Golden
Administrator
This is a spinoff from a discussion about curving niggas. Strangers approaching happens more to women so that's prolly y u think its extreme lol.But your scenario is extreme af, chicks aint out here saying "u wanna be together" to strangers lol
If it's someone you work with but don't really know and they make an advance at u, then saying let's slow down and be friends and see where it goes makes perfect sense.
offering every dude that hollers ur friendship sounded unrealistic, cuz niggas will holler at women they've never met before.
If a guy I already consider a friend shoots his shot, I let him know that I aint offering that now or ever n they can take my friendship or leave it. @ that point, if they r waiting then that's on them. I try to cut em off if I think they have no interest in being friends any longer.Tellin them you just wanna be friends only gives that person hope. A foot in the the door in hopes that you change their mind.
They may stick around, but all they're doing is waiting. Waiting for another opportunity to shoot their shot again.
if it's a stranger, there's no indication we'd be compatible as friends so they can handle a direct no.