Does A Person's Past Matter?

[Golden]

she would be cancelled over just 1 sex tape if it wasnt a longterm relationship,.

3 tapes......nah.

she makes bad decisions

one was her high school boyfriend of one year who filmed their first time and gave it to his friends in exchange for beer
the other was her college boyfriend of 3 years who got his laptop hacked by his roommate
the third was the long term boyfriend just before you, and you stumbled upon the tape on an old laptop of hers

then what?

 

[DOS_patos]

I say that to say should your significant other's past numbers be of concern ? If your girl is bad and cool af would you care who she been with ? What's your limit for how many sex partners she been with and how much is too much ?

if she bad then thats more of a reason she should be more choosy cause dick is constantly being offered to her.

but if she gives it to anyone who bought her three empanadas.....i cant deal with that.

i need a woman whos pussy is like a truffle......only a few trained niggas can get to it

 

[DOS_patos]

one was her high school boyfriend of one year who filmed their first time and gave it to his friends in exchange for beer
the other was her college boyfriend of 3 years who got his laptop hacked by his roommate
the third was the long term boyfriend just before you, and you stumbled upon the tape on an old laptop of hers

then what?

sextape in highschool bad
college dude she might get by on.
but the thrid tape is just as bad as the first.....

she clipped for 1 and 3

 

[DOS_patos]

at 3 tapes she should be getting paid....an since she doing it for free......she a hoe

 

[DOS_patos]

and she a vain freak

 

[Goldie]

That means she doesn't learn from her mistakes and like Dos said she has terrible decision making skills.

 

[Golden]

That means she doesn't learn from her mistakes and like Dos said she has terrible decision making skills.

maybe that chick just wanna be filmed!

The problem with this logic is the fundamental idea that women think if it's a "relationship" then you not a hoe. That says more about her character. A sextape means you a pornstar. A nigga might smash but a ring you won't get FOH.

Women want the power of men, perks of being women and the responsibility of neither. At some point you have to be accountable and take ownership for what and who you are. Not create these falsehoods and technicalities to hide behind. One tape is never just one. Those are the consequences if you gonna be a yamp.

but that logic wasn't proposed by a woman, hence the scenario I gave

she would be cancelled over just 1 sex tape if it wasnt a longterm relationship,.

a distinction is clearly and frequently made that it's different if it's within the bounds of a relationship.

I've never seen that distinction solely or even mostly made by women, so it'd be interesting if you'd expound on that.

 

[DOS_patos]

The problem with this logic is the fundamental idea that women think if it's a "relationship" then you not a hoe. That says more about her character. A sextape means you a pornstar. A nigga might smash but a ring you won't get FOH.

Women want the power of men, perks of being women and the responsibility of neither. At some point you have to be accountable and take ownership for what and who you are. Not create these falsehoods and technicalities to hide behind. One tape is never just one. Those are the consequences if you gonna be a yamp.

this shit is fire

 

[Golden]

Doesn't matter who it was proposed by. At some point you have to take ownership and be accountable for your actions. A yamp is a yamp ain't no technicalities around it. Blac Chyna was in a relationship too, don't mean she wasn't a yamp and a gold digger.

that's cool and all but the hoe discussion is repetitive so I'm not particularly interested in that. when a topic is made monthly, it gets boring. I'm sure you can understand.

The problem with this logic is the fundamental idea that women think if it's a "relationship" then you not a hoe.

can you unpack this? that's the interesting part.

 

[DOS_patos]

maybe that chick just wanna be filmed!


but that logic wasn't proposed by a woman, hence the scenario I gave

a distinction is clearly and frequently made that it's different if it's within the bounds of a relationship.

I've never seen that distinction solely or even mostly made by women, so it'd be interesting if you'd expound on that.

well the reason i would say college can get her by ...is because most women that get to college lose their minds. the freedom most of them never had they dont know how to handle....so if she was in a long term relationship.....she just coming into her own as a adult..i can let it slide. i have to be honest and realistic. after three years...their has to had been a form of trust and comfort. i cant be too rigid.

 

[Golden]

well the reason i would say college can get her by ...is because most women that get to college lose their minds. the freedom most of them never had they dont know how to handle....so if she was in a long term relationship.....she just coming into her own as a adult..i can let it slide. i have to be honest and realistic. after three years...their has to had been a form of trust and comfort. i cant be too rigid.

if somebody uses college as an excuse, that tells me they let the trope of wild college days dictate their actions. college's purpose is education. if you're gonna make a loophole for that, you may as well just say "between the ages of 18 and 22, she gets a pass". I'm guessing this wouldn't apply to grad school or people who are getting their bachelors later in life? therefore, it's a youth clause.

 

[Golden]

You're hiding behind titles to justify something you subconsciously believe is wrong because you're fearful of what other people will think and your future opportunities with other men. If that's the case you need to take ownership for that, and if you ashamed of it stop doing it. In this case it is black or white. The only grey area is the person not willing to face the truth.

are you speaking of a "you" hypothetically or putting words into my mouth? If it's the latter, back up where I shared my view with quotes. I only ever participated in this discussion with fictitious scenarios so I'd love to know.

 

[Golden]

Whoever the shoe fits. I don't care who said or started it.

Disappointing. one interesting (sentence within a) post and I thought there was going to be something vaguely thought provoking. Instead, just the same old discussion that can be found anywhere without any particularly original points. meh, just shows I need to manage discussion expectations on here now that the atmosphere has changed.

 

[Meeks]

Eh, a person's past matters depending on what it is. Like, do what you do but just make sure your health is A1 and leave that shit in the past.
If a dude tells me he was whooping on exes and shit, that's a done deal. There's no excuse, period.
If he was out in those SKREETS slanging dope, do you boo that's your past.
As long as his jail time wasn't for kidnapping, rape, anything to do with harming a minor and things of that nature cool.

 

[DOS_patos]

if somebody uses college as an excuse, that tells me they let the trope of wild college days dictate their actions. college's purpose is education. if you're gonna make a loophole for that, you may as well just say "between the ages of 18 and 22, she gets a pass". I'm guessing this wouldn't apply to grad school or people who are getting their bachelors later in life? therefore, it's a youth clause.

nah.....people lose their mind with new freedoms. same with recently divorced people.....its not a loophole....but i would understand and get it.

 

[Golden]

nah.....people lose their mind with new freedoms. same with recently divorced people.....its not a loophole....but i would understand and get it.

is college any more a new freedom than an 18/19 year old getting a job and moving out? college at a base level isn't too different from either high school or grad school. Classes, social events, etc. It's living independently that's the main difference. do they not know how to live alone without fucking lots of people?

college also doesn't offer many freedoms. I only lived in dorms for a few weeks but while I was there, there were people getting their dorms routinely checked. legal adults having room checks. also, in many freshman dorms people are literally sharing rooms with their peers. that's not new freedom, it's just a different setting. they'd have more freedom if they lived off campus and weren't being semi-parented by college.

it's cool that you understand it. just from my POV it's a strange area to have leeway on, if you're gonna be otherwise strict

 

[Golden]

Because you're looking for confirmation of your own already pre-established narrative.

Quote my narrative. Otherwise, speculation.

 

[Golden]

I think you want to hear what you want to hear and read that's why I said that. Otherwise I think your becoming too invested in this. I'm gonna step away from this thread now and tend to my errands.

There's no investment. I'm on a forum because I like discussion. Discussions without original content bore me. It's cool though, pretty evident we won't gain anything from interaction with one another. Best of luck with those errands!

 

[SeaSnake]

Not as much as it used too. Im 30 by now everybody done some shit.

 

[AP3.0]

who still living in glass houses?

yup

still applies