hmmm I think a lot of ppl victim blame or jump to discussing what the victim/survivor should have done differently because they belive in the idea that people deserve whatever outcome/consquences they are face with on some “everything happens for a reason” type shit
whereas, I dont believe a lot of the time ppl deserve what happens to them.
I read somewhere that victim blaming was a common theme for americans because the “American Dream” is heavily instilled in us, this idea that all of us are in control of our own destinies, that it makes it hard for us to grapple with the fact that alot of the times bad things DO happen to good ppl.
That unforseeable things happen to ppl and more often than not, it was out of their control
so to answer your question (lol) I guess as a coping mechanism or even out of fear we try to hold victims responsible for their “misfortune” to avoid admitting that something just as unthinkable could happen to us, even if we seemingly did everything “right.”
I think we blame victims so that we can continue to feel safe and secure in a world that we all know to be very “unpredictable.”
Now, if someone is engaging in risky behaviors and is aware of the consquences that can occur, thats something totally different—-
But a young girl being gunned down on the sidewalk over a refund check is just a careless act of violence and we should more or so rush to empathize with her and not do the whole “wow thats sad but if she only”
I mean thats the same thing white folks do when we are gunned down by cops lol textbook the same exact thing.
Its the lack of empathy for her that bothered me in APs and Elzos responses
and I have to wonder if yall are socialized to not emapthize with her right away because shes a Black girl or because the ppl who killed her are Black
Im not being accusatory just wondering...
