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
????
how you figure? sounds like you are where i once was.
but i will say this....dont be sure of nothing. these are you kids. guarantees are not promised when raising kids.
say what you must to make yourself feel better about judgement with me.......but dont be arrogant when it comes to your childrens safety
i think people are confusing asking a legitimate question like "how was your visit/stay" with "did someone touch you in your private area" all out the blue with no context whatsoever
im specifically speaking of my mother and my father.
I mean, damn, if you cant trust your parents, who you KNOW dont have any questionable shit about them, then who tf can you trust?
If she is with me and we are at a gathering, she is not out of my site for any moment of time.
im not trying to sound dismissive about any possibility that may occur, but even as a child, there was no one in my direct family that had any questionable behavior associated with them. My mother left me at my grandparents all the time and nothing happened.
Again, im not saying this does not occur, but if you gotta question your own parents, then you might as well just work from home and never do anything or go anywhere without your children. Dont hire babysitters, dont send them to daycare/school, or nothing. You just make sure you keep your eye on them 24/7.
DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
again....you dont know why she is asking that question.
look bruh...seriously......
real shit and forreal forreal
how do you know something didnt happen in her care? and shes asking to make sure it didnt happen again?
how do you know what happens on her watch?
im not saying shes right......but context dont matter.
none of us are perfect parents and we can fuck up,,,alot.
but if this is what you want to bitch about, bruh you got other shit you should deal with.
coulda woulda and shoulda dont stop or protect no one.
DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
these are your kids.....you may just have to.
may be confusing....but i am sure your parents would questions their parents over you.
and it could be that they slipped at a moment and someone else got outta hand....
just dont allow room for error.
AZTG
OG
I just took it as teaching your kids where people are not allowed to touch them and then just asking if anyone touched them. Make it sound innocent as possible ofcourse.
Ofcourse I'm going at it from a generic perspective, you seem to have a specific scenario where your baby mother might be using this to get you and your side of the family caught up. If so, I understand your stance, but you also have to agree in a situation where its just for the well being of child, its ok to ask.
AZTG
OG
It aint just touching and molesting either. Say I have a way of disciplining my kids that doesnt include whoopings, but I drop my kids off at my brothers house and they do something and he whoops them. I would want to know that too so I can either get my brother to not hit my kids or stop dropping my kids off at his house.
context does matter but we're just gonna disagree here
i never claim to be perfect
you assume i dont talk with my daughter which is irresponsible of you for assuming so
idk the relationship some of you all have with your parents, but mine is pretty good
but again, if you have trust issues with every single person that comes into contact with your child, then its probably best to not let them visit anyone without you being around, and if you are there, you shouldnt leave a room where they are currently in
are you against him disciplining your children to begin with?