PlantainChips
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What did you do?
You said y'all been together 8 years, what you waiting on?Regularly. Smh.
You said y'all been together 8 years, what you waiting on?
Regularly. Smh.
What are your feelings on marriage? And why would you pursue a woman who wants marriage and you know you don't?...my feelings about marriage
Many of the same benefits that you get with marriage minus the opt out clausesWtf the point in being together that long with no marriage?
What are your feelings on marriage? And why would you pursue a woman who wants marriage and you know you don't?
Wtf the point in being together that long with no marriage?
Does your girl want to get married?My view on marriage has evolved over the years.
All growing up...marriage was told as something you NEEDED to do. But the older I got, I began to realize that wasn't the case.
You NEED to eat to live.
You NEED water to live.
You NEED air to breathe.
You don't need marriage to sustain your life. I never knocked other folks for gettin married. I just have an issue when those same folks try to push that on me. As if it's some kinda club I NEED to join.
I mean there was a point where I wanted it. But b/c family & friends kept bringing it up constantly...over & over again like an obsession...it soured my feelings.
Does your girl want to get married?
I see. So the pressure is coming from other people and not your lady...Of course. But we've also had discussions expressing my feelings about it. Again I don't have an issue with it. It's just that w/n our relationship...its the "obsession" of our family and friends (mostly on her side) tellingusme I NEED to do it.
And I only call it an "obsession" b/c it was non-stop with them.
I see. So the pressure is coming from other people and not your lady...
If they give you an ultimatum, that should be a red flag.....Yeah. I've been given a deadline... I'll consider it.
Yeah. If we are not ready, then we are not ready.If they give you an ultimatum, that should be a red flag.....
My wife didn't do no shit like that.
Well...her too. Lol! This is where the whole "being part of the club" comes in. B/c she see how a couplenof our friends are married. Been part of their wedding. So i know she wanna go thru that whole process.
So when tbey bring up how we need to get married, either she joins in with them...or...leave me hangin to face the barrage of their arrows comin at me like...
If they give you an ultimatum, that should be a red flag.....
My wife didn't do no shit like that.