You need evidence. If you've been raped, don't sit there waiting 20-30 years to come forward, go THAT DAY!!! It makes absolutely no sense that these broads coming out with shit 20-30 years after the fact with an accusation that you can't even defend against other than to say you didn't do it. Report it when it happens and there may be fresh evidence to use against the perp which helps to secure a conviction.
It CAN and HAS been different. Like any other crime, rape has evidence that a crime occurred. That's why the police have rape kits; to collect evidence that the crime actually happened.
What makes rape problematic it that it's definition keeps changing to include things like regret, drunk sex, etc. The idea that a woman can consider herself a rape victim because weeks, months, years, or decades later she regrets the encounter is a HUGE problem. Rape is forced or coerced sexual contact or intercourse, nothing more. Regret, drunk sex, and shit like that don't belong in that because it absolves women of piss poor judgment and creates perpetual victimhood where they begin to believe anything that ever happens to them is never their fault.
As for the bolded/italic/underlined: You know good and goddamned well that every single man accused of sexual misconduct is seen as guilty in the court of public opinion. That's why all these muhfuckas end up losing their jobs! There's ZERO evidence against any of them other than word of mouth and yet they end up losing everything because the company doesn't want the bad publicity attached to him, so get rid of his ass even when it's his own company.