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OPINION Fair or Foul: Boyfriend gets honest about his s/o weight...

Shotta said:
Chubby and fat is the same thing to some women. She probably was feeling down and needed him to say something positive.
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King Du said:
lol......this why chicks be having trust issues.....
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Bruh you know your wife so you know when she needs comforting and you know when to be blunt. If that question was it the blue then you know she was looking for comfort.
 
Shotta said:
Bruh you know your wife so you know when she needs comforting and you know when to be blunt. If that question was it the blue then you know she was looking for comfort.
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while this is true.....

self image is not something to bullshit on......i ain't gonna lie or protect your feelings on something like that.....you need the truth.... and if it's something you're sensitive about you need it to sting...

knowing me, knowing my wife, if she asks me some shit like that she's expecting me to be blunt, cuz that bluntness might spark motivation....

the mistake buttering a chick up on something like this is you give the impression like it's not a big deal, you don't really care...

being honest is exactly that. no mixed messages

if i had to remove the sarcasm...i would say

"yes you are getting bigger, if you wanna take control of it we can work together, cuz i could benefit from losing weight as but i have noticed a difference"
 
Lea said:
I guess there's always a better way to say things but I'm drawing a blank at what he could've said differently to make her ok with his response. Any suggestions?
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you right, she probably would have reacted dumb to anything judging by that

personally, I be like "baby, you aint little but I love/want you as you are.......we can hit the gym or get some tacos its on you"

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at the same time I flirt all the time and squeeze and pinch on my favorite chubby parts and shit.....she knows

if he really been putting her off and seeming uninterested she dont how to take that
 
Lea said:
You don't his response was positive while also being honest?
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His delivery was off. Some people want feedback but don't really want feedback. I'm a gym rat and I see ppl have a hard time getting their house in the gym but they spouse would eventually come with with someone else.
People respond differently.
 
i wouldn't bring it up on my own unless it was getting ridiculous...

like if she picked up like 50+ pounds and i could tell it was affecting her i'd say something..... but i would use a soft touch there because i would be the one bringing it up...

but if she brought it up.....100% honesty
 
Playmaker88 said:
... and she is gonna go full fat bet money and blame her weak sense of self on someone else
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naw, if imma be judgmental, this will be the kinda chick that loses like 40 pounds then claim nobody wanted her when she was thick, and her ex-man looking like

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on a side note,

everytime my wife try to lose weight i start cooking food to fatten her up again.......

she get slim she may be too bad for me to keep track of....

i don't wanna be that jealous nigga outside her job in a robe.....but that's what i see it coming to

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she be wanting egg whites for breakfast...

i put the whole egg in that motherfucker.....extra cheese, extra ham, extra everything.....4 egg omelettes.... you be iight



foh with that California skinny shit
 
Not sure what they were talking about before the "Am I Fat" question but that was a wild response from her. Her saying he doesn't compliment her anymore makes it seems like she had a feeling something was off and his response confirmed it. At least to her, it did. The weight gain might not be the reason he hasn't, her flying off the handle and blowing up might be tho.
 
I see @Shotta one of the 'you're whatever you wanna be my love' type of niggas

If I think she fat, then I'm a say yup. What's the worst that can happen?

I think also women don't believe men when they say they like their 'imperfections' so this was just a way to open the door to her room of insecurities. He may love chubby women for all we know
 
Chicity said:
I see @Shotta one of the 'you're whatever you wanna be my love' type of niggas

If I think she fat, then I'm a say yup. What's the worst that can happen?

I think also women don't believe men when they say they like their 'imperfections' so this was just a way to open the door to her room of insecurities. He may love chubby women for all we know
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nah, I just would of used better context. Dude said she is not fat, but you are getting chubby. he should of left out the chubby part and encouraged her to work on her body goals.

you niggaz are extremist
 
Shotta said:
nah, I just would of used better context. Dude said she is not fat, but you are getting chubby. he should of left out the chubby part and encouraged her to work on her body goals.

you niggaz are extremist
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What y'all in, a blind relationship? She knows what her body look like. To me this was a back door into other issues ie him not flirting with her while she was drunk

Most I could have said is 'you fat but I like it *shrugs*'
 
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