mryounggun
OG
I'm nearing the end of my mental capacity to continue engaging about this particular topic. I got maybe a few more posts in me until I'm completely exhausted.
I'll use one of my remaining posts to just say this and as always, take from it what you will.
If you are a man in a non healthy Co parenting situation and have exhausted all practical and rational avenues to try and have a healthy co parenting relationship with the mother, take matters into your own hands. Long gone are the days of dad working all day just to bring home the bacon while the wife stays home with the kids.
You have rights my brother. Educate yourself. Don't be afraid to get the courts involved. They do not just automatically give custody to the mom anymore. That might have been true at one point and I'm sure even then you had to be a dog ass nigga to not have no rights as a parent but that aside. FIGHT, FIGHT, AND FIGHT for the right to have an equal say in your child's life.
That child is going to benefit from having both parents regardless of what kinda time the mom might be on. Don't let her dictate your custody. If you want week to week, fight for that shit. If your situation doesn't allow for you have week to week, come up with something that will ensure you get adequate time with your child.
My two pennies
Couldn't agree with this shit more. I've always said that, outside of one of them disappearing and me literally not knowing where they are located, there ain't a gotdamn thing either if my kid's moms could do to keep me away from them. Nothing. At all. Fuck outta here.
With my son's mom, we've never had a conversation about court. Never had to. My daughter's mom be on her bullshit sometimes because she is used to bullshit with her ex husband and really has no idea how to co-parent. She is just recently realizing that the fact that she is our baby's mother isn't any more important or vital than the fact that I'm her father. I recently had to tell her verbatim 'You have as much control over this situation as I allow you to believe you have. And if you're half as smart as I think you are...you know that already. So cut the bullshit. I'll be there Wednesday to pick the baby up. I'll let you know when I'm on the way.'.
The end.