Ok. Cool, I think we're on the same page with that. So my question is with these being over simplified generalities, at what point is someone transgender? I think we agree either sex can do pretty much whatever they want without being a different gender. So what's the tipping point from being a man that's enjoying something traditionally feminine, to being a woman?
Also, is gender really a self-identification thing? If it's based on your behavior within a society, then your behaviors should identify your gender, right? Kind of like if someone takes a personality test. If all your answers say you're not sympathetic, then you won't be called sympathetic. You saying that you are, won't matter if your actions don't support it.
An example with that is, what if a man transitions to a woman. If they act still act like a masculine man (as far as hire society views it), would we still refer to them as a woman? By definition, I'd think no, but that'd be denying them their pronouns.
I guess this is just a little more in-depth look at what does it mean to "feel like a man/woman?". And is that really what gender is?