Am I the a$$hole: Refusing to buy my finance an engagement ring
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DOS_patos
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I learned that alot of people don't talk about things before marriage....shit some people don't know what to talk about.
Or dont want to because they know it'll end the relationship
In the words of @Duwop, some ppl like being lied to....
Playmaker88
G Money is Cash
Dont be alot of people marry people who they "love" and they dont even know them if your love doesnt include a partnership / meeting of the minds then... it is just a mutual arrangement.. and deal go bad..
mryounggun
OG
Yep. You're the asshole.
Golan
🥀
He has a point. The same way he assumed that she would change her name, she assumed he would be the one buying the rings, lol. They should have talked about this before hand.
Edit: The twitter responses are so disheartening.
Women: "Men should show their feelings more."
*Man shows feelings*
Women: "Look at this little bitch boy in his feelings, y'all. Men amirite?"
Edit: The twitter responses are so disheartening.
Women: "Men should show their feelings more."
*Man shows feelings*
Women: "Look at this little bitch boy in his feelings, y'all. Men amirite?"
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I was like this at one point until I decided it was the silliest hill to die on
Your last name lives through your offspring, not your spouse
Qawshun
ChiefNem
Taking on the name is apart of the whole ordeal right. You're supposed to be one under one banner right ? But either way it's a business deal that has men at a woman's mercy imo
Anyone siding with this chick is delusional. Marriage tradition involves the woman taking the man's last name and the man presenting an engagement ring. This new movement wants new school and old school (only their way). You don't want my last name? Cool. That's old tradition. By the way, engagement rings are old tradition as well. Anyone disagreeing is a simp.
All traditions will eventually be challenged.
They clearly have communication issues. Appealing to the world imo seals that shit. Cuz once you take a relationship question of this gravity to social media... Stick a fork in the relationship.
The solution to this rests in two people.... Even homie sister is one person too many.
If the two of them can't come to an agreement and two things this important in a potential marriage.... Just get a few more good fucks and keep it moving. Y'all ain't moving in the same direction, and the gap will only get wider the more y'all go in separate directions. ??
They clearly have communication issues. Appealing to the world imo seals that shit. Cuz once you take a relationship question of this gravity to social media... Stick a fork in the relationship.
The solution to this rests in two people.... Even homie sister is one person too many.
If the two of them can't come to an agreement and two things this important in a potential marriage.... Just get a few more good fucks and keep it moving. Y'all ain't moving in the same direction, and the gap will only get wider the more y'all go in separate directions. ??
BrotherZ
Active Member
its petty but its his choice. All he has to do is admit how he feel and they can just deal with it.
I'm not rich, my wife ain't perfect and our relationship wasn't ideal but I had a ring when I popped the question. Now if she insisted on a certain carat count or not taking my last name then I wouldn't even have bothered with a ring but I knew what I was getting into before I popped the question.
I'm not rich, my wife ain't perfect and our relationship wasn't ideal but I had a ring when I popped the question. Now if she insisted on a certain carat count or not taking my last name then I wouldn't even have bothered with a ring but I knew what I was getting into before I popped the question.
You would be shocked at the things people don't talk about before marriage
Blue_London
OG
Marriage traditions are out dated and need to modernised
RetroLDN
Active Member
If she's not willing to take the man's last name or wants a double-barrelled name, to me, that's a red flag.
Then again getting married out of love and signing a marriage certificate is adding old traditions with a 19th century practice. I'm never doing both, unless I see a clear and obvious financial gain.
In this society, a marriage is simply a merger of two companies... 'til death do us part' clearly a fallacy, when all that's needed for a divorce approval is to write 'irreconcilable differences'
A divorce is a dissolution of a corporation and asset division between two companies... That's why the government's approval is required to get divorced, similar to starting and dissolving an actual company.
Then again getting married out of love and signing a marriage certificate is adding old traditions with a 19th century practice. I'm never doing both, unless I see a clear and obvious financial gain.
In this society, a marriage is simply a merger of two companies... 'til death do us part' clearly a fallacy, when all that's needed for a divorce approval is to write 'irreconcilable differences'
A divorce is a dissolution of a corporation and asset division between two companies... That's why the government's approval is required to get divorced, similar to starting and dissolving an actual company.