OPINION - Should Polygamy Be Legalized?

[EleanorDeWitt]

Polygamy is often abusive and predatory.
What aren't you understanding?

You rarely can have one without the other.
societies have systematically evolved away from plural marriages because the social problems it creates.

Can you have a polygamous relationship that is not abusive or predatory? maybe
but in a society such as America where wealth inequality is heavily prevalent you run the risk of a few men hoarding all the women

and men of lower wealth and status acquiring women who much younger and easily impressionable.

Because in a polygamy sense---women are now a commodity
They become a cash crop in a sense.

I think the problem here is you're referring to polygamist relationships that start out of religious and societal pressure. In which case, yea, in a lot of those places women are abused, and more importantly, are forced to marry that way... but this is America. If a woman doesn't want to be in that kind of relationship there's plenty of men who only want one wife. If a woman chooses a polygamist lifestyle, who are we to be like nah cause you'll be abused. For real?

 

[Race Jones]

In societies where polygamy is legalized you often find, like I said before, a certain demographic of men hoarding all the women and men of lesser wealth and status scrambling to find women. The systematic pressures in those societies are so extensive. Some men are driven off of the ranch or commune/ plurual house if they cannot find a wife. They are socially excluded. You also find that teenage boys are pressured to marry younger and younger. This calls men to be more possessive of women which falls into the category of control and abuse.

Do you think this benefits society? don't you think America has enough issues as is?

 

[Golden]

Ok and why do societies where polygamy is legal face so many social issues? Have you even studied these societies? because Americans love romanticizing shit they heard on TV and haven't studied.

I've visited em n studied them n ur right, they're problematic. But I don't think it's polygamy or polyamory that's the problem. It's the sexist motivations underlying it in certain societies. I'm not saying ours would be free of them but I sincerely don't think it's gonna change much.

If u get right down to it, marriage as we know it is a sexist institution. Within a western context, I see no harm in legalizing plural marriages. If women r just as able to marry 2, tree, fo niggas then that alone changes the power dynamic of men being able to marry multiple women while women can only share a man.

It's iust giving people more options.

N like I said, people are already doing plural marriages in cities near u. They just aren't getting papers to support it. If anything, makin it legal is gonna at least let poly lovers fare better when one of em dies or goes to hospital n they gotta work out relation.

 

[EleanorDeWitt]

I think its somewhat impossible to have a polygamous relationship that is harmonious.

I've been in a polyamorous relationship and that shit was hard as hell to navigate. lmao

I have as well and it is difficult to manage. But so is any relationship. If you're willing and able to do it, you should without having to work around how society feels about it. Imo

 

[FakeOhMars]

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Lol real shit, it's pretty prevalent in the black muslim community

 

[Race Jones]

I think people are looking at this from a sexual standpoint and needs based standpoint.
But when you legalizing something it affects society in a whole.

How will polygamy affect society? Honestly...

 

[Golden]

In societies where polygamy is legalized you often find, like I said before, a certain demographic of men hoarding all the women and men of lesser wealth and status scrambling to find women. The systematic pressures in those societies are so extensive. Some men are driven off of the ranch or commune/ plurual house if they cannot find a wife. They are socially excluded. You also find that teenage boys are pressured to marry younger and younger. This calls men to be more possessive of women which falls into the category of control and abuse.

Do you think this benefits society? don't you think America has enough issues as is?

Nah sis, I been all over n it's the brokest men I'll see with 2 wives often times. The upper n middle class tend to be well educated, often in western institutions. They ain't doin it like that.

U can't compare America to developing countries with diff cultures like that. We have and will have our own issues but u r not comparing apples with apples.

 

[Judge Dread]

It it works for the people involved who am I to say no

 

[Race Jones]

I think the problem here is you're referring to polygamist relationships that start out of religious and societal pressure. In which case, yea, in a lot of those places women are abused, and more importantly, are forced to marry that way... but this is America. If a woman doesn't want to be in that kind of relationship there's plenty of men who only want one wife. If a woman chooses a polygamist lifestyle, who are we to be like nah cause you'll be abused. For real?

Im not out here telling women dont be in a polygamist relationship because you may be abused.

but our we to ignore how women are often abused in these situations? are we out here ignoring how abuse is heavily prevalent in family dynamics whether it be monogamous or polygamous?

 

[Golden]

I think people are looking at this from a sexual standpoint and needs based standpoint.
But when you legalizing something it affects society in a whole.

How will polygamy affect society? Honestly...

But what about polyandry? If plural marriages are legalized as a whole, I still don't believe the rates will go up much because most people identify as monogamous.

I do agree it'll have different implications if it's only legal for men to have more than 1 wife, even if mostly for the mssg it sends.

 

[Knock_Twice]

I think people are looking at this from a sexual standpoint and needs based standpoint.
But when you legalizing something it affects society in a whole.

How will polygamy affect society? Honestly...

Help raise the kids...stronger family structure..more traits, skills can be brought to the table from each parent. It's not about sex more so, to me it's about strengthening a strong foundation for your family.

I'm speaking on how it would help the black community...

"It takes a child to raise a village"

 

[FakeOhMars]

In societies where polygamy is legalized you often find, like I said before, a certain demographic of men hoarding all the women and men of lesser wealth and status scrambling to find women. The systematic pressures in those societies are so extensive. Some men are driven off of the ranch or commune/ plurual house if they cannot find a wife. They are socially excluded. You also find that teenage boys are pressured to marry younger and younger. This calls men to be more possessive of women which falls into the category of control and abuse.

Do you think this benefits society? don't you think America has enough issues as is?

I can see this in a society where
1) Marriage is based primarily on wealth and/or family status
2) Polygamy is the prominent form of relationship

Neither of which is true in a modern society like america. Im not saying we should force all men to double up, but it should be legally allowable if all parties want it

 

[Golden]

Help raise the kids...stronger family structure..more traits, skills can be brought to the table from each parent. It's not about sex more so, to me it's about strengthening a strong foundation for your family.

I'm speaking on how it would help the black community...

"It takes a child to raise a village"

Disagree on this lol, u can be a village without being married to each other.

still think it should all be legal tho.

 

[Golden]

Im not out here telling women dont be in a polygamist lifestyle because you may be abused.

but our we to ignore how women are often abused in these situations? are we out here ignoring how abuse is heavily prevalent in family dynamics whether it be monogamous or polygamous?

Polygamy is common in Islam and Muslim countries, as well as a few African cultures with diff faiths.

In nearly all those contexts, the polygamous marriages we talkin about don't even have state intervention. Islamic marriages ain't done at the courthouse, it's just a priest equivalent readin scripture or some shit n a feast. These are social marriages, not civil/legal ones.

Their prevalence there isn't because of the law bein cool with it but because of religion n culture.

 

[Race Jones]

Nah sis, I been all over n it's the brokest men I'll see with 2 wives often times. The upper n middle class tend to be well educated, often in western institutions. They ain't doin it like that.

U can't compare America to developing countries with diff cultures like that. We have and will have our own issues but u r not comparing apples with apples.

I cant deal with American exceptionalism and narcissism.
America ain't that great sis and I think you have a high moral idea of America.
The country that imprisons half its population has not moral regard.
This country.... at this very moment is throwing children into detention centers...this country has no moral regard.

America is educated but we lack common sense and decency.

So I cant even begin to think about what would happen if polygamy was made legal in this country.
If women were bartered and traded like baseball cards
Nah

 

[Race Jones]

Polygamy is common in Islam and Muslim countries, as well as a few African cultures with diff faiths.

In nearly all those contexts, the polygamous marriages we talkin about don't even have state intervention. Islamic marriages ain't done at the courthouse, it's just a priest equivalent readin scripture or some shit n a feast. These are social marriages, not civil/legal ones.

Their prevalence there isn't because of the law bein cool with it but because of religion n culture.

I know where polygamy is common. Im understanding of this.
The question was should polygamy be legalized. I said no.
and for good reasons.

 

[Golden]

I cant deal with American exceptionalism and narcissism.
America ain't that great sis and I think you have a high moral idea of America.
The country that imprisons half its population has not moral regard.
This country.... at this very moment is throwing children into detention centers...this country has no moral regard.

America is educated but we lack common sense and decency.

So I cant even begin to think about what would happen if polygamy was made legal in this country.
If women were bartered and traded like baseball cards
Nah

I may be American but Im a first generation immigrant n I've lived/traveled all over - including places where polygamy ain't uncommon. I ain't speaking from cultural ignorance n nationalism ain't in me. I'm loyal to no country.

I don't disagree with ur post sis, but u cldnt wrong in this case b lol

 

[Goldie]

There's been studies in those muslim countries where polygamy is common, which found that polygamy causes competition and unequal distribution of the works in household among co-wives. In addition, polygamy generates acrimony among the children and co-wives. It is shown that polygamy has a close link with mental illness between the children and co-wives as well.

 

[Golden]

I know where polygamy is common. Im understanding of this.
The question was should polygamy be legalized. I said no.
and for good reasons.

i know u know where it's common, I'm just saying it's not even marriages in a legal capacity over there. They're not civil marriages. N those social marriages r already happening stateside too. Legalizing it isn't the ingredient that's the issue IMO. I understand ur opinion too tho

There's been studies in those muslim countries where polygamy is common, which found that polygamy causes competition and unequal distribution of the works in household among co-wives. In addition, polygamy generates acrimony among the children and co-wives. It is shown that polygamy has a close link with mental illness between the children and co-wives as well.

Is ur thread about solely legalizing polygamy or plural marriages as a whole? Cuz if it's polygamy only, my answer changes.

 

[Goldie]

Other than the church aspect is there really a difference between plural marriages and polygamy?