The man's at fault because he got more to lose.
You and a women both get fucked up. Who is more likely to get prosecuted and charged with rape, you or the woman? The police might laugh at you, "Sir, that sounds like a good time to me. But we can ask her a few questions."
She get a rape kit, you got your DNA in her and that's it for you.
I don't touch intoxicated women. Shit, I even ask for consent during sex just to make sure. I don't argue with women.
Why?
Because all she has to do is dial 911 and say,
"Big black man threatened me."
"Big black man raped me."
I don't give a fuck how long we known each other, how long we been fucking, if we were married, if she was the mother of my kids.
I don't need the headache. A woman can change her mind at the drop of a hat and it's all over for a man. Men don't have that power.