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Should Every Child Start In Church For Foundation?

BNE said:
my point is that it isn't the religious aspect of the church that leads to what you describe.
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Well you guys accused me of forcing religion on my children,, so I pointed out that's not the only thing the church offers...
 
I never remember being encouraged in church.

I remember being shamed and berated because I liked girls.

I remember me asking questions and being scolded and told to "Shut up and stay in child's place"

I remember older church male members talking about my breast.

I remember people praising the pastor more than the "God" they sought.

I remember the back-biting.

I remember being treated like shit by some of my family members as they sat in church pretending they were better and holier than thou.

I remember my sister being raped and someone asking her at church what did she do to cause it.

I remember being diagnosed with anxiety and depression and being told to pray about it, "the devil is in you"

I remember church being dehumanizing and disruptive to my overall mental and emotional health.

That's what I remember.
 
Religion is good for teaching good core values tho (being a good person, treating other well, being a good parent/child etc.) Ion think you need it to be a morally good person, alla of that other hocus pocus that comes with religion is for the birds.

I think the boy is old enough to decide if he wants to go or not
 
King Du said:
Well you guys accused me of forcing religion on my children,, so I pointed out that's not the only thing the church offers...
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which aspect motivates u
Race Jones said:
I never remember being encouraged in church.

I remember being shamed and berated because I liked girls.

I remember me asking questions and being scolded and told to "Shut up and stay in child's place"

I remember older church male members talking about my breast.

I remember people praising the pastor more than the "God" they sought.

I remember the back-biting.

I remember being treated like shit by some of my family members as they sat in church pretending they were better and holier than thou.

I remember my sister being raped and someone asking her at church what did she do to cause it.

I remember being diagnosed with anxiety and depression and being told to pray about it, "the devil is in you"

I remember church being dehumanizing and disruptive to my overall mental and emotional health.

That's what I remember.
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my god.

the black community needs a new hub.
 
Race Jones said:
I never remember being encouraged in church.

I remember being shamed and berated because I liked girls.

I remember me asking questions and being scolded and told to "Shut up and stay in child's place"

I remember older church male members talking about my breast.

I remember people praising the pastor more than the "God" they sought.

I remember the back-biting.

I remember being treated like shit by some of my family members as they sat in church pretending they were better and holier than thou.

I remember my sister being raped and someone asking her at church what did she do to cause it.

I remember being diagnosed with anxiety and depression and being told to pray about it, "the devil is in you"

I remember church being dehumanizing and disruptive to my overall mental and emotional health.

That's what I remember.
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While that's a horrible experience that is clearly not inclusive at all churches.... And it makes perfect sense that you would feel that way...

However that is an individual experience that I did not share, and does not represent what a church should instill in children...

I find more and more people issue with church is experiences like these and its unfortunate that this is what so many people associate with church....

I understand. And I'm just blessed my experience was nothing like that. I truly wish you could have come up in a church and home like mines where shit like that either didn't go down or it was dealt with accordingly
 
BNE said:
which aspect motivates u

my god.

the black community needs a new hub.
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Naw,, people just need to be checked on their bs....

There's nothing about the church that makes people be jerks and degenerates. A new community hub changes nothing. Holding those accountable for their wrong doings and perversion of the church is what is the immediate problem at hand
 
I hated church.

My mama took me and my brother a lot. My youngest brother got lucky because my mama stopped attending church as much.
All they did was beg for money and talk bad like they were perfect. Then leave church and just act unholy. It was so fake. What made them think that I was gonna believe a guy walked on water?! I felt like everything was a lie. Then when I started hearing about pastors messing with little boys. That was it for me.

I used to sneak out and sit in the back of the church or sneak in my daddy's car. It didn't matter what church it was, I was determined to break out. I was supposed to be in a church play and choir and I sat through the whole play practice and didn't say none of my lines. They finally decided to leave me alone. One of the ladies even threatened to beat me. I wish her old ass would've touched me.
 
My experience with church luckily wasnt so deep. We were never members of a church never went consistently so wasnt able to get a good or bad opinion. Loved communion and hugging folks tho.
 
It's entirely up to the parent if they take their child to church or not.
 
Ugh WISH I felt like rambling... but to answer the question it's up to the parents... I remember a period of time my parents didn't go to church but my grandmother would come get me to go because I wanted to go. So if you don't go doesn't mean they will never want to explore or experience what GOING to a place of worship has to offer and decide if it's for them.
 
Kandy Pants said:
First, lmao @King Du Raymond Alexander. That shit gets me every time.

Secondly, my mama just pissed me off. She calls me and tells me I need to take my son to church to build a "foundation." She telling me everything I need to do with MY child, then says "but that's your child." I simply tell her, no I'm not taking my child to church but if she feels so strongly about my son going to church, then maybe she should take him. Then she blows up! I stop her mid-rant and tell her I'm not about to have this religious conversation. I'm not going to church and neither is my son. Then she goes on to say a lot more bullshit.

So mh question is, do you think every child should start in church for their "foundation" then let them decide whether or not it's for them as they grow older?
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Your church is within you. So there is no need to go to a building to praise and worship unless it is fellowship that the child needs and even then there are other ways to get it.
 
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