Why were they both pulled over to the side of the road?
Self Reflection, Part One.
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Why were they both pulled over to the side of the road?
a different pov about forgiveness
I can forgive but still not rock with a person afterwards.
idk how you all process stuff, but i know if there was a legit issue with someone and i let it just fester, it would eat at me and weigh me down. Forgiving them helps ME. I'm not concerned about them, but i need to be ok moving forward, and i can do that knowing that this person will no longer occupy space in my mind.
This not on some brother of Botham Jean shit either. But since the only people we have the power to control are ourselves, I just want my mental space to be where i need it to be focusing on more important things.
I can forgive but still not rock with a person afterwards.
idk how you all process stuff, but i know if there was a legit issue with someone and i let it just fester, it would eat at me and weigh me down. Forgiving them helps ME. I'm not concerned about them, but i need to be ok moving forward, and i can do that knowing that this person will no longer occupy space in my mind.
This not on some brother of Botham Jean shit either. But since the only people we have the power to control are ourselves, I just want my mental space to be where i need it to be focusing on more important things.
Lea
Active Member
Not so much turn the other cheek, but some things happened forever ago and if somebody brings it up I get back to the level of anger I had when it first happened. I don't let many people get close to me so that shit hurts a little different. I still gotta learn to forgive them and let it go and in some instances let them go too.
Ironman
Genius, Billionaire, Playboy, Philanthropist
I can forgive. What determines if I'll still keep the same vibe depends on what happened
nothing wrong with that
I'm also about letting people know how their actions impacted me instead of me holding that in to
Don’t get me wrong, I forgive. Especially if I feel like it’s worth the friendship. I’m all for it. If it ain’t, I just don’t care. I don’t need the closure for me. I’m done done and can move on like we never knew each other. I don’t need the therapy session or to even let them know they did me foul. They know!
onetoughmiracle
AYO, PUT THAT RZA SHIT BACK ON!!!
Ironman
Genius, Billionaire, Playboy, Philanthropist
You pretty much expanded on my thinking.
For me, I want you to know why I stopped dealing with you
It don't have to be no back and forth depending on the person but I'll feel better knowing I got it off my chest
If it's someone I genuinely care for I want us to have dialogue so we can figure out where things went wrong but ofc that's reserved for those people
onetoughmiracle
AYO, PUT THAT RZA SHIT BACK ON!!!
I can also be too much of a lone wolf (not in the terrorist sense). The irony of it is that I can work well in groups.
Ironman
Genius, Billionaire, Playboy, Philanthropist
I'm guilty of this my friends have said I disappear sometimes.
I've gotten alot better at this but it's still a battle. Once you show me a certain side of yourself I treat you accordingly. Which is why I've always emphasized watching how your friends treat other people they claim are also close to them because if they're fine w/ screwing them over in some way it's only a matter of time before they turn that on you. Think it was even Du who once said something akin to "If your homie will lie to his wife who he took vows in front of God and family, what the fuck makes me think he won't lie to me too?"
DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
I hear you.....And you are right.
But what if those people took the time to understand why you are that way.
I see being humble for others as dimming my light and what makes me shine.
So you trying to be humble could be hurting your growth to not upset others.
Not saying you wrong...But I get it.
bootcheese3000
Residential Hero of the Black Weirdos
Damn. I like that quote. Hope you don't mind me using it one Day,
Is that Mackauly Caulkin?
I have a bad habit with the bolded. These People I usually contact after not speaking to them for awhile are either confused or rude about it. Others get it and don't have an issue. I've been working on staying in touch with People more.
bootcheese3000
Residential Hero of the Black Weirdos
After going through this Thread, I see we all have similarities in our faults and what we need to work on. If everyone in the World was this open instead of being fake and selfish all the damn time, things wouldn't be as stressful and difficult as they have been lately, esp the past 4 Years. We're seeing how all this frustration has been unfolding these past several Weeks and it won't stop until we work towards the common goal of helping one another and becoming the Best Versions of ourselves.
@Kandy I'm curious--what prompted you to create this Thread? I'm assuming it's the 6 Planetary Retrogrades happening right now, along with the Solar/Lunar Eclipses that occurred this Month, but I want to know what your reason is.
@Kandy I'm curious--what prompted you to create this Thread? I'm assuming it's the 6 Planetary Retrogrades happening right now, along with the Solar/Lunar Eclipses that occurred this Month, but I want to know what your reason is.
I just be bored and ready to talk.
