Should Every Child Start In Church For Foundation?

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First, lmao @King Du Raymond Alexander. That shit gets me every time.

Secondly, my mama just pissed me off. She calls me and tells me I need to take my son to church to build a "foundation." She telling me everything I need to do with MY child, then says "but that's your child." I simply tell her, no I'm not taking my child to church but if she feels so strongly about my son going to church, then maybe she should take him. Then she blows up! I stop her mid-rant and tell her I'm not about to have this religious conversation. I'm not going to church and neither is my son. Then she goes on to say a lot more bullshit.

So mh question is, do you think every child should start in church for their "foundation" then let them decide whether or not it's for them as they grow older?
 
Kandy Pants said:
First, lmao @King Du Raymond Alexander. That shit gets me every time.

Secondly, my mama just pissed me off. She calls me and tells me I need to take my son to church to build a "foundation." She telling me everything I need to do with MY child, then says "but that's your child." I simply tell her, no I'm not taking my child to church but if she feels so strongly about my son going to church, then maybe she should take him. Then she blows up! I stop her mid-rant and tell her I'm not about to have this religious conversation. I'm not going to church and neither is my son. Then she goes on to say a lot more bullshit.

So mh question is, do you think every child should start in church for their "foundation" then let them decide whether or not it's for them as they grow older?
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As a parent you decide what's best for your child and as they get older you let them decide if they want to go to church. I believe your son is 8 so he might be at the age to decide for himself.
 
Chi-Town B said:
As a parent you decide what's best for your child and as they get older you let them decide if they want to go to church. I believe your son is 8 so he might be at the age to decide for himself.
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He said no but that's more so because he rather sit on the couch in his underwear all day playing 2k17.
 
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King Du said:
That's old people talk.

You do what you feel.

I take my kids to church cuz that's what I wanna do. Its not a rule for everyone. If you not a church type person,, that's your business
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If your kids decided church isn't for them would you force them to go.
 
I would never force religion on my children...ever.

I don't even go to church so I'm pretty sure I won't even have these problems.

If my children are curious and want to learn more, I'll take them.

Other than that----no.
 
Chi-Town B said:
So you forcing religion on them. I thought you would be understanding.
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I wouldn't say he's forcing religion on them because my mother use to drag me to church and I never really took heed to anything that was being said.

Sometimes certain things the pastor said resonated with me, most of the time it did not.

I think it would be "forced" if you don't allow them to ask questions, tell them Christianity is law and bar them from exploring other religions.
 
Plus church is more than just religion.

I'm not going to break down a list, cuz I'm not especially wordy right now... But the family atmosphere is also a plus... I know my church members better than my neighbors
 
I say let a child know about faith and religion then let him make his decision to follow the principles of church/religion.

I grew up in the church my mom lived in church and I went every Sunday till I was 15. My dad was a heathen (lol mom's words) and he didn't go.

I stopped going at 15 but I appreciated the foundation and I started reading and exploring other beliefs. Realized all religions believe in the same principle. Live a good life treat people well and be thankful for what you got. Also realized that the Koran, Torah and the Bible are basically the same book.

My son will be brought up in the church and when he say he doesn't want to go no more I will understand it.
 
BNE said:
i went to a church the other day. an old white bitch threw shade, but i had a great time otherwise. i like some of the non-religious aspects but i think they cld be found everywhere if ppl made more of a commitment to bein part of a community.
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Sounds good in theory,

But in actuality,, the only place in my community that meets regularly and encourages each other, look out for each other, feed the community, give out school supplies,, go on trips, and has that extended family atmosphere is the church.

If there was a community organization that was doing what the church does.... That would be great. But as it stands.....

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King Du said:
Sounds good in theory,

But in actuality,, the only place in my community that meets regularly and encourages each other, look out for each other, feed the community, give out school supplies,, go on trips, and has that extended family atmosphere is the church.

If there was a community organization that was doing what the church does.... That would be great. But as it stands.....

:idkb3:
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The church also perpetuates and propels the cycle of Homophobia, toxic masculinity and misogyny in our communities.

I'm happy for other organizations.
 
BNE said:
my point is that it isn't the religious aspect of the church that leads to what you describe.
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Well you guys accused me of forcing religion on my children,, so I pointed out that's not the only thing the church offers...
 
I never remember being encouraged in church.

I remember being shamed and berated because I liked girls.

I remember me asking questions and being scolded and told to "Shut up and stay in child's place"

I remember older church male members talking about my breast.

I remember people praising the pastor more than the "God" they sought.

I remember the back-biting.

I remember being treated like shit by some of my family members as they sat in church pretending they were better and holier than thou.

I remember my sister being raped and someone asking her at church what did she do to cause it.

I remember being diagnosed with anxiety and depression and being told to pray about it, "the devil is in you"

I remember church being dehumanizing and disruptive to my overall mental and emotional health.

That's what I remember.
 
Religion is good for teaching good core values tho (being a good person, treating other well, being a good parent/child etc.) Ion think you need it to be a morally good person, alla of that other hocus pocus that comes with religion is for the birds.

I think the boy is old enough to decide if he wants to go or not
 
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