How old is your oldest?
Sidenote: Cosign being against the "do what I say cause I said so." My in-laws raised their kids like that and sometimes get pissy with us because our kids don't always just bow to authority. We promote respect, so my kids always address their grandparents with respect. But sometimes they will ask "Why?" when given instructions they don't understand. My wife and I explain and hold them accountable from that point on. My in-laws just get mad every time they are questioned and hit my wife with the "We didn't raise you that way" shit. It's annoying as hell.
